Family lawyer...custody battle...need help....Heather? Anyone?

[Humble Pride]

Good luck bro, wish I could help..................

 

[Bikini Mod]

You are fucked. Get an attorney and do the best you can to fight for your rights to see your baby. Even if you never did a damned thing "wrong" if the judge you get has a hardon for you it won't make a damned bit of difference. At this point the only good defense is a good offense.

I feel for you and your child.

Good luck.

PS - nobody will give a rat's ass that she cheated on you unless she had the baby with her in the bed while she was having sex with the guy. Get over that.

 

[stilleto]

btw, her cheating on you means absolutely nothing. you weren't even married. she can do whatever she wants.

 

[KG1977]

I told my fiancee if wer are not goin to be civil with each other I will take her to court.

What would a judge rule? How much would it cost?
Would I be able to get split custody?
BTW, in the past my fiancee cheated on me when we were away in Europe and I have emails that confirm that...

Fathers over the past have had little rights, which IS changing. Who the fvck do some of these mothers think they are?
The court systems only seem to want to know if you are paying Childsupport.

 

[walliwalibus]

Do what Arabian's first thread said, and lock this thread........ See an attorney man. That is the only thing that will help. Understand and reflecting troubles right now, not good. You can do that later. Concentrate on the task at hand. See the attorney, that's all I can say. And prepare. Man, Arabian said it in very first post Arabian put on this thread dude. Seriously.

I wish you all the best luck and hope you do well.....
Just keep yourself in check bro.....
There are some great people here, wonderful people, but there are some things that are just outta the hands of lending an ear, and this is on example. Only a attorney can help. . . . .

+1 for Arabian for telling it like it is.... great advise, even better was close the thread and just get the attorney. And do it fast.

Walli

 

[Smurfy]

Do what Arabian's first thread said, and lock this thread........ See an attorney man. That is the only thing that will help. Understand and reflecting troubles right now, not good. You can do that later. Concentrate on the task at hand. See the attorney, that's all I can say. And prepare. Man, Arabian said it in very first post Arabian put on this thread dude. Seriously.

I wish you all the best luck and hope you do well.....
Just keep yourself in check bro.....
There are some great people here, wonderful people, but there are some things that are just outta the hands of lending an ear, and this is on example. Only a attorney can help. . . . .

+1 for Arabian for telling it like it is.... great advise, even better was close the thread and just get the attorney. And do it fast.

Walli

I agree with Walli

 

[heatherrae]

Hire a good local family lawyer. It really depends on the judge. Whether or not you have been depressed is really irrelevant if it has not affected your relationship with the kids. Likewise, most family judges don't want to hear about infedility either unless it was done in front of the children, etc.

The standard for determining custody in most states is the "best interests of the child." So, that gives the judges wide subjective latitude to rule what they think is best for the child. Most states these days favor joint or shared custody orders over sole custody to one parent.

Good luck!

 

[SpyWizard]

didn't read the whole thread..

cheating in a relationship does not hold much weight.. especially with you stating on an open forum that you have been depressed, and suicide thoughts..

you can't help or be with your kid until you get yourself straight.. are you seeing a doctor??

trust me on this one for sure..

 

[Bikini Mod]

Fathers over the past have had little rights, which IS changing. Who the fvck do some of these mothers think they are?
The court systems only seem to want to know if you are paying Childsupport.

If a child is very young then there should NOT BE split custody.

If the child has been taken care of primarily by the mother then that is where the child SHOULD stay. Father's rights? Huh?

WHAT ABOUT THE RIGHTS OF THE CHILD?

Let me tell ya'll something in case you didn't know it - good mothers have been getting fucked out of ALL RIGHTS TO THEIR KIDS because of jackassholes who LOVE to manipulate the system.

And how would I know this?

Because I have been LIVING IT FOR 8 YEARS.

Guess what else?

The more brave I am to VOLUNTEER my situation, the more professional/normal mothers I meet who tell me THEY LIVED IT TOO.

When a father gets fucked out of custody everyone pats him on the back and says, "Poor guy got fucked."

When a mother gets fucked out of custody EVERYONE physically steps away and recoils with horror, "That low-life fucking piece of shit slut. Wonder what she did to get her kids taken away."

Ultimately - the only people who get fucked REGARDLESS of which parent gets fucked ARE THE CHILDREN.

In a perfect world children deserve a mother AND a father, but which one of us lives in a perfect world?

Any woman who would keep a child from their father *just because they can* (and not because they are truly protecting the child) should be shot as a mother should ALWAYS know better. Sadly, we almost EXPECT a father to use his children to fuck with their mother.... that doesn't seem to be the case here. I do believe that the thread starter only wants to be in the life of his child as HE SHOULD BE. But to post up and proliferate UTTER BUNK about "mother's OR father's rights" infuriates me.

It should ALWAYS be about the rights of THE CHILD.

 

[Bikini Mod]

Yes however he will have to testify in court so your Attorney cant have it thrown out as heresay/ What happened to cause this.. very important because as soon as she hires an attorney they cause trouble by turing the two of you against one another .. your need to talk this thing out it seems like<> divorce attorneys are scum of the earth and get paid to break families apart.. I hate them... do not say anything or do anything from here on out that can be potentionally used against you.. you are living in a glass house until this is over.. the next thing her attorney will file will be a restraining order against you forbiding the contact with her and or the baby..

Arabian is DEAD ON about everything in this post. I concurr 100%.