Married People!

[HiDnGoD]

Give me a break. This is the part where it is called "for better or worse". People dont say marriage takes work for nothing and if you are "growing apart" then you werent trying to stay close to each other in the first place.

It takes 2 to tango. I've seen countless relationships where 1 partner is willing to do whatever it takes, yet the other partner is just "yeah, whatever".
It is work, but it's teamwork. If the rest of the team don't show up, nobody wins.

A black eye will go away, but verbal abuse will scar for life. It takes away your selfworth if you are not strong enough or don't have self confidence or makes you build walls as defense mechanism and ruins it for the next guy because you'll never allow yourself to fully open up to someone else.

This works the other way too. I have a friend who has been subject to this verbal abuse from various S.O.'s.
Sometimes people, men & women, somehow drift towards bad people with the same propensity for abuse, of one form or another. & each one has helped convince him of his worthlessness as a man.
You sound like a strong woman KBEKQT. I hope you are able to extricate yourself from that cycle.

 

[HiDnGoD]

I had a friend have that very same thing happen to him. he said he swore he was in a movie. you cant write it any better than that. he just slammed the door shut, grabbed some things and left. she was shocked as shit and her mother had the balls to slap him when he came to pick up his stuff and say it was his fault. he gave her everything. he did whatever she wanted. he still has no idea what went wrong.

I know 2 guys that went through this. One guy it happened to 12 yrs ago, still doesn't know what happened.
The other guy worked 2 jobs to support wife & 2 kids. 15yrs ago. Wife got tired of him not being there & was getting pounded by his Best Friend. He walked in & saw her riding him reverse cowgirl. Says that was the thing that he can never forgive. BTW, he got fucked by her family, crucified by his own family (not much of a man. Couldn't satisfy her!), fucked by her & her lawyer & fucked by the Judges.
I can honestly understand how some people could commit "suicide by cop". This guy was fucked 6 ways to Sunday & today his own fucking kids won't talk to him.

 

[a10j10]

It takes 2 to tango. I've seen countless relationships where 1 partner is willing to do whatever it takes, yet the other partner is just "yeah, whatever".
It is work, but it's teamwork. If the rest of the team don't show up, nobody wins.

Exactly! Very well put!

 

[EnderJE]

I'm on 5 years of marriage and I've been with my wife for about 10 years now. I can honestly say that it wasn't what I expected. I originally expected a non-stop fuck fest where they're was passion everyday in every possible way.

Instead, I have a friend, a confident, a partner, someone who will hear the same story again and again and never interrupt (or correct me), someone who is a great parent to my kids, and someone (most importantly) puts up with my shit.

 

[GrandMaster]

I'm on 5 years of marriage and I've been with my wife for about 10 years now. I can honestly say that it wasn't what I expected. I originally expected a non-stop fuck fest where they're was passion everyday in every possible way.

Instead, I have a friend, a confident, a partner, someone who will hear the same story again and again and never interrupt (or correct me), someone who is a great parent to my kids, and someone (most importantly) puts up with my shit.

i think thats what the marrage shit should be about
spending your lives together, understanding eachother, u got love there bro!

 

[Daisy_Girl]

Instead, I have a friend, a confident, a partner, someone who will hear the same story again and again and never interrupt (or correct me), someone who is a great parent to my kids, and someone (most importantly) puts up with my shit.

Very well put.

 

[bigmann245]

Thank so much for the support, Bigmann. Making the decision was extremely difficult for me, failure is never an option for me so I was torn for a long time, and tried my hardest to make it work. Reading Superdick...hum...Dave's post really pissed me off. Took it personal and had to fire back. ( I have red hair, can you tell? )

i also have red hair. thats funny. we have to stick together. im sorry i didnt get back to this post. i have been so busy helping a buddy move his brother from one house to another. you sound like a very sweet woman. stay that way. the next guy will appreciate it.