Hooking up for the money, worth it?

[javaguru]

I'll be there one day. I'm glad I'm not locked into a relationship now because I probably wouldn't go as far as I want to within the ARMY.

I always considered the Army a single man's profession,it used to be that way until the 70's, especially if you're in combat arms. When I enlisted it was common to spend nine months out of the year in the field training; Two month plus field problems were common. Hard to have a successful relationship under those conditions.

 

[nycgirl]

Definitely an option but if I am going to make the sacrifice my question is why not go all the way. I don't mean just grab someone, obviously they need to be somewhat compatible with me. I just saying why not take the chance, in this day it just seems like that is what people do. Those who don't have to swim up stream it seems.

Yes, people are doing that with marriages as well. Hence, the high divorce rate.

I don't get the feeling you are talking about a "committed situation." I assume this is a "roommate w/ benefits".

I just can't do that. The day I move in with someone, it will be because I want to build a life with him. Not to increase my 401 (k). Maybe, I'm twisted and like to make my life more difficult than it has to be. I don't know. I rather make the sacrifices. That's just me.

Would you be happy?

 

[Megalomaniac]

No. I want to keep my options open. I wouldn't marry for money either. What a disgrace.

Well I'm pushing mid 30's so I really don't care about love at this point. Meaning the fact that I am doubtfully going to grow with someone a lot at this point, especially considering I will probably spend at least 6-8 months out of each year gone for the next 10 years.

 

[biteme]

Yes, people are doing that with marriages as well. Hence, the high divorce rate.

I don't get the feeling you are talking about a "committed situation." I assume this is a "roommate w/ benefits".

I just can't do that. The day I move on with someone, it will be because I want to build a life with him. Not to increase my 401 (k). Maybe, I'm twisted and like to make my life more difficult than it has to be. I don't know. I rather make the sacrifices. That's just me.

Would you be happy?

That's why I'm still single after 7 years. I've been on lots of dates, some they liked me more than I liked them and vice versa. I will not settle because I'd be happier alone than to settle with someone. It's hard enough to live with someone as it is.

 

[Megalomaniac]

Yes, people are doing that with marriages as well. Hence, the high divorce rate.

I don't get the feeling you are talking about a "committed situation." I assume this is a "roommate w/ benefits".

I just can't do that. The day I move on with someone, it will be because I want to build a life with him. Not to increase my 401 (k). Maybe, I'm twisted and like to make my life more difficult than it has to be. I don't know. I rather make the sacrifices. That's just me.

Would you be happy?

Ya I totally agree, that is why I am single at this age. lmao at 'happy', what language is that word? I speak 4 and don't recognize it.

 

[biteme]

Well I'm pushing mid 30's so I really don't care about love at this point. Meaning the fact that I am doubtfully going to grow with someone a lot at this point, especially considering I will probably spend at least 6-8 months out of each year gone for the next 10 years.

Since love is not important at this point, have you considered getting a foreign bride. LOL. Nevermind, you'd have to support their ass more than likely.

 

[GoldenDelicious]

3 things are relevent here:

1) havng sex with someone for financial gain, however indirect, smacks of prostitution. i dont like that, and so wouldnt do it.

2) living in such conditions makes it difficult to cultivate independently viable relationships with other partners - i wouldnt think that the financial gain was worth that, and so again, wouldnt do it

3) when you have sex with someone and live as a couple, regardelss of how compatible you are, you start to form bonds with that person. i wouldnt want to start tying my heart to someone i dont ultimately want (since untangling myself would take a toll) and so again, i wouldnt want to find myself in that situation for the sake of saving some money

apart from that, if it were a truly platonic relationship with a person you had as a tax break, and you mutually giggled about ripping off the government while doing it, and leading viable, independent lives...then its alright (good luck pulling it off though)

 

[Frisky]

definitely not

 

[Megalomaniac]

Since love is not important at this point, have you considered getting a foreign bride. LOL. Nevermind, you'd have to support their ass more than likely.

Ya that is another option for me. I will be in asia and they can't eat much so how much could she really cost me? j/k

 

[nycgirl]

Ya that is another option for me. I will be in asia and they can't eat much so how much could she really cost me? j/k

Yes, I was told I need to bring extra cash next time I get taken out to dinner because I eat a lot.