Have you ever cheated on your GF/BF/Wife/Husband?

[galaxy]

Im not justifying it. I felt guilty after doing it.

She knows she has me wrapped. And shes sleeping next to me right now.....thank god!

 

[jujubes]

Never. Shittiest thing someone could do to another person IMO. It's happened to me, I'd never wish that kind of pain on anyone.

You were brought up right

 

[EnderJE]

yeah, but cheaters will always justify it by saying that its not in our DNA to be with only one partner for life.

pfft...the next thing you know...they'll be telling you that homosexuality is in the genes...

 

[strangebrew]

Nah. Never really thought about it.

I don't think cheating is morally wrong either. But then, I have a pretty loose set of morals.

I just don't see the point if it won't improve my life. And honestly, I could probably search this planet for the next 30 years and would never find a woman who could hold a candle to my wife.

 

[Oldpro]

holy fuck man, your wife used to beat your ass?

And how, 5 years later I still have marks on my back and scares from stiches. God I loved her anyway one day I got so tired of defending my self I just stood there and let her whail on me. I figured 2 things, one If I started to go at her I would have klled her. two with every punch kick and whip with steel coat hanger as I was crawling away from her and she whipped me on my back as I struggled to get away. I became a better man and she certified her soul as evil and vile. I never wanted to go to her level. I don't know, I just felt it was the right thing to do, I wanted to protect her also, I never stopped loving her. And I had to keep it quite locked in a room upstares while the maid grabbed my son and took off whith him so he never saw a thing. She was eventually commited for a week then we divorced.
She got everything, my home on teh golf course, money alimoney, but I got full custody of my son. He is mine and I have already replaced the rest.

12 years 10 of them for my son and I took verbal and physical beatings weekly, you know I have no regrets because a was a good husband, never couch potato, always did as told and I loved to make her happy, not once in 12 years of marriage did I go out without her. Maybe I tried to hard.

And yes Slim now having my new wife ever makes it more worthwhile. but at the time a had no idea. I guess you have to suffer and the greater you do the greater the reward. I swear sometimes I felt Jeasus on the cross and I was taking it for all men to prove we are not the animals some women make us out to be.!

Never stoop to that level!

THANKS YOU! This is the most I have ever said to anyone anout this subject.

I love everyday even the bad ones. God Bless You All.!

 

[Forge]

yeah, but cheaters will always justify it by saying that its not in our DNA to be with only one partner for life.

It's a cop out, a way for them to justify their behavior as "OK". Cheating is a choice, not something people are forced to do by their DNA. Anyone who says their genes made them do it is feeling some thread of guilt over their actions.

I've got many many friends who have cheated and cheat regularly, I don't look down on them or think I'm better then them, it's their life and their choice. The fact is that many people do cheat, and often. It's just not something I'll ever "choose" to do, because I want my word to mean something in life.

 

[ponyfitness]

Cheating is a choice, not something people are forced to do by their DNA.

The fact is that many people do cheat, and often.

Bingo on both of these. Often times especially with women it is not a physical thing at all, it is emotional and mental - with men it is primarily physical because that's the difference in how we are wired.

I've been propositioned by married clients before - why? Because I spend time with them, talk to them, laugh with them and genuinely care about their welfare which is something their husbands stopped doing a long time ago. Even though they are paying for my time at least I'm making them feel good about themselves which automatically gives them something they don't have most of the time, and that makes them want more than just a friendship because turning it physical takes it to the next level for them.

The treatment I see of wives by some husbands makes me want to smack them and I'm not surprised they want something else - like emotional support or even good sex once in a while instead of a 20 pump dump, they just don't want to give up their marriage and kids for it. I have no problem with that.

I do believe that cheating is a choice. You also choose to stay in a crappy relationship when you would be much better out of it. Anyone on this board who has been through a breakup of a toxic relationship knows how much better they were once they stepped out of the box, myself included. Cheating is often just a symptom of a much bigger problem.

 

[Bikini Mod]

I honestly believe that people are wired to either be faithfull or not. Then, of course, there are circumstances - not everyone will choose the same reaction to the same set of circumstances and no one knows how they will react once they are put in a situation.

I am sure that everyone at one point in time or another has been in a situation where they could have cheated and their partner would never have known. This happens all the time in relationships of distance or where people have busy lives and though they live together they travel often, work late hours, etc.

Regardless of whether or not their partner could ever find out, the person who is doing the cheating is certainly aware.

Cheating/lying go hand in hand. I cant lie, especially not to anyone I care for as I wear my heart on my sleeve - hence I CHOOSE to be faithfull once I am committed. But not everyone is this way.

In my language there is an expression that even if your partner physically sits on top of you, if you WANT to cheat then all you need do is lift your leg and there you go.

I dont sweat issues like this. Trust is key. If I cant be with someone that I can trust 100% then I'd just as soon not be there rather than to be riddled with worry. I just couldnt deal with that type of stress.

 

[Raptorex]

I cheated on my right hand this morning!

 

[Lestat]

I cheated on my right hand this morning!

you went left hand style???