Do perfect people write & say positive affirmations?

[ledhead]

I kind of think positive affirmation statements are kind of silly, but hey, may be they work. So, have they worked for you? Do the ivory tower people use them?

I noticed there's different kinds. The kind you write predicting the future or the kind you write as if the ideal situation already exists for you.

I am... vs I will be
I do vs I will...
I no longer...

And then there's other statement types:
I am now...
I have...
I own...
I live...
I work at...
I traveled to...
I achieved...

Mine? I am patient, I am still kind, I am a successful entreprenuer, I have a great sex life with my spouse and only with my spouse, I don't let mean people bother me anymore, I have a completely toned tummy, I have a larger home, I have healthy, independent, happy children, and so on.

It's called NARCISSISM and DELUSIONS OF GRANDEUR

 

[digimon7068]

I'm good enough...
I'm smart enough...
and people like me....

-Stuart Smally

i am not very good (but i'm working on it)...
i am not very smart (but i'm working on it)...
and anyone that doesn't like me can take a number...and wait in that line over there...for their turn to go fuck themselves.

-Me

 

[Rachel...lol]

I am not an optimist - but have been reasonably successful, and satisfied with the way the last couple of years hae gone. Sometimes when I'm down about myself - THAT's when I do some needed self-validation to pick myself up.

 

[pbhardbody]

i am not very good (but i'm working on it)...
i am not very smart (but i'm working on it)...
and anyone that doesn't like me can take a number...and wait in that line over there...for their turn to go fuck themselves.

-Me

I'm gonna borrow that last line bro. Have a few customers that need to get that memo.

 

[javaguru]

I am not an optimist - but have been reasonably successful, and satisfied with the way the last couple of years hae gone. Sometimes when I'm down about myself - THAT's when I do some needed self-validation to pick myself up.

My philosophy is to plan for the worst and when everything doesn't go to shit you're pleasantly surprised.

 

[DJLegacy2k1]

You can do iiiiittttt!

 

[calveless wonder]

I am not an optimist - but have been reasonably successful, and satisfied with the way the last couple of years hae gone. Sometimes when I'm down about myself - THAT's when I do some needed self-validation to pick myself up.

it's apparent you need quite a bit more than that

 

[calveless wonder]

It's called NARCISSISM and DELUSIONS OF GRANDEUR

This is exactly the type of thinking that essentially leads to mediocrity in life. But hey, if you're happy with mediocrity, go with that.

People who use affirmations obviously realize they are not the things they consist of in the affirmation. They don't go around with a sense of entitlement. They construe these statements as merely a tool to shift the paradigm of their internal thought process. In psychology, narcissism is ACTIVELY displayed on the conscious level, so there is a huge difference. Before you go throwing around blanket terms, i think you should realize what the terms actually entail.

It's a tool to shift the subconscious which is incapable of cognitive function and deciphering reality from truth. So whatever message is delivered, it will manifest on a subconscious level which ultimately results in the gearing of your actions or autopilot. You never actually THINK about these things. they just occur.

The fact successful people use affirmations as well as goal setting (concrete goal setting...as in SMART goals. Specific, measurable, attainable, realistic and timely/timeframe) is not a coincidence. Success has to start internally or else you either fall into it by accident (i.e. some people achieve what might be deemed success from an external standpoint though fear.... i.e. fear of being poor, fear of being not good enough) or spin your wheels trying to achieve it. in the case of fear driven success, to most people in that position it's not really success. They may have worked really hard in order to avoid their fear, but that doesn't mean they "feel" like a success even though by society's standards they have a great job and a lot of money.

Only about 1-2% of the population writes their goals down in the proper manner or looks at them on a regular basis. Maybe half that use affirmations. Guess how many people in the world are usually considered successful?

 

[calveless wonder]

My philosophy is to plan for the worst and when everything doesn't go to shit you're pleasantly surprised.

Planning for the worst basically concedes that you are anticipating it. And whenever you anticipate something, it's going to be more likely to happen whether you realize it or not. Not a good way to live.


There's a huge difference in planning for contingencies in the event <xyz> happens or doesn't happen but another thing to just lollygag through life expecting the worst and hope other than the worst case scenario happens.

you should always go into a situation thinking and believing plan A will work..otherwise you'll do it half ass and with a great deal of hesitation or doubt.but just in case plan A doesn't work, you already have plan B or C or D on standby.

In some cases, a contingency isn't always even neccessary before a problem arises. It depends on your perspective. If you're the type of person who looks at everything analytically "i.e. i have this problem. how do i solve it?" instead of getting all emotional and anxious when shit hits the fan, then it's not really a problem. Those type of people can be really successful because they give 100% into everything they do absolutely believing it will work, and when something arises that's unexpected they can look at it from a problem solving perspective.

The cliche expect the worst but hope for the best is a bunch of bullshit and i want to slap people when they say it. Hope is the most passive thing a person can do.

You should expect the best and have a plan just in case the best doesn't happen

 

[javaguru]

Planning for the worst basically concedes that you are anticipating it. And whenever you anticipate something, it's going to be more likely to happen whether you realize it or not. Not a good way to live.

There's a huge difference in planning for contingencies in the event <xyz> happens or doesn't happen but another thing to just lollygag through life expecting the worst and hope other than the worst case scenario happens.

you should always go into a situation thinking and believing plan A will work..otherwise you'll do it half ass.but just in case it doesn't, you already have plan B or C or D on standby.

The cliche expect the worst but hope for the best is a bunch of bullshit and i want to slap people when they say it.

You should expect the best and have a plan for the worst.

I've never been let down by expecting people to fuck up their basic duties or unforeseen sticky problems. An overly optimistic attitude is what created the internet and housing bubbles...shit doesn't go up forever. I sold my tech stocks a few months before the crash and avoided the internet bubble because I knew people were overly optimistic and too caught up in their greed to realize how over valued tech stocks were. Generally speaking, when people realize they need to implement their contingency plan, after abandoning their optimistic position, it's too late. I can give you a list of disasters where people didn't plan for the worst case scenario...the oil spill in the Gulf is the most recent.

The book "Code Complete" is the bible of software development and the basic rule for planning a software project is to take your estimate..double it and double it again.