Is everything forgivable?

[cindylou]

I dont think hes saying he wouldnt be hurt by the betrayal, he's saying since he wouldn't have gotten HIV, there were no lasting effects enough for it to be worth it to him to be upset over 15 years later. It's been over for a decade and a half.

Okay, that wasn't what I was getting from his post. I'm reading he would have gotten over it right away (which might be I have no idea how CEO works) just snap your fingers and everything is forgiven. I don't think everyone is really able to do that. However, CEO if you are able to do that then that's great. means you're a great guy with a forgiving spirit. Just...don't...know..if I believe it...lol. hahaha loooooove you CEO

 

[superqt4u2nv]

Why did you never bring charges against him? It is against the law in Canada to knowingly have unprotected sex when you have HIV/AIDS.

Is everything forgivable yes it but most people don't have the capacity and/or empathy to forgive others that have wronged them. They can't see past there pain and realize the person that inflicted it is much worse off in the end. You hold on to all that shit in your life and guess what you are going to have a pretty miserable existence.

 

[smurf2]

I dont agree.
I hold onto the resentment and hatred and I don't live a miserable existence at all.

 

[ceo]

I dont agree.
I hold onto the resentment and hatred and I don't live a miserable existence at all.

I don't hold on to any of it and I still live a miserable existence. So...?

 

[smurf2]

I don't hold on to any of it and I still live a miserable existence. So...?

exactly!

 

[superqt4u2nv]

I dont agree.
I hold onto the resentment and hatred and I don't live a miserable existence at all.

Maybe miserable existence isn’t the best choice of words. However it does have an effect on people. It effects your overall health and wellbeing to hold on to things. It often manifests itself in other areas you are not even aware of.

Do you really think it’s a great example for your kids to see you hold on to such things? To not have the ability to forgive and move past things.

 

[smurf2]

Maybe miserable existence isn’t the best choice of words. However it does have an effect on people. It effects your overall health and wellbeing to hold on to things. It often manifests itself in other areas you are not even aware of.

Do you really think it’s a great example for your kids to see you hold on to such things? To not have the ability to forgive and move past things.

My kids have no idea. How would they? Its not like I go around on a regular basis talking about it or expressing my feelings about it in front of them.

 

[superqt4u2nv]

My kids have no idea. How would they? Its not like I go around on a regular basis talking about it or expressing my feelings about it in front of them.

So if you hide it from your kids you are aware that it's not the best choice to carry around those feelings correct?

If thats the case why not just let it go.

 

[smurf2]

So if you hide it from your kids you are aware that it's not the best choice to carry around those feelings correct?

If thats the case why not just let it go.

lol that doesnt make any sense. just because my kids dont know about it doesnt mean its not the best choice. my kids dont know everything,. they're kids. they dont need to be privy to everything. and my holding on to the feelings I have has no impact on them since the person in question is not in our lives whatsoever.

 

[superqt4u2nv]

lol that doesnt make any sense. just because my kids dont know about it doesnt mean its not the best choice. my kids dont know everything,. they're kids. they dont need to be privy to everything. and my holding on to the feelings I have has no impact on them since the person in question is not in our lives whatsoever.

I simply can't see the logic in holding on to those kinds of feelings if the person is not in your life.

If you think that on some level your kids can't sense things that are going on with you then you are not really giving them enough credit. Maybe not the baby but the boy for sure is old enough to sense these kinds of emotions.