My wife hates her mother...

[EnderJE]

...but feels guilty if we kick her out because she helps take care of the kids.

To me, it's a funny story.

I'll be the first to admit it was my mistake asking her to come live with us, but I always saw it as a temporary thing because I had no qualms about kicking her out when she outlived her usefulness. To me, that time would be next September. I like her. But, if there's one thing that my Dad always told me is that 'dead weight is never a good thing' and 'anyone is expendable'.

My wife recently calculated that we give her more money then daycare costs (via food, cable, etc) and she still wants more, because she feel entitles to it. I think that's the part that got her. The MIL recently had guests over and she consumed more then her share of the food budget.

Yet, my wife doesn't say anything. Funny story.

Like when you shake a bottle of Pepsi. It only take a few shakes before it blows up.

If my expectations are correct, this should be September of next year.

Ain't family life grand?

 

[chris302001]

Shake the MIL like a bottle of soda and then report back to EF.....I just wanna see what happens.

 

[Oceano]

But, if there's one thing that my Dad always told me is that 'dead weight is never a good thing' and 'anyone is expendable'.

lmao wtf?

 

[chris302001]

Like when you shake a bottle of Pepsi. It only take a few shakes before it blows up.

Try a bottle of Diet Pepsi Max....it takes 1.89 shakes...

 

[EnderJE]

lmao wtf?

Some of my friends saw him as harsh. To me, he was my Dad and gave me a great view of the dog eat dog world.

 

[superqt4u2nv]

Some of my friends saw him as harsh. To me, he was my Dad and gave me a great view of the dog eat dog world.

Bits tongue .... must not make asain joke

 

[Grumpy Old Man]

Bits tongue .... must not make asain joke

She too fat eat too much she need to go now!

 

[stilleto]

where's the funny story part?


Does she take good care of your children?
also, is your MIL capable of living on her own comfortably? if not, then she's not dead weight, she's her mother and obviously didn't consider your wife "dead weight" when she was being raised.
just my opinion. although, i could never live with my mom either.

 

[Thandie]

I am shocked by this trhead!

I used to 'hate' my mother, but not because she was dead weight as you said, but because she was physically, mentally and emotionally abusive since I was in single digits. I carry that feeling for years and it felt I was carrying something on my back and didn't leave me. I was fortunate enough to have the senses and think that if my mother died, I would have had that feeling for the rest of my life and I certainly didn't want that. I have forgiving my mother and not only that, I found LOVE for my mother and I have to tell you, I never felt better. I am free and happy.

I suggest to your wife, that whatever it is that's making her hate her mother, and I guaranty you is not the food she's consuming or the space she's taking; is something she's holding from her childhood. I suggest she resolves that and cleans it out, because when her mother dies, she'll have lots of regrets and there's nothing she could do at that point.

No, I could never live with my mother, but I forgave her and better yet, I don't have to live wit those negative feelings that were consuming me. It's obviously consuming you or you wouldn't have to start a thread on it.

 

[EnderJE]

where's the funny story part?

Does she take good care of your children?
also, is your MIL capable of living on her own comfortably? if not, then she's not dead weight, she's her mother and obviously didn't consider your wife "dead weight" when she was being raised.
just my opinion. although, i could never live with my mom either.

To me, the funny story part is that she doesn't do something about it and have a conversation with the MIL on the topic.

As for your second point, perhaps. However, my wife has been supporting her mother since 16. She's had to kick in some money with every part time job and every full time job, while her dead beat older brother gets a free ride and doesn't have to contribute anything. There's a sense that the MIL is taking advantage of the situation because the request for money are always increasing with no additional benefits.