Dating question: just found out something about a girl I just met...

[-SD-]

Jettison her.

 

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She was sexually assaulted a couple weeks ago. Currently in the process of identifying and (hopefully) prosecuting her attacker.

Personally I am flattered she confided in me after only a few dates (and multiple, multiple phone calls). She apologized for being stand offish - at first only hinting at some underlying cause (I figured she had a boyfriend on the way out or an asshole of an ex). None the less, her actions in dealing with this whole thing have been very brave.

I am going to continue to persue her in a dating manner - but obviously reign in some of my more sexual overtures for a while.

Anyone else ever have to deal with something like this? Interested to hear your thoughts.

I agree with kind of holding of on sexual overtures. Let her know that you are obviously intrested in her, but let her make the first move if it gets into a sexual situation. Let her have control. Since she was violated by some guy, she had no control at all. It would be very good and very respectful to give this lady the control back that some guy took from her when he violated her.