Honest answers only....about relationships.....

[velvett]

I wouldn't settle for anything less....

My friend Rory used to say this.

He's turning 44 this year and a few weeks ago he confessed to me that he wished he hadn't been so picky. That after all this time enjoying his life alone what he really yearned for was someone to share his life with.

You should not settle but at same time don't go to the ball park without the ball because you'll never play the game.

 

[wannabeflexygrl]

To be honest, with my husband I expected bumps in the road. I was completely realistic about our relationship. We had good days, we had bad days. In general we had more good days than bad. I always said that as long as I was happy 80% of the time then I was better off then most people. Now after experiencing what I experienced....I'm now wondering is there better out there. I really, really want better. I would have been fine with what I had for a LIFETIME. I trully believe that. I was totally realistic. But now.......I want better.

 

[PHATchik]

I don't want anything to be perfect. Personally, I'd get bored with perfection. We have to be able to fight (and then make up), have our good days and bad, tell me when I'm being a bitch, etc. By no means do I think the relationship I described is perfect. I couldn't handle it if it was. But like I said, I've had a taste of those things that she mentioned. That's what I want. Perfection, no. Passion and love, yes.

 

[Sir-Que]

Some people just arn't cut out for relationships, especially long-term ones. I think the idea of "romantic" love is pushed on us by society...and women especially are brainwashed into thinking that relationships should be perfect like the ones on TV.

That's what i'm talking about!!! IMO a woman's idea of what romance and love is from tv and books, it's not even her idea all together. These Serendipity style relationships were fate drops us notes to our future love just aren't real life.

Most poeple are totally clueless about what is a relatioship and is love cause in general their clueless about themselves

 

[PHATchik]

My friend Rory used to say this.

He's turning 44 this year and a few weeks ago he confessed to me that he wished he hadn't been so picky. That after all this time enjoying his life alone what he really yearned for was someone to share his life with.

You should not settle but at same time don't go to the ball park without the ball because you'll never play the game.

You might be right. Maybe I am too picky. In almost every relationship I've been involved in, I was always scared of settling. I was always afraid that I was going to miss out on something better. In fact, there's only been one that I wasn't wondering about.

I do feel for Rory. I wish he could have found that someone to share his life with. Sometimes when you hold out for that right person, you hold out til it's too late. Life has no guarantees.

 

[Taps]

Exactly. The vast majority of relationship problems stem from one person not acting the way the other person wants them to act.

Unfortunately, from what I've seen, what usually happens is one partner begins suppressing who they are in order to appease their significant other. Both women and men do this, and it's one of my biggest pet peeves about marriage.

 

[velvett]

You might be right. Maybe I am too picky. In almost every relationship I've been involved in, I was always scared of settling. I was always afraid that I was going to miss out on something better. In fact, there's only been one that I wasn't wondering about.

I do feel for Rory. I wish he could have found that someone to share his life with. Sometimes when you hold out for that right person, you hold out til it's too late. Life has no guarantees.

You know what I hope for - knowing when the right person comes along.

Me, I need something between an invitation and a beating with a club.


Goodluck in love PhatChick

You seen really sweet and spunky at the same time.

 

[PHATchik]

You know what I hope for - knowing when the right person comes along.

Me, I need something between an invitation and a beating with a club.


Goodluck in love PhatChick

You seen really sweet and spunky at the same time.

Thank you much! I guess we'll see what happens.

 

[sh4dowf4lcon]

You know what I hope for - knowing when the right person comes along.

Me, I need something between an invitation and a beating with a club.


Goodluck in love PhatChick

You seen really sweet and spunky at the same time.

LOL @ Beating with a club!! I am not even going to make comment, LOL.

GoodLuck PC.

Love is grand when with the right person, it is never purrrrrfect. It requires effort, & communication, also commitment.

 

[vinylgroover]

Is rory his real name?

I want a great lover, a great dancer, a great friend and a great cook in that order.