Well I certainly appreciate all the advice. I have been taken advantage of in many ways by women. Some wanted money, some wanted some bullshit status that supposedly comes with being a doctor. I have met very few women who just wanted to get to know me as a person since my wife died 7 years ago. My current girlfriend made a huge error by lying to a direct question. Surgeons are like pitt bulls when they are together and its never good to be dating someone who has been with one of the docs on staff. However, all that being said she is extremely remorseful about deceiving me. I am crazy about her and my children are crazy about her. I know she was trying to protect me in some way. So, we have had numerous discussions this week and it is crystal clear that honesty and integrity has no gray zone with me. I truly believe it is in my best interest to move forward and put this behind me. "Real people" worthy of maintaining an honest relationship with a decent man are few and far between. I choose to take the chance on love instead of cutting my losses and getting out. Thanks for your help
I was in the exact situation as you recently, and I thought I was the weird one with this kind of hang-up's. But I totally know how you feel and what you're going through. Like you, the girl was the special one for me, and like you, I took (am still taking) the chance on the relationship instead of coping out. I did it cos I thought it was worth it, it's still taking me some effort to get over the weirdness (to which in actuality I think is my ego that needs mending), but so far it has been worth it. I'm pretty sure it'll be worth it for you too.