Honest answers only....about relationships.....

[PHATchik]

I've struck out for a year and she graduates in a few months....I'm fucked and not in the good way.

LOL again! You all are getting me tickled.

 

[Raina]

I think it's unfair to expect perfection from another person-- I sure as hell wouldn't want someone to expect me to be perfect. It's VERY easy to maintain a relationship with someone who always says the right thing etc. But that's not a very genuine relationship.

Sometimes I think you have to go through hell with someone to really realize how much the relationship means. I'm in a happy relationship right now with my best friend-- but sometimes I really just want to strangle him. lol And I'm sure he thinks the same of me from time to time. But we're happy way more than we're not.

I think we were both a lot happier with our relationship when we accepted that we're both flawed people and we have to actually work to keep things exciting. You can't just coast-- it works at first but not after a long while.

 

[pitbullstl]

Re: Re: Honest answers only....about relationships.....

Are you the girl who's husband cheated on her and he came on here to apologize??


Anyway, hold out for the "whole package", I did. It will come.

First thing you have ever said that I agree with......

Flexy- it's not a fantasy.......but the bottom line is, some people find it some don't.

I found it...and 5 years later it's better than when it started...

Best piece of advice I can give is advice my dad gave me when I got married......"don't sweat the small stuff".

 

[Code]

Being flawed in the right way is what makes some people compatible (or incompatible).

Look for the guy that's Perfect for YOU. Not the perfect guy.
(I'll be off the market soon, so get it while you can)

I think it's unfair to expect perfection from another person-- I sure as hell wouldn't want someone to expect me to be perfect. It's VERY easy to maintain a relationship with someone who always says the right thing etc. But that's not a very genuine relationship.

Sometimes I think you have to go through hell with someone to really realize how much the relationship means. I'm in a happy relationship right now with my best friend-- but sometimes I really just want to strangle him. lol And I'm sure he thinks the same of me from time to time. But we're happy way more than we're not.

I think we were both a lot happier with our relationship when we accepted that we're both flawed people and we have to actually work to keep things exciting. You can't just coast-- it works at first but not after a long while.

 

[wannabeflexygrl]

Wow, thanks......

Now, i'm even more confused. I think I'm gonna just coast for awhile. I'm gonna just wait and see. I will not be actively looking for love.........


Code,

Yes, that's me........sad to admit, but yes it's true.

 

[the nature boy]

Men go into a relationship wanting what they have at that time. Women go into a relationship thinking of how they will change it - what will be different over time.

excellent.

 

[Gymgurl]

Since my whole DRAMA SESSION I've been thinking a lot about relationships. I keep fantasizing about a relationship where when you meet eachother you just look at eachother and you just know that this is the right one for you. A relationship where the sex stays exciting because you both always want eachother. A relationship where you are always on the same page. A relationship where you make love for the first time and everything is just right......

Does anyone know what I'm talking about? Is it too much to expect the whole package, good conversation, attraction, good sex, same morals and values?

Is this just a pipe dream? Am I just brainwashed by society and TV?

i have to say brainwashed....relationships have ups and downs....good sex/bad sex....love/hate days...You won't make it if you go into one with these ideas.....

 

[velvett]

I think it's unfair to expect perfection from another person-- I sure as hell wouldn't want someone to expect me to be perfect. It's VERY easy to maintain a relationship with someone who always says the right thing etc. But that's not a very genuine relationship.

Sometimes I think you have to go through hell with someone to really realize how much the relationship means. I'm in a happy relationship right now with my best friend-- but sometimes I really just want to strangle him. lol And I'm sure he thinks the same of me from time to time. But we're happy way more than we're not.

I think we were both a lot happier with our relationship when we accepted that we're both flawed people and we have to actually work to keep things exciting. You can't just coast-- it works at first but not after a long while.

Best answer yet.

I couldn't have said it better and I couldn't agree more.

 

[Taps]

Some people just arn't cut out for relationships, especially long-term ones. I think the idea of "romantic" love is pushed on us by society...and women especially are brainwashed into thinking that relationships should be perfect like the ones on TV.

At any rate, good luck.

 

[velvett]

I keep fantasizing about a relationship where when you meet eachother you just look at eachother and you just know that this is the right one for you.

A relationship where the sex stays exciting because you both always want eachother.

A relationship where you are always on the same page.

A relationship where you make love for the first time and everything is just right......

Your expectations need to be changed into goals that you work for after you meet someone you find you click with because to have expectations like those you will find yourself alone.