Is bullying that bad?

[ledhead]

I think that technology has added a whole new dimension to bullying. It's so much easier and kids can be so much more cruel and reach a higher population with whatever they are saying. The other aspect is that kids are exposed to so much more then I ever remember being so often the issues they get bullied over seem so much more complex. For example, we see a lot of kids who are "bisexual" because it's like a trend and then end up doing something and the word spreads and everyone teases them, makes fun etc.

Kids do seem to have less coping skills these days and I'm not sure if it's because society has changed so much? parents and families are that much busier? more exposure to things? A combination of all of that maybe.

Lol. What are they going to do text someone to death or assault someone with their ipod???

Here are three shocking conclusions:

1). Parents are pretty much psychologically unstable nowadays (engrossed with economic
apprehension, and they signed a "guilt clause" because their parents were hard on them).

2). Entirely too many single moms (lack of strong male figure).

3). The education system peddles counterculture ideas.

 

[digimon7068]

Geez, what happens in 10 years when your girls tell you about A2M?

i prolly won't make them kiss me on the cheek anymore...

 

[youpissmeoff]

Lol. What are they going to do text someone to death or assault someone with their ipod???

Here are three shocking conclusions:

1). Parents are pretty much psychologically unstable nowadays (engrossed with economic
apprehension, and they signed a "guilt clause" because their parents were hard on them).

2). Entirely too many single moms (lack of strong male figure).

3). The education system peddles counterculture ideas.

Fuck - agree with a lot of what Ledhead is saying here.

 

[nangiggles]

I agree that cyber bullying can get out of hand, back in the day bullying was a bit more physical and it happened mostly at school or on your way to school, nowadays due to technology it doesnt stop at all! they facebook, they chat, they text, they tweet, they upload videos, etc so kid gets home from being bullied and checks their facebook and sees a bunch of shit, or gets random messages, etc it doesnt stop at school anymore and this constant bombarding is more than a lot of them can handle, it gets really really bad, there is a reason why laws are being passed against it now, it's true society is getting softer and coping skills have declined but bullying has also escalated.

Those of you with kids I highly recommend that you watch the movie Cyberbully

 

[AFeedz]

Cyber bullying is parents' fault too. There's no reason young kids should be on Facebook or Twitter or whatever. I don't know why the age to join those sites is 13 and up (especially when kids under 13 lie to get on all the time). 13 year olds are just not mature enough to be allowed to gather like that on the Internet, nor should they be on sharing personal info like that for obvious safety reasons but that's another story.

Parents allow their kids on there. It's sick. Then when their kid gets in trouble, parents try to take it away but the damage has been done and the kid is already addicted. The kid is going to find a way back on. Parents need to not allow kids to be on those sites from the get go. You wouldn't let a group of 100 13 year olds hang out alone, why would you leave them alone online?

And those sites need to raise and enforce the minimum age allowed.

 

[smurf2]

My kid is 13 and just recently got on FB. But, we monitor him online with the use of NetNanny. Inappropriate posts or private messages get sent to our email. My kid really just uses FB to chat with his friends and post funny YouTube vids. Plus he's friends with everyone at school, he's not a kid that would ever bully or ever be bullied

 

[smurf2]

Also it's real easy to say what you won't allow your teenager to do but unless or until you have a kid/teenager, you really don't know how things will actually go. Plus, it starts with what you teach them at home about what is and is not acceptable as far as interacting with others be it online or in person.

 

[caligirl85]

Lol. What are they going to do text someone to death or assault someone with their ipod???

Here are three shocking conclusions:

1). Parents are pretty much psychologically unstable nowadays (engrossed with economic
apprehension, and they signed a "guilt clause" because their parents were hard on them).

2). Entirely too many single moms (lack of strong male figure).

3). The education system peddles counterculture ideas.

I agree with your conclusions ^^. I do think technology plays a role though...I've seen kids who have attempted to take their own life based on texts, facebook etc and I've seen cases where charges are laid because of those texts/ emails. They may be the extreme cases and not the norm of society but it absolutely plays a role.

 

[caligirl85]

Also it's real easy to say what you won't allow your teenager to do but unless or until you have a kid/teenager, you really don't know how things will actually go. Plus, it starts with what you teach them at home about what is and is not acceptable as far as interacting with others be it online or in person.

I agree. Ultimately, it still comes back to parenting and teaching our kids, giving them coping skills and teaching them how to be responsible.

 

[ledhead]

I agree with your conclusions ^^. I do think technology plays a role though...I've seen kids who have attempted to take their own life based on texts, facebook etc and I've seen cases where charges are laid because of those texts/ emails. They may be the extreme cases and not the norm of society but it absolutely plays a role.

I agree with you. I was just getting to the root of the problems. Not to sound like a contradicting prick, but I think it is societies norm to be subject to pop culture especially for kids. Society puts up weird standards that a lot of kids cannot meet and in return you have a bunch of kids who develope bizarre complexes. Consequently, that is why the majority of them are on some kind of psychotropic meds or become suicidal because they cannot live up to those standards.

I work in the education field. I try not to pay attention too much about what the latest fads and trends are. However, you pick up on things here and there and piece them together. The latest fad or trend I noticed is with the girls. Every girl has to have a boyfriend, no matter if they really like that boy or not because all the other girls have boyfriends and they do not want to be dateless on a Friday night because they might be deemed as a social outcast (i actually had girls confess this to me on the sly). Therefore, they settle for anything or anybody to fit in, which is not a good idea as far as I am concerned.. Because through my experiences watching from afar it usually ends in a horrific manner. Then all hell breaks loose, I seen it a thousand times...