Family lawyer...custody battle...need help....Heather? Anyone?

[SpyWizard]

Hire a good local family lawyer. It really depends on the judge. Whether or not you have been depressed is really irrelevant if it has not affected your relationship. Likewise, most family judges don't want to hear about infedility either unless it was done in front of the children, etc.

The standard for determining custody in most states is the "best interests of the child." So, that gives the judges wide subjective latitude to rule what they think is best for the child. Most states these days favor joint or shared custody orders over sole custody to one parent.

Good luck!

now that i read the thread.. she has it spot on..

if you were to see the kid, and she and her mother physically stopped you or refused, you should then go to your car, call the police, and get a cop on the spot, you might not get the child given to you, however it will prove in a court of law that you were denied access to the child, at least in that one instance..

 

[Bikini Mod]

It literally breaks my heart whenever I read about people who use their children as pawns this way.

The family court system needs a serious overhaul to impede the ability of parents who GET OFF doing this shit to their kids.

I don't give a damn about the mothers OR the fathers, but somehow the system needs to be able to better identify the parent (sometimes it is both) who is trying to purposely alienate their child(ren) from the other parent *just because they can*.

 

[Nobledude]

I agree that the only thing that really matters is the child.

All I wanted it was to see my baby child and take her for a walk when suddenly her mom started to question where do I take the child and pushed me away ...

I didnt want to make a scene and tried to reason with my fiancee...finally, we agreed that we both go out with the baby.

They are afraid that I may harm the child....JESUS!!!...

I will never touch my child....she is the only person in the US that loves me.....she is the reason for me to live!!!..

I dont want to take her away from her mom, but just to see her and take her for a day at my place.

All I want is for the benefit of the child....she is happy to see me and she loves me...

I dont wanna do custody battles and waste money on lawyers when those money coudl be spent on my child..

But I dont appreciate to be pushed and shoved when I try to take my child out....

 

[heatherrae]

I agree that the only thing that really matters is the child.

All I wanted it was to see my baby child and take her for a walk when suddenly her mom started to question where do I take the child and pushed me away ...

I didnt want to make a scene and tried to reason with my fiancee...finally, we agreed that we both go out with the baby.

They are afraid that I may harm the child....JESUS!!!...

I will never touch my child....she is the only person in the US that loves me.....she is the reason for me to live!!!..

I dont want to take her away from her mom, but just to see her and take her for a day at my place.

All I want is for the benefit of the child....she is happy to see me and she loves me...

I dont wanna do custody battles and waste money on lawyers when those money coudl be spent on my child..

But I dont appreciate to be pushed and shoved when I try to take my child out....

talk to your ex not in the presence of the mom and see if you can work out a visitation agreement.

 

[drsketch]

Are you over the depression?

and dont take this the wrong way. But stop threatening people to kill yourself, that is a game and if you were serious you would handle business not tell people about it.

Judges typically side with women.. Is there any proof you had some mental issues?

 

[Creepusmaximus]

Hi,

My fiancee and I split. She left with my 2 year old daughter to her moms house. Her mom runs an elderly home care business and my fiancee is living with her now.

Today , I went to see my daughter and while I was inside the house I was going to take my daughter with me when my fiancees mom started to act weird and saying that she wants to taker her out.

She wanted to know where I take her and I said that I meet a friend at Starbucks and after we go to the park.

In the last year I have been battling depression and I had suicidal thoughts. Her mom thinks that I am a lunatic and I may hurt the baby, therefore she told my fiancee not to let my daughter come to see me overnight and such...

She started to push me out of the house as I was trying to reason with her and my fiancee....I just backed up and tried to expalint to her that I was invited in the house and I talked to my fiancee that I will take my baby out....

I told my fiancee if wer are not goin to be civil with each other I will take her to court.

What would a judge rule? How much would it cost?
Would I be able to get split custody?
BTW, in the past my fiancee cheated on me when we were away in Europe and I have emails that confirm that...

She keeps telling me that because I threaten her to kill myself in the past , I wont be able to get split custody.....Is she right?

Thanks a bunch

First you're male so your pretty well f'ed. Even though Mommies kill babies the law is totally lopside towards the females. They don't care about cheating, don't bother bringing it up or you'll just look like everyone else.

 

[Arabian]

now that i read the thread.. she has it spot on..

if you were to see the kid, and she and her mother physically stopped you or refused, you should then go to your car, call the police, and get a cop on the spot, you might not get the child given to you, however it will prove in a court of law that you were denied access to the child, at least in that one instance..

That means nothing, she is not obligated to let him see anyone.
The police can do nothing in this situation without a court order. He is wasting his time.. who advised this bs

 

[puddlemonkey]

If the child has been taken care of primarily by the mother then that is where the child SHOULD stay. Father's rights? Huh?

WHAT ABOUT THE RIGHTS OF THE CHILD?

Let me tell ya'll something in case you didn't know it - good mothers have been getting fucked out of ALL RIGHTS TO THEIR KIDS because of jackassholes who LOVE to manipulate the system.

Sweet jesus! I'm willing to bet more women use the system to their advantage than men get to. Years past it was pretty rare that a father was even awarded custody of the kids regardless of the situation.

 

[Arabian]

Nobledude, I hope she does not know you post here? If so she can subpoena these records...... As I stated before you need to gleam your information from this thread and delete it.

 

[seaking420]

Go talk to an attorny, each state is different. Thats the best advice anyone on here can give for your situation.

i guess i have to have a kid one day to understand what it's like. To me I don't give a shit if they take the little fucker,
paying chikd support is what I wouldn't wanna do. Even then I might pay a little so she can deal with this little attention starved crying midget

you obviously dont have a kid...and maybe shouldnt