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Dating question: just found out something about a girl I just met...
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canadianhitman
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Another vote for 'abort' here. Girls with emotional baggage (and this is HUGE!!!) make for difficult relationships...
{women, before you attack me, I'll say guys with a lot of emotional baggage are just as bad...if not worse}
{women, before you attack me, I'll say guys with a lot of emotional baggage are just as bad...if not worse}
thefantom1
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EnderJE said:
How true..how very true..... or if she only wants to do anal... most likely a He/She... if thats the case.... find Captain~Insano..................
scriptfactory
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Don't mess around with her!!!
I used to talk with a girl named Angela. After a couple 'dates' at the club, LMAO, I finally got her to my room. She told me she is cautious because she had just been 'sexually assaulted'.
Editor's Note: Notice the quotes.
Anyways, I said I would be gentle (Haha!) and proceeded to get her naked. At this point she was willing. All of a sudden she started crying and I was like, WTF! Let me help you back in those clothes. The she started crying harder because I didn't want to have sex with her. She showed me her wrists and only then did I notice all of the slashes.
Whoa.
I ended up talking with one of her girlfriends (who is fine as hell and I started dating a few days later) and she said that Angela was a fucking liar and she was never raped but she says that when she is scared to have sex with someone. <-- Read this last statement carefully. It is key to your survival.
Long story short, you have two options:
a. That chick you are trying to talk to is probably nuttier than a fruitcake and you should steer clear.
b. If she is fine and/or you haven't had sex in a long time you will not listen to anyone's advice and have sex with her anyways. If you do use protection or do her in the butt.
Good luck and God speed.
I used to talk with a girl named Angela. After a couple 'dates' at the club, LMAO, I finally got her to my room. She told me she is cautious because she had just been 'sexually assaulted'.
Editor's Note: Notice the quotes.
Anyways, I said I would be gentle (Haha!) and proceeded to get her naked. At this point she was willing. All of a sudden she started crying and I was like, WTF! Let me help you back in those clothes. The she started crying harder because I didn't want to have sex with her. She showed me her wrists and only then did I notice all of the slashes.
Whoa.
I ended up talking with one of her girlfriends (who is fine as hell and I started dating a few days later) and she said that Angela was a fucking liar and she was never raped but she says that when she is scared to have sex with someone. <-- Read this last statement carefully. It is key to your survival.
Long story short, you have two options:
a. That chick you are trying to talk to is probably nuttier than a fruitcake and you should steer clear.
b. If she is fine and/or you haven't had sex in a long time you will not listen to anyone's advice and have sex with her anyways. If you do use protection or do her in the butt.
Good luck and God speed.
Forge
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DAMN, some harsh people in here.
I know two women that have been raped, both of them REALLY were raped, and both got over it in time. Some women, usually confident and realistic women with good heads on their shoulders, can deal with the trauma and seperate the bad from the good. If she confided in you, that may mean she trusts you and is dealing with it well.
Women who are rape victims should not be automatically thought of as "damaged goods" to be avoided, talk to her about it and decide for yourself if she is honest or just trouble. Honestly, the amount of guys in here who said "abort" really bothers me, give her a fucking chance for God's sake...
I know two women that have been raped, both of them REALLY were raped, and both got over it in time. Some women, usually confident and realistic women with good heads on their shoulders, can deal with the trauma and seperate the bad from the good. If she confided in you, that may mean she trusts you and is dealing with it well.
Women who are rape victims should not be automatically thought of as "damaged goods" to be avoided, talk to her about it and decide for yourself if she is honest or just trouble. Honestly, the amount of guys in here who said "abort" really bothers me, give her a fucking chance for God's sake...
You know I was going to pass on this thread until the end....I was raped around age 13. I find some of your comments to be preety harsh. I don't see why this girl wouldn't want to try to go on and date. It might not have been a violent attack to the extent that she never wanted to be with another man. Do I have hang ups? Not really.....do I enjoy sex?..yes very very much.....do I hate men?......NO
What one person does to you does not represent men as a whole. I think you need to preceed with caution but don't just "abort" her. I hope that when some of you grow up and have kids, that this does not happen to your daughter.
What one person does to you does not represent men as a whole. I think you need to preceed with caution but don't just "abort" her. I hope that when some of you grow up and have kids, that this does not happen to your daughter.
Far more women have been assaulted than any of us likely imagine. It isn't a small percentage of the female population, but a rather large miniority at minimum.<p>The only issue here is the freshness of the wounds. She likely has a great deal to go through over the ensuing months. Only you can judge whether you are willing or able to be a part of that with her. It will wear on you some, and you will likely interpret some of it as being personally directed at you. I wish you both the best, and hope the SOB who committed the crime gets everything coming to him.
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