Is bullying that bad?

[caligirl85]

I know a guy who's son was bullied so bad he pulled him from school. My oldest is a popular football player, and over the last year, has grown to be a pretty big kid. I talked to my son and told him the problems this boy was having. He befriended this kid and when the boy started school he introduced him to other kids creating a network for the boy to turn to if he had any problems.

The boy has been going to my son's school for over a month now and as far as I know he is doing well.

I wonder if we had a big brother system like that in place it would help some of the kids that are getting bullied.

Love the avi V!!

I think it would make a difference for sure for some of these kids in schools. It's amazing the difference one can make!!

 

[caligirl85]

Neat.

Why not tell the child to hit back? If he's not strong enough, then why not tell him to use a chair? Or a wrench? Or something like that? The average person won't cross a certain line (no, not murder or anything like that). Why not be willing to cross that line?

I think that parents minimize the bullying because their memories of their own experiences are from along time ago.


On a less serious note, so if I fake a mental illness and get transferred to your ward, I'll get to spend more quality 1 / 1 time with you? Excellent.

LOL..you'll have to lie down on the couch and tell me all your secrets!

Believe me, I definitely got to the point of trying to toughen him up but he, at that time, was a pretty anxious kid, with very poor coping skills and it led to panic attacks, rather then the desire to fight back. I didn't actually see it in him until that time but we've worked really hard to learn some skills and he's a different kid now...5 years later.

 

[cindylou]

You want me to bully Plank for you, Cindy?

lol nah. Thanks though. This thread has made me feel guilty all over again. I suppose I deserve some abuse

 

[digimon7068]

lol nah. Thanks though. This thread has made me feel guilty all over again. I suppose I deserve some abuse

or at least a good spanking

 

[caligirl85]

based on your work experience, would you say that bullying is worse or would you say that kids have less coping skills (and ass-beating skills) nowadays compared to back in the day??

just curious, since you have experience in the field.

I think that technology has added a whole new dimension to bullying. It's so much easier and kids can be so much more cruel and reach a higher population with whatever they are saying. The other aspect is that kids are exposed to so much more then I ever remember being so often the issues they get bullied over seem so much more complex. For example, we see a lot of kids who are "bisexual" because it's like a trend and then end up doing something and the word spreads and everyone teases them, makes fun etc.

Kids do seem to have less coping skills these days and I'm not sure if it's because society has changed so much? parents and families are that much busier? more exposure to things? A combination of all of that maybe.

 

[bobby6638]

Love the avi V!!

I think it would make a difference for sure for some of these kids in schools. It's amazing the difference one can make!!

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[bobby6638]

I know a guy who's son was bullied so bad he pulled him from school. My oldest is a popular football player, and over the last year, has grown to be a pretty big kid. I talked to my son and told him the problems this boy was having. He befriended this kid and when the boy started school he introduced him to other kids creating a network for the boy to turn to if he had any problems.

The boy has been going to my son's school for over a month now and as far as I know he is doing well.

I wonder if we had a big brother system like that in place it would help some of the kids that are getting bullied.

Hey V,, This is to you,,,,

I have to say That's is a FINE young man you have there. You should be extremely proud of him. No one will mess with the kid cause they know your son would crush them!!!
I feel bullying is bad. I get all the macho bullshit guys are saying on here but everyone is not going to an aggressive macho fighting guy like RAMBO it just isn't being realistic, & IMHO that's ok

These bullies pray on the weak kids. they wouldn't dare mess with someone that can carry themselves well. So they target the shy quiet type.. Its easy to say "go hit them with a chair" or what ever but some kids just aren't able too & again there is nothing wrong with that imo..

It sucks for them that they have to endure this treatment by these punks who get off on making others feel like shit.. If more kids would be like YOUR SON there would be a lot less bullying going on. It's hard enough for these kids today. Most kids just want to fit in. Plus we have guns & knives today. These punks are too scared to use their hands they are real tough when they have a gun tho..

I have 3 girls & 1 little boy. I teach my kids to never follow the crowd. If any of their friends are bulling anyone they better straighten their friend out or I will straighten my kids out.

Any way I am rambling in my old age,, But give that kid of yours a pat on the back for me!!!

 

[superqt4u2nv]

It's funny I was actually talking to a friend about this not long ago. He was small as kid shorter looked younger etc. He started a new school and a bigger kid in the same grade started pushing him a round. So one day after school he beat the holy hell out of the kid. The next day kids older brother came up to him said I heard your beat the shit out of my brother. He said yes do you have a problem with that I can do it to you too. LOL

The guy was 2 years older looked at him said boy you better hit the weights before taking me on. So that day my friend went home started lifting weights. About 6 months later he'd grown a lot was way stronger went back up to the older brother was like I been lifting weights like you said when do I get my shot at you.

This guy has now broken world records in powerlifting and bench press. Back in the day people could take this shit as motivation to better themselves.

 

[digimon7068]

I think that technology has added a whole new dimension to bullying. It's so much easier and kids can be so much more cruel and reach a higher population with whatever they are saying. The other aspect is that kids are exposed to so much more then I ever remember being so often the issues they get bullied over seem so much more complex. For example, we see a lot of kids who are "bisexual" because it's like a trend and then end up doing something and the word spreads and everyone teases them, makes fun etc.

Kids do seem to have less coping skills these days and I'm not sure if it's because society has changed so much? parents and families are that much busier? more exposure to things? A combination of all of that maybe.

coping is learned behavior and for a lot of years now, most kids have been raised in a house where they aren't trained to handle issues as they arise...instead, mommy and daddy come running the the "rescue" (they're not really rescuing them) and they blame everyone else...it's the school's fault, it's the legal system's fault, it's mcdonald's fault (that my kid is a fat ass) etc...kids aren't trained to take responsibility for themselves and their actions...it's always everyone else's fault...and part of it is societal...if you take repsonsibility for anything in our society, there's some friggin' lawyer standing there waiting to sue everyone...the adults have been trained to not take responsibility and then they train their kids the same way...it's horseshit.

my kids (especially my girls...they're almost 12 now) probably think i'm a complete dork but, when we are standing out front in the morning waiting for the school bus i make them give me a kiss on the cheek and i make them recite the following phrase EVERY DAY..."we will take responsibility for everything we do today, whether it's good or bad"...i'm right...society is wrong.

my humble opinion.

 

[EnderJE]

coping is learned behavior and for a lot of years now, most kids have been raised in a house where they aren't trained to handle issues as they arise...instead, mommy and daddy come running the the "rescue" (they're not really rescuing them) and they blame everyone else...it's the school's fault, it's the legal system's fault, it's mcdonald's fault (that my kid is a fat ass) etc...kids aren't trained to take responsibility for themselves and their actions...it's always everyone else's fault...and part of it is societal...if you take repsonsibility for anything in our society, there's some friggin' lawyer standing there waiting to sue everyone...the adults have been trained to not take responsibility and then they train their kids the same way...it's horseshit.

my kids (especially my girls...they're almost 12 now) probably think i'm a complete dork but, when we are standing out front in the morning waiting for the school bus i make them give me a kiss on the cheek and i make them recite the following phrase EVERY DAY..."we will take responsibility for everything we do today, whether it's good or bad"...i'm right...society is wrong.

my humble opinion.

Geez, what happens in 10 years when your girls tell you about A2M?