I need help quick. When do i call her after the first date ? Ladies please help

[djardin]

I just met the absolute perfect match for me, We had rthe greatest time and after the date she gave me her cell number and told me that when I wanted to go out again to give her a call and she would love to go.

My question is how long after the first date ( Friday night) do I call?

I'm 31 and she is 26. It was the most incredible match ever for myself and her. We both finished each others sentances and stuff like that.

I called her today around 2pm and left a mesage on her answer machine ( I knew that she was not going to be home) and just said that I had a great time and I was loking forward to going out again.

What do I do now ?

 

[biteme]

Keep calling her every 10 minutes and leave messages. She will think you're a stalker. Best decision you'll ever make.
I know that kind of anxiety sux. Give her a rose the next time you see her. A friend of mine told me to do this after my divorce when I started dating. It works wonders. Women have simple minds.

 

[strider364]

Give it a day or two.

 

[willie2]

when to call

dj...you should have called her right after you dropped her off from the date. just to let her know you had a great time. Call her the following day, when you know she will answer. Tell her how much you enjoyed being with her and ask her out again. perferrably for that night. Women do not have simple minds. They are complex creatures that are a lot more emotional than men.

ever heard the old adage " you snoze, you lose?" If you truly like this woman...Don't play games with her. If you were waiting on a call from her (after what you thought was a great date) and it didn't come until a couple of days later...what would you think?


willie2

 

[Pamela]

Since it's the weekend.
Call her when you know she isn't
going to be home.
Call and leave a message/number to call you back.

And if she is really interested she may call you!

 

[plornive]

What I do:

Send an SMS after she leaves on the night of the date, telling her you had a good time, hope to see her again soon, etc.

Call her a day or two later.

That way you don't seem needy and you also don't seem apathetic or like a player.

 

[plornive]

Since it's the weekend.
Call her when you know she isn't
going to be home.
Call and leave a message/number to call you back.

And if she is really interested she may call you!

Yeah but if she doesn't call then he will look/feel like a doofus calling her later (might as well call if she doesn't). I wouldn't give control to her when women are notorious for expecting guys to always call them / not returning calls even when they are interested.

 

[djardin]

This is killing me ! I just slpit up from my wife of six years and I meet this woman and she kncks me off my feet with the first conversation. We have practily everything in common. My wife and I prettty much had nothing except my money

the wondering is unbeliveable. I have been on dates after my wife and nothing like this. I am thinking like Willy2 as far as you snooze you loose.

I will give you enexample of how this effected me. After the date last night I had to go to my office for an emergency meeting in the morning. I just sat there as my boss flew up from denver and told me that we just got an 18 million dollar increase for payroll budget and had to spend it before the end of the year and my reply to him was " fine, just put it on my desk and I'll get to it later."

It is unbeliveable how i feel. What do the ladies say ?

 

[Kali]

I would say tomorrow afternoon, but don't ask her out again just yet. This way you will seem interested and look like you had a great time, but not too anxious and annoying. Talk to her and keep in touch, but wait until later in the week to ask her out again. I am not sure about the rose thing. I know a lot of women (including myself) are sick of roses. Go with a little more exotic flower arangement that is kind of small but still gets the point accross.

(Hint to all men: If you go to the grocery store they have all different types of flowers that you can pick out yourself. They will wrap them, and put a little bow on them for you as well. The flowers usually last longer, cost half as much, and she will know you picked them out yourself and actually put time into it by the way they are freshly wrapped. Big bonus points there)

 

[biteme]

I would say tomorrow afternoon, but don't ask her out again just yet. This way you will seem interested and look like you had a great time, but not too anxious and annoying. Talk to her and keep in touch, but wait until later in the week to ask her out again. I am not sure about the rose thing. I know a lot of women (including myself) are sick of roses. Go with a little more exotic flower arangement that is kind of small but still gets the point accross.

(Hint to all men: If you go to the grocery store they have all different types of flowers that you can pick out yourself. They will wrap them, and put a little bow on them for you as well. The flowers usually last longer, cost half as much, and she will know you picked them out yourself and actually put time into it by the way they are freshly wrapped. Big bonus points there)

LOL. See women don't know what they want. One day it's roses, the next it's Tulips. I think they just want you to sweat for them. They like knowing that a guy gets all anxious over them. Just tell her that you're an orignal man and you're going to skip all the ridiculous bullshit and come over and stick your dick in her ass and make her your woman. Take charge. That's what women like. Confidence and aggression.