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javaguru said:Anyway, my father passed away last August and it's been tough on my mom, they were married almost 35 years. She's lonely and I've been going back to "The Holmes" to see her and take care of the "man responsibilities" as often as I can. Anyway, her sisters and friends have been encouraging her to date...but I have very mixed feelings.....I want her to be happy but.....I don't want some dickweed moving in on my mother....
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that is your opinion.. it is pretty obvious you don't want her dating
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GoldenDelicious
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you beat up a geriatric? LOL hi 55555555555!!rnch said:yes, i had to have an "intimate personal conversation" with one heavily in debt, old ladies man who was sniffing around my mother shortly after my father made his premature trip to heaven...no baseball bat needed with this one.....
Java, there's a lot of times that widowed parents will choose to stay alone if they even suspect their adult child doesn't like the person they're seeing. Your mother had enough good judgement to choose your father for a spouse, and to raise you, and no matter what, guess what, you're still the kid and that's the way it is until some neurologist tells you she's suffering from pretty severe dementia 
(some people have a tendency to treat their aging parents like they're saggy, truant children with no sense or life experience).
Encourage her to go out, make friends, travel, see someone if she can find someone she likes, get hobbies, take classes. Most importantly, do everything you can to encourage her to socialize outside the home and family, to stay active! Don't let her become overly reliant on you/your siblings for social interaction. Keeping active, physically and mentally, having a purpose, a reason for being, is what keeps people from disintegrating. Nothing worse than sitting around in your old age waiting for your kids to find some time in their lives to see you for an hour or two, only to rush off back into their life to leave you sitting and waiting for the next visit.
(some people have a tendency to treat their aging parents like they're saggy, truant children with no sense or life experience).Encourage her to go out, make friends, travel, see someone if she can find someone she likes, get hobbies, take classes. Most importantly, do everything you can to encourage her to socialize outside the home and family, to stay active! Don't let her become overly reliant on you/your siblings for social interaction. Keeping active, physically and mentally, having a purpose, a reason for being, is what keeps people from disintegrating. Nothing worse than sitting around in your old age waiting for your kids to find some time in their lives to see you for an hour or two, only to rush off back into their life to leave you sitting and waiting for the next visit.
digimon7068
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javaguru said:Anyway, my father passed away last August and it's been tough on my mom, they were married almost 35 years. She's lonely and I've been going back to "The Holmes" to see her and take care of the "man responsibilities" as often as I can. Anyway, her sisters and friends have been encouraging her to date...but I have very mixed feelings.....I want her to be happy but.....I don't want some dickweed moving in on my mother....
a) it's been almost a year. . .so her head is probably fairly clear by now,
b) she's an adult and she's your mom. . .don't think of her like your little sister,
c) i assume your dad was a good dude. . .if she finds someone, chances are it will be another good dude,
d) if you're really worried, then offer to chaperone the first couple of dates. . .just kidding. . .just support her like she supports you ya big mook. . .what the hell do you think she's gonna do?? run off with an atheist???
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redsamurai
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wise words here...........me personally, if I was together with a woman for 35 years and she passed away.........I'd put the dick away and be by myself till it was time for me to go and see her again...............but that's just me. It's not good for a person to become a hermit.............so she should socialize...............but 35 years is 35 years.................fuck..............must have been a pretty decent connection...................I couldn't imagine that pain.
musclemom said:Java, there's a lot of times that widowed parents will choose to stay alone if they even suspect their adult child doesn't like the person they're seeing. Your mother had enough good judgement to choose your father for a spouse, and to raise you, and no matter what, guess what, you're still the kid and that's the way it is until some neurologist tells you she's suffering from pretty severe dementia
Encourage her to go out, make friends, travel, see someone if she can find someone she likes, get hobbies, take classes. Most importantly, do everything you can to encourage her to socialize outside the home and family, to stay active! Don't let her become overly reliant on you/your siblings for social interaction. Keeping active, physically and mentally, having a purpose, a reason for being, is what keeps people from disintegrating. Nothing worse than sitting around in your old age waiting for your kids to find some time in their lives to see you for an hour or two, only to rush off back into their life to leave you sitting and waiting for the next visit.
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