Hay chick great lifting!! what is you meet/gym best and weight class?
Make sure you are warming up real good before these work out and a little after. I have several small injuries and there are days I can not even get under the squat bar. I stretch, take many warm up sets, use sports creams and such and sometimes that is still not good enough, it just takes time to over come these minor set backs.
If you are willing to come out to California, i will be your new workout partner, but if that is to much of a comute, then have you tried asking the person who works in the gym if they are willing to help with heavy handoffs? This is what I usually have to do, i myself have nto ben able to find a steady partner at my local gym. As far as the bench shirt that is a hard one. My team mates all live a few hours away from me so I only get to work out with them 2-3 weekends a month. So I feel your misery!!!
JIMM