wife is of ZERO help w/ anything financial.

[heatherrae]

if you make 300k+ a year you wouldnt have to worry about trivial shit, you would have bigger shit to fight about!!! dude money is just a symbol. what you described in your post is relationship 101.dividing chores, what do you expect from each other, you dont feel your needs are gettin met and chances are she doesnt either. when i met my first wife (she refers to herself as dumbass #1) we made like 30k ayear combined. she worked as a waitress on the weekend and i was a jr. sales manager. neither one of us knew anything about relationships and it was a fucking nightmare. well 18 years later and wife #3 i finally got it right. i make 10 times more money and she doesnt work but that aint the secret to our success. we have learned to communicate our needs and not make each other "pay" for historical events. ppl are attracted to ppl that remind them of primary caregivers. the things that attract us initially wind up repelling us in short order, usually around the 2 year mark,thats when the endorphins have settled down and reality sets in. lots of folks feel the strain and start the splitting process, even if they stay together physically. whats really happening is a mutual working out of past traumas projected on to your love interest. all of this is subconscious and we are just automatons in a tragic play. when you "get" this, you guys can do something about it. most folks take a few xanax and start the bed hoppin game and land in the same relationship with another body. good luck to you and yours. i know first hand how painful this shit can be.

YOu should write a book about this. It would be a best seller.

 

[yonkers weights]

No, I agree but in our case we needed it. It was a hard time. My wife and her father could of died. She was at home and was in bed for 4 weeks alone. She could not lift anything or drive or do anything. It was hard on us. But we got through with alittle help. Now she is fine and we are lucky but still keep the lady around to help out and to help her too!

Fair enough.
My post was a little over the top anyways.
To each his/her own. I suppose people can spend their money how they deem fit.

 

[layinback]

YOu should write a book about this. It would be a best seller.

na. 10,000 ppl already beat me to it. shit this stuff is as common as anal\genital warts on puddlemonkey.

 

[digimon7068]

i know some very good attorneys. . .lemme know when your ready and i'll give you a referral. . .

 

[heatherrae]

na. 10,000 ppl already beat me to it. shit this stuff is as common as anal\genital warts on puddlemonkey.

The same people who bought the other 10,000 would buy one more...lol.

 

[Y_lifter]

Is she at least Hot ?

 

[vixensghost]

$300 a week to clean?? come on now. You livin large in 15000 sq ft with like 10 bathrooms?

I have a big house, but not a 15000 sq. footer....Biiiiiggggg all the same!

My cleaning lady is single with three kids. She's worth EVERY cent I pay her. She also does more than the average "cleaning" lady would do too. I also trust her. Trust is important to us.

 

[Razorguns]

so why u marry her? a nice ass? the only nice ass that gave u the time of day at the club? ask yourself that.

people don't change. people just find out people's true colors once the honeymoon is over. but nobody 'changes'.

r

 

[biteme]

I get so aggravated with it sometimes, she tells me to hide all the porn, her mom is coming over tomm. to clean the house. She pays her mother $20 to come over once/wk and clean. Now, this would not bother me if the situation were a little different. Here is why I get pissed #1- my wife works p/t at some fucking 15-20 hr/wk job. I really dont see why we need a cleaning lady. #2- my mother in law has not ONCE looked for work in the past 2 years, and her and her husband are struggling. He busts his ass and she sits around. Now all of a sudden my wife thinks she needs to "help her" by letting her do this crap every week. #3- my old lady cant even pay 1 fucking bill by herself. NOT ONE. Granted she only makes like $200 a week working p/t but she cant pay her own car payment, cant pay our home phone, electric, nothing. I fucking do it all, everything. She is of zero help to me in any possible way financially. Not saying it isnt my responsibility to try to support us, but this is not the 1950's and we are not Ozzie and Harriet anymore. It takes 2 these days. I wish I stayed fucking single sometimes. Some bitches are just plain lazy and it's getting very tough to earn my respect anymore.

Typical woman. To find a good one is like finding a flea in a haystack.

 

[cindylou]

I have a big house, but not a 15000 sq. footer....Biiiiiggggg all the same!

My cleaning lady is single with three kids. She's worth EVERY cent I pay her. She also does more than the average "cleaning" lady would do too. I also trust her. Trust is important to us.

I think thats great that you pay her what you think she is worth insted of some of those maid cleaning services that charge X dollars per hour and give them 8 bucks an hour no benefits.

Cleaning houses is hard work, and tho anyone can do it, it is still hard work worth good $$ if you find a good cleaning lady who actually disinfects instead of just wiping stuff down with a dirty lukewarm rag to make everything look "neat".