Is bullying that bad?

[kx250rider]

Violence is the last option on the list. But it IS on the list.

I really hate to say it, but it is indeed on the table if as a last resort. I never used it, and that's probably why I never ended the bullying in school. I just went through school avoiding it and laughing it off, and I was shocked at how much influence that sh*t had on me later in life. It's a deep wound that isn't visible, and we don't always know we have it.

My wife, who is little, had to end some bullying when she was in middle school. A big dude was bugging her (not sexually), but just constantly teasing her and calling her names, and finally she laid him out flat with a black eye and possibly a cracked rib or two. She was never, never, never hassled in school again by anyone; male or female. Even if it doesn't have to go that far, it's amazing what a little bit of face-off can do, even if you don't make contact. I was in a spot with a cowboy-type (about my size), and he was mouthing off to us about a problem with his girlfriend's horse (boarded at our place). He started escallating things, and all I had to do was stand up and take a step toward him, and he backed down, and it was over with. I can't say that would work every time, and honestly I doubt I have the skills to have taken that guy, but he didn't know that.

Charles

 

[hanselthecaretaker]

Not the case. Many bullies just try harder. Not to mention, many bullies are bigger and stronger than their victims....hence the bullying.
Not saying dont stand up to them though.

Us older people think kids are soft now a days.
The older generation always thinks the younger one is fucked up and has it easy.


"When I was your age we had to walk up hill both ways in the snow to school"

Shit like that should sound familiar to most of us.

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The funny thing is I did do that lol. There were hills both to and from school, but the worst part was the snow. 5th grade through freshman year I remember walking a little less than a mile one way in storms that would've closed any downstate school for the day. This was in the UP of MI though; things are a little different up there lol.

 

[digimon7068]

I know that it's bad for some people, but I don't get why they decided to self harm.

I tell my kids to attack back. Is he bigger then you? Use a chair. Worst case, they're kicked out and they get home schooled or I switch them to private school.

my son is in kindergarten and started wrestling this year and he's actually pretty good too...if someone fucks with him, i expect him to defend himself and he knows that...but, if he (or my girls) found himself in a repetitive abuse type situation that he could not handle himself?? that's easy...i hunt down the offending party's parent(s) and i fuck their shit up until they control their child's behavior.

 

[canadianhitman]

strike first
strike hard
no mercy sir

is what i teach my kids about bullying

AMEN

I tell my nephews the best way to deal with a bully is to throw a straight right with everything you have smack-dab in the middle of their face. The 3-day or week suspension or whatever from school is a joke; it sets the tone and you are no longer an attractive target for kids looking to bully after you bloody up one of their kind.

 

[cindylou]

When I was in grade 8, I was bullied daily by a bunch of black girls. They would follow me down the hall and pushed me or they would wait for me at the bus stop and surround me like they were going to hit me. Then one day, I took all the IRISH I had in me and this one girl (still remember her name Dejon....shocker) went to grab me and I went hog wild on her ass! Went right in her face, yelled at her and didn't need to touch her and they all ran away like fucking pussies!

Since I was in my late teens, no one dare bully me.

Damn. I never ran into any situation where I felt scared like that or was bullied physically. I was never teased or bullied in elementary school olol I cried if someone was mean to me.

 

[miplank]

I cried if someone was mean to me.

Some things never change...lolollol

 

[ledhead]

my son is in kindergarten and started wrestling this year and he's actually pretty good too...if someone fucks with him, i expect him to defend himself and he knows that...but, if he (or my girls) found himself in a repetitive abuse type situation that he could not handle himself?? that's easy...i hunt down the offending party's parent(s) and i fuck their shit up until they control their child's behavior.

Lol. That is one way to stop your kids from being bullied. Here is something that might interest you. Benito Mussolini was a Elementary School Teacher prior to becoming Italy's Fascist Dictator, believe it or not it is true. Anyway, the story goes that the kids in his class were very unruly and he refused to discipline them, but he would go to the kid's houses and beat-up their parents, lololo, I guess it worked...

Back on topic, I taught high schools social studies for years, I never thought bullying was really a problem, kids are pussies nowadays, not one would have made it growing up in the 70s and 80s.. Bullying was bad back then - fight or flight - is right on! Parents and teachers condoned fighting on the sly...

 

[cindylou]

Some things never change...lolollol

 

[just...v]

what the fuck???

damn, you must have went to a rough school.

what a bunch of chickenshits. 5 dudes against 1 girl?

none of the schools i went to would have anything like that happened. if it did, it would have been a shitstorm.

girl on girl violence is one thing...

It actually was a good school with a bunch of privileged kids. I think that was part of the problem. The administration had a "talk" with everyone involved and their parents and all that came of it was detentions for some of the boys. That only made things worse.

 

[digimon7068]

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Lol. That is one way to stop your kids from being bullied. Here is something that might interest you. Benito Mussolini was a Elementary School Teacher prior to becoming Italy's Fascist Dictator, believe it or not it is true. Anyway, the story goes that the kids in his class were very unruly and he refused to discipline them, but he would go to the kid's houses and beat-up their parents, lololo, I guess it worked...

Back on topic, I taught high schools social studies for years, I never thought bullying was really a problem, kids are pussies nowadays, not one would have made it growing up in the 70s and 80s.. Bullying was bad back then - fight or flight - is right on! Parents and teachers condoned fighting on the sly...

honestly?? there's no damn bullying nowadays...unless you count the sissy-ass electronic bullying bullshit...and, you need look no further than the boys that are wearing eye makeup and skinny jeans (girl's one's for chrissakes) that they bought at the deb, to school...that shit wouldn't have lasted 5 minutes when i was in school...a (female) teacher acquintance recently told me that she thinks we need to bring back bullying to get rid of some of the nancy-boy bullshit that we have in schools now...bunch of fuggin' freaks walking around, attracting attention to themselves and they are encouraged to do so...not my son! he's enrolled in a sport where the required equipment is a very manly, clingy, nylon/lycra, singlet!