What possesses some people..

[sweed]

If i see anyone in the gym, whether i know them or not and see they are having the least bit of trouble, i run behind the bench and help them out.. I dont wanna see someone being strangled by the bar, haha

 

[guldukat]

Probably just hitting on you. When I was dating my future ex-wife some dude did the same thing to her and started to chat her up after the set until I walked up and he put 2+2 together and ran off. She still thought he was "just being nice."

Bingo.

Smurfy, Alan just thinks you're cute! (Seen your avatar lately? We can't condemn him for that .)

Offering a spot's the perfect way to talk to a gal, at least in a guy's mind. It:

--shows off in a semi-subtle way, since he can easily "help" you with your work weights. Wooo, he's strong!
--lets him get into your personal space, and probably to stand over you. Both establish an unspoken pecking order; even if he doesn't realize what he's doing, partly it could be to show dominance/taking charge.
--shows he's [mock?] considerate, at least inasmuch as he could say his intentions are good.

It's also kind of like a complex question, e.g., "Do you still kick your dog every day?" That is, you can't just answer yes or no, or you'll come off like a heel.
OTOH, accepting his help lets him talk to you a bit, so he "wins"; but refusing it in all but the most polite manner, and he could whine that he was just trying to help (again "winning" as the pretend nice guy).

I know it's goofy, but from many guys' eyes, it really is a win-win situation. He thinks he looks sensitive AND tough at the same time.

That, and dejection doesn't sting so much. Asking for your number and being slammed is one thing...being turned down for a spot's something even the most ego-driven guy can shrug off in 30 seconds

 

[theoak01]

Ive had people try to before when I was maxing,The thought was ok but buddy was about to grab the bar when I knew I had it.

Ive also been on the stuck end of things ,which equally sucks

 

[strongsmartsexy]

So many people at the gym work without spotters. Most of them don't lift enough to worry about. If someone appears to be lifting a lot and doesn't have a partner, I'll ask them if they'd like a spot. If they're in the middle of reps and look to be struggling, I will go to a spotting position and make sure they don't hurt themselves. WHen they're done with the set, I'll make sure they know that I'd be happy to spot them in the future.

I've only had a couple of guys tell me to fuck off. I just smile at them and tell them to bite my ass.