Married People!

[gab9681]

I got married young, very young. We are going on 4 years of marriage now and seven years of being together. Marriage seemed like the right way to go. We went into this thing saying that we would stay together through hell or high water, and we have seen plenty of both, but we have always made it out alive. For the most part, it has been the best thing to happen to me. Sometime we both wish we would have waited a few years though. Neither one of us had much time to "sow our wild oats". But it is pretty cool coming home from work everyday and knowing that someone is there waiting for you and that she loves you. It is definitely a give and take kinda thing. You won't be able to change the other person, but you will be able to adapt and accept certain things if you truly love them. My only bit of advice would be to remain honest with eachother about everything. That was me and my wife's near downfall. She had told some "false-truths" about herself before we were married. These things were a big part of what I found attractive in her. Then, about 2 years after we tied the knot, I found out the truth. It came very very close to tearing us apart. But we had built so much other good stuff together, that it couldn't break us down. Marriage has its ups and downs, but it's a fun and interesting ride. Just make sure you have the right one with you for the ride.

 

[KBEKQT]

...honestly, is it nice? or does it suck?

i guess it just depends on the people in the relationship??

Trust me when I tell you this: as we evolve and move forward in life, our expectations, our personal views, opinions and our personalities change.

For a while, I thought I married Mr. Right, but after several years, I found the evolution of our lives did not have the togetherness it had in the early years, our paths grew apart and as the anniversaries passed, the further we got from each other. Mr. Right turned out to be Mr. Right-Then.

Should you get married? Sorry hun, only you can make that decision. Is it going to be nice? Only time will tell…

 

[gotmojo]

Just don't get married with the idea that you can change that person. Any part of that person. And if you have even a single doubt, walk away. You'll only end up hurting each other

Sing it sister!........When I was married the bitch hit me in the face with one of those jumbo hotel room phones on our wedding night, just because I wanted to sit in the rooms' whirlpool instead of lamenting over the fact that her dad got liquored up and showed his ass at the reception. My fault to go through with it knowing I was not only marrying her but trying to fix her too. Neededless to say I divorced her, only after killing myself by trying to make something out of nothing. But I am looking forward to doing it again, with the right person and after a series applications w/ references, and personality tests....JK.....for real when it's right it's right.

 

[Sweet_Bitch]

Yeah babe, it's reciprocal.

Hell yes it is Girls are more apt to do that, but you men aren't all innocent

 

[GrandMaster]

as long as shes the one, i dont mind being on LockDown

 

[DJ_UFO]

I think marriage could be great, could be average, or could suck. Most of them suck. A great minority are average and a little minority are great. And what really destroy a relationship is the FUCKING SIGNATURE. That application for marriage is the worst you can do. If you love someone, you don't need to sign for it. To live with someone you don't need a signature for it.

 

[Sweet_Bitch]

Nah man, ppl dont change, they can mildly alter, but thats it,
u gots 2 love them for them....am i right... or do i need a smackin'?

Nope, no smackin' necessary You are EXACTLY correct!!

 

[bigmann245]

...honestly, is it nice? or does it suck?
and i dont mean in terms of your stuck fucking the same person for life...

i mean in general.
im always gettin told " dont get married son!" and then i find myself tellin that to others .. lol
but i dont suppose i'd have a problem with it..
i guess it just depends on the people in the relationship??

well you know my situation. i love it. we dated for 3 years before we got married. we lived together for 2 of them. i firmly believe in living together before marriage. it will give you a chance to see what it is like to be married. most marriages that fail in the first year is due to the fact they could not stand each other when they moved in together. and in my relationship there are added benifits that some of you already know about... lol

 

[Sweet_Bitch]

Sing it sister!........When I was married the bitch hit me in the face with one of those jumbo hotel room phones on our wedding night, just because I wanted to sit in the rooms' whirlpool instead of lamenting over the fact that her dad got liquored up and showed his ass at the reception. My fault to go through with it knowing I was not only marrying her but trying to fix her too. Neededless to say I divorced her, only after killing myself by trying to make something out of nothing. But I am looking forward to doing it again, with the right person and after a series applications w/ references, and personality tests....JK.....for real when it's right it's right.

Wow-great story Not to poke fun at your marriage, but that sounds like an episode of a bad sitcom!! I got so drunk on my wedding night that I don't remember much, but I definetly wasn't hitting anyone with the jumbo hotel room phone!!

 

[gotmojo]

Wow-great story Not to poke fun at your marriage, but that sounds like an episode of a bad sitcom!! I got so drunk on my wedding night that I don't remember much, but I definetly wasn't hitting anyone with the jumbo hotel room phone!!

You are exactly right, You'd think that a sane person wouldn't just hit someone with a jumbo phone with no provocation let alone their new hubby, well i'm here to tell ya, the broad was daffy, actually it just went down hill from there. But i've learned to have a sense of humor about it. I don't hate her, just wish her well..................................But what a wild F'd up rollercoaster of a ride it was!