This ReallY Sucks...

[javaguru]

^^

that is your opinion.. it is pretty obvious you don't want her dating

Ummm..not to her..my official stance is to let her make her own decisions but I'm certainly entitled to an opinion.

I understand the therapy 101 answer Dr. Phil...

 

[javaguru]

Post pics; I'm looking for some romance.

Sorry bor, she doesn't like tiny cawks.....

 

[Bikini Mod]

I agree with MM and Digimon.

We are not meant to be alone. Encourage your mother to socialize with people and to find adult companionship.

NO ONE WILL EVER REPLACE YOUR FATHER and you know that, not for you or for her. But that doesn't mean that she should live the rest of her adult years without companionship.

I am very VERY sorry for your loss.

 

[javaguru]

Java, there's a lot of times that widowed parents will choose to stay alone if they even suspect their adult child doesn't like the person they're seeing. Your mother had enough good judgement to choose your father for a spouse, and to raise you, and no matter what, guess what, you're still the kid and that's the way it is until some neurologist tells you she's suffering from pretty severe dementia (some people have a tendency to treat their aging parents like they're saggy, truant children with no sense or life experience).

Encourage her to go out, make friends, travel, see someone if she can find someone she likes, get hobbies, take classes. Most importantly, do everything you can to encourage her to socialize outside the home and family, to stay active! Don't let her become overly reliant on you/your siblings for social interaction. Keeping active, physically and mentally, having a purpose, a reason for being, is what keeps people from disintegrating. Nothing worse than sitting around in your old age waiting for your kids to find some time in their lives to see you for an hour or two, only to rush off back into their life to leave you sitting and waiting for the next visit.

She volunteered the information that she was being encouraged to date and she decided she didn't want to date. Anyway, she is part of a trio, with her sisters, that goes to different events and sings gospel music. She's actually been on TV and it's one thing I always encourage her to do.