got dumped..BUT I'M GONNA GET PUMPED, HUMPED, JUMPED AND BUMPED!

[strongsmartsexy]

Re: got dumped..

I'm a fucking pussy.. i nearly cried reading that. Where'd my fuckin nuts go??

Crying does not make you a pussy. It's a normal human emotion when you're hurting. This is naturally a very emotionally charged time for you now. Just know that it will get better over time and that the more you focus on yourself the easier it will become.

 

[Lestat]

Re: got dumped..

I suppose it could be tough. I personally have never had a problem fucking new women post-break up as most relationships seemed to end quite bitterly, but sometimes you gotta suck it up and do what ya gotta do. Sex with sluts seem to increase seratonin levels which help you through the transition of recovery.

yeah.. there was no bitterness here.. so it makes it even harder.. if I had something to get pissed about.. something about her I just couldn't stand.. I could focus on that instead of the pain.. but this one is just being chalked up to a change of heart on her part.. who knows why... she claims to not know exactly, just that she felt like she needed to be on her own and have some space.

 

[Becoming]

Re: got dumped..

I cant say anything is for sure or forever, but that is what i feel and what my heart and gut are telling me at this point.....

Brian, it kills me everytime i think of you hurting but i know you are
the strongest and best suited to deal with what comes your way and i
know 100% for sure that you will find happiness.

lamest shit ever bro - don't call or email her ass anymore... typical chick saying "things might change in the future", and "i feel sorry for you"

Here is what you do....

move on with your life, have fun, do what you like to do, do things that will make you better (physically, mentally, etc)... you will find a new chick and be happier than you are now...

she will see this and want to come back to you...

by that time you won't give a rat's ass about her....

you win.

 

[jerkbox]

Re: got dumped..

girls suck....relationships suck......everyone sucks

 

[Ulcasterdropout]

Re: got dumped..

girls suck....relationships suck......everyone sucks

Best post ever.....

 

[jerseyart]

Re: got dumped..

lestat,

Sorry to read about your troubles bro, hang in there. It does get easier.

Did she actually break up with you by e-mail, or was that intended as a don't call me anymore letter?

In any case don't romanticize the past. It's easy afterwards to remember everything through rose colored glasses. Concentrate on the bad stuff in the relationship, and it'll help.

Don't let the crying and gut pain bother you. That's part of the healing, and there is no avoiding it really. When your ready, there are tons of beautiful and available women who would love to be in a relationship. Good luck man.

 

[Lestat]

Re: got dumped..

lamest shit ever bro - don't call or email her ass anymore... typical chick saying "things might change in the future", and "i feel sorry for you"

Here is what you do....

move on with your life, have fun, do what you like to do, do things that will make you better (physically, mentally, etc)... you will find a new chick and be happier than you are now...

she will see this and want to come back to you...

by that time you won't give a rat's ass about her....

you win.

I've tried to work myself into this mentallity.. really... but let me tell you why I think this is hard...

1) this was the first chick I ever dated that worked out regularly
2) this was the first chick I dated that watched what we ate more closely then I did!
3) this is the first chick I ever dated that i felt was actually even smarter then me (for example she got a 760 out of 800 on the GMAT.. she went to Duke)
4) this is the first chick that really accepted me and all my little fucked up problems... I'm a pretty normal guy, but there are a couple things that just really irk me and she completely understood (e.g I hate strawberries... I hate gum..)
5) sex with this girl was killer.... she knew exactly what I loved and would often go a whole session just pleasing me.... plus, this was a first.. this girl would cum pretty much EVERY time we had sex.. at least once.. many times more... I've had girls that its fucking once in a blue moon that they cum and thats with a lot of extra help.. or they only cum from oral... etc.
6) her family was awesome.. he parents and siblings loved me.. her little brother looked to me like a big brother.. her dad invited me on trips and shit with him... her mom would have had me over for every meal of the week if I wanted and when she did have me over she'd feed me like 5 turkey burgers.. or a pound of fish.. you couldn't have asked for more.
7) she got along with all my friends.. Im 27.. she is 23... I have a lot of friends.. mostly couples and she went on trips with me and them and fit right in and my friend and their significant others loved her.
8) most importantly.. she just made me feel fucking happy every day.. i felt loved every second that we were "together" meaning even if we were not together in person I just knew.. i had the ultimate sense of security.
9) normally when i date chicks.. there is always something missing.. I get that feeling that this is all so cool.. EXCEPT.... or I WISH this one thing was just different.. or I WISH i felt this certain way.. with this girl there was none of that... I never once seriously questioned things.. I knew from day 1 that this girl was a 100% keeper
10) she wasn't drama filled at all.. I can't stand that.. having to constantly deal with some stupid drama.. that burns me out fast... there was none of that.. we had a couple times where we talked about "us" that was emotional.. but that is to be expected and we were always stronger each time after.. but no petty bullshit here.

there is so much more too.. the thought of finding that in someone else seems so impossible to me now.

 

[Lestat]

Re: got dumped..

lestat,

Sorry to read about your troubles bro, hang in there. It does get easier.

Did she actually break up with you by e-mail, or was that intended as a don't call me anymore letter?

In any case don't romanticize the past. It's easy afterwards to remember everything through rose colored glasses. Concentrate on the bad stuff in the relationship, and it'll help.

Don't let the crying and gut pain bother you. That's part of the healing, and there is no avoiding it really. When your ready, there are tons of beautiful and available women who would love to be in a relationship. Good luck man.

thanks a lot man.. I will try to take this to heart.

and no, we broke up in person.. not email.. I've since been talking to her a lot.. she came over yesterday.. and I basically sent her a journal of all my thoughts and emotions since the breakup... I know most people say don't do that shit.. but I couldn't help it.

We spent all day together last Saturday.. then that night at like 10pm when I was dropping her off she says "can you come in, I want to talk to you about something.."

I go in.. and she says "there is no easy way to say this, but I think we should break up.."

she goes on to say that she feels like she needs to be on her own.. to have some space.. to know what its like to date other people.. that she is young and feels like there is still stuff she needs to do...

I was pissed.. didn't want to get emtional then.. so I left... that left a lot unsaid so we've talked on the phone.. in person.. over email.. a lot since.. and I know what you'll say.. i need to stop... the constant reminders of her are not going to do me any good.

 

[Razorguns]

Re: got dumped..

well if you ever wanna party it up in la bro -- look me up. I know that feeling *all* too well.

 

[SoreArms]

Re: got dumped..

also, i've been amazed at the depth and articulate nature of your
emails. holy shit. you can write too!

I didn't read the responses so I don't know if anyone else pointed this out already, but this last line smells of fake.

If it is not fake, then I feel for you bro. Nothing feels worst than a broken heart.

If it is fake, then suck a dick for getting people to express their emotions with your fake shit!