Well, I'm not going to weigh in definitively on booze or weed, life is stressful enough, if that helps you chill, I believe in moderation in things like that.
But I can honestly tell you that my first marriage failed in part due to the fact that my husband wouldn't give up doing just about everything else on that list, except the raves, after our son was born. He spent money we really couldn't spare on the stuff -- but didn't consider things like a savings account or home ownership important to the family -- and he whouldn't share his collectibles (toys) with his son.
Hobbies are fine, until they create resentment, and if you're going to slap a 2 year old because he touched an action figure, you need to reprioritize.