how to cope

[future1]

nowork, sorry no hear abt what happened. for me if she cheayed then at least i will understand but this girl is how can i say it " the one". i want to get training but my gym is far away and i need to drive. i have not even gone to work cause i cnt handle driving anymore. What i am scared is with g/f leaving with this i might just do something stupid by being behid the wheel.

 

[SCK]

hi everyone,

i a week ago i was involved in a car accident and lost my best friend. the only that kept me straight was my g/f yesterday she broke up with me.She was really someone special to me and we were serious abt each other. Now things are really going from bad to worse and dunno what to do. I do not have the heart to go back training or eating or nothing at all. I was in the middle of a cycle of sust and boldenone 5th week when this happened. I was soo upset that i threw all my gears in the rubbish.
I saw a councellor but it is not helping. would you have any suggestion on to cope with this or try to get back my girl? i have not called her since then

future1,

If your g/f was so understanding and caring of you why did she exactly leave you? Even moreso why the heck has it(the breakup) happened just after the accident?

Are the two events somehow interwoven I'm wondering?

Yeah, talk to her. Find out what's going on in her mind and if she is "the one" as you put it plus understanding as well as caring then she ought to be unconditionally doing her part now especially when you need her the most.

I am not a strong supporter of "the one" soulmate, but I won't argue about it either.

It seems to me that she gave up the relationship from this event, this overloaded mess (accident + death + loss + depression + anxiety etc)

You need to find out if love was lost as a result of this mess, whether or not that she was basically unable to cope with so many awful events happening OR the relationship didn't go so well prior to the accident.
You need to know this not just from your perception, but from her perception too bro.

As for the gym, your cycle and how driving to the gym has become problematic, I suggest just deal with the mental aspect of you and your loved ones first before hitting the gym. I think the psyche is currently needing more attention than the physical aspects of yourself, so get through this phase first.
A body you desire will come later on with work and dedication, but just not now.

"Eveything reminds me of her. my job, my car, everything"
This last bit touched me also.

I'll try to be here if you need more support, just shout for me.

 

[liquidmuscle]

GOD does not give us what we cannot handle, take a deep breath and take it a day at a time

 

[future1]

How To Cope

thanks for your support. i cnt call her and bear the thought of her saying why im still calling her. i really treated her well. i mean she lives 200 miles away from me next to her uni and i used to drive down every week just to spend time with her. if she was upset i will there within 2 hrs. i mean she like my baby not just my g/f. I was trying to cope with the death but this break up just shattered me.

 

[gonelifting]

Talk to her as friends if she`ll do that, since she understands you and the trougbles you`re going through. That`s maybe all you need right now. Ask her. If she was as good/understanding as you say, she`l do it and listen to you for a little while.

Also, people get a little depressed going of gear to begin with, you have done that (dropped the gear) at the worst possible time IMO. Anyway, good luck with it. It WILL get better.

 

[slickdadd]

Why in the hell did she break up with you a week after you lost your best friend? What a heartless piece of shit. If that is true I would never talk to her again. That is the exact opposite of a caring, loving person. To hell with her.

 

[glennds]

i a week ago i was involved in a car accident and lost my best friend. the only that kept me straight was my g/f yesterday she broke up with me.

did you have something to do with his death, unintentionally of course? sorry to be so blunt but reread your post and couldn't help but wonder. did you somehow cause the accident? was there alcohol involved? your story is sad but it seems there is more you have not told us.

 

[future1]

that night of the accident, i was not supposed to go out and i dragged him along with me. He took his car instead of mine and we went out. I had a couple of drinks so i suggested him to drive as he didnt drink. I feel so responsible for his death. If i didnt call him that night he wuld still be alive, if i drove he may be a live. The worst thing is I always drive the car but this time cause alcohol i puished him to drive

 

[future1]

the thing is she has a lot of friends here since she grew up in this country whereas i havve only been here for 2 yrs and am working so socialising is very hard. I feel really lonely.

 

[DIVISION]

hi everyone,

i a week ago i was involved in a car accident and lost my best friend. the only that kept me straight was my g/f yesterday she broke up with me.She was really someone special to me and we were serious abt each other. Now things are really going from bad to worse and dunno what to do. I do not have the heart to go back training or eating or nothing at all. I was in the middle of a cycle of sust and boldenone 5th week when this happened. I was soo upset that i threw all my gears in the rubbish.
I saw a councellor but it is not helping. would you have any suggestion on to cope with this or try to get back my girl? i have not called her since then

I'm sorry about your troubles, bro. First of all, why did she break up with you so suddenly after the tragedy? What is her reason? Secondly, you need to get your ass back in the gym, it will help you cope with the pain. Use the weight as a motivation to keep going; I don't think you should have stopped your cycle. You threw away the Sustanon and Boldnenone? Do you have the money to get any more?

The main thing, bro is that you need to keep your workouts up, don't let this tragedy break you, my man. You need to heal yourself before you should even consider getting back with your GF. Why did she break up with you?

DIV