Why is it that people with kids

[miplank]

Yes...Children are Priority #1....BUT



The parents need to make time for themselves to keep their sanity, and their marriage healthy. Its not selfish, its the honest truth. Children are so a major part of your life that sometimes your marriage gets put on the back burner, so you need that time to "refresh and reconnect"

Now this time should be scheduled in advance so your kids aren't just left hangin', but it really is something all Husband/Wife should try and do atleast once a month IMO

 

[Smurfy]

Think its okay to be rude just because they have kids?

Stuff like cancel plans last minute and expect you not to be a little pissed when the babysitter has an "emergency".

why cant husbands watch the kids one night ? Women never ask the GUY to watch the kids while she goes out with her friends.

and then they wonder why their friends drop off the face of the earth when they have kids.

Um, I wouldnt ever have a SO who wouldnt be capable and willing to stay home with the child(ren) so I could go out with my friends.

 

[Smurfy]

For me, the worse thing is in Church when they let them act like they are in their playroom at home. UGH

Never was allowed when I was growing up.

 

[cindylou]

Um, I wouldnt ever have a SO who wouldnt be capable and willing to stay home with the child(ren) so I could go out with my friends.

i guess since i have an awesome SO myself (like u do i assume) maybe thats why i dont understand.

he would totally stay home to take care of the kids so I could see a long lost friend.

 

[Smurfy]

Yep. It is the ultimate excuse. They use it to get out of work to.

If you say something to them about it you are a uncaring bastard.

Dr Sketch would never be an uncaring bastard

 

[walliwalibus]

Thank God my wife's kids were older when I got married. And they even 14 years older now.... I never had the problem. But the church thing, I wasn't allowed to move. If I did, baaaaaaaaam! Right on spot, and I didn't want a scene. I was wise when I was young, someone tell me what happened? LOL

 

[walliwalibus]

Dr Sketch would never be an uncaring bastard

Oh My....................

 

[heatherrae]

I think that some people (me too) tend to become a bit numb to how others view their kids' behavior. For example, someone told me this weekend that my son was throwing a tantrum when he was really crying for me because I left the room to get something. I hadn't really thought of it as a tantrum but just as my son going through a bout of separation anxiety, lately. I still don't know if I would classify it as a tantrum or being spoiled because I don't know if a 1 year old has the cognitive skills yet to be manipulative. ??? The jury is still out, I guess. If he was throwing a tantrum, what is the mother of a 1 year old to do? Yelling at or spanking or punishing a one year old seems pretty pointless.

 

[Smurfy]

I think that some people (me too) tend to become a bit numb to how others view their kids' behavior. For example, someone told me this weekend that my son was throwing a tantrum when he was really crying for me because I left the room to get something. I hadn't really thought of it as a tantrum but just as my son going through a bout of separation anxiety, lately. I still don't know if I would classify it as a tantrum or being spoiled because I don't know if a 1 year old has the cognitive skills yet to be manipulative. ??? The jury is still out, I guess. If he was throwing a tantrum, what is the mother of a 1 year old to do? Yelling at or spanking or punishing a one year old seems pretty pointless.

kids learn how to get their needs met from day one.

 

[cindylou]

I think that some people (me too) tend to become a bit numb to how others view their kids' behavior. For example, someone told me this weekend that my son was throwing a tantrum when he was really crying for me because I left the room to get something. I hadn't really thought of it as a tantrum but just as my son going through a bout of separation anxiety, lately. I still don't know if I would classify it as a tantrum or being spoiled because I don't know if a 1 year old has the cognitive skills yet to be manipulative. ??? The jury is still out, I guess. If he was throwing a tantrum, what is the mother of a 1 year old to do? Yelling at or spanking or punishing a one year old seems pretty pointless.

I wouldnt think of tantrums until 2 years old. Once they start getting up and getting around they've got to learn the word No for their own safety - but crap. What can you do to a 1 year old?

i have no idea though. i dont have any. I would think you would get numb to that because so many people think they have the right to tell you what you should do. i have that already from my MIL and i dont even have kids yet. lol