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got dumped..BUT I'M GONNA GET PUMPED, HUMPED, JUMPED AND BUMPED!
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string_bean00
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Re: got dumped..
Everyone is right when they say don't reply to that. Cut off the contact. She'll want you back; I guarantee she will if you do it right.
Keep the ball in your court.
Everyone is right when they say don't reply to that. Cut off the contact. She'll want you back; I guarantee she will if you do it right.
Keep the ball in your court.
string_bean00
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Re: got dumped..
Exactly. It's just good to know you "won" though, as childish as that sounds, it still applies.
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Exactly. It's just good to know you "won" though, as childish as that sounds, it still applies.
Re: got dumped..
Thanks guys.
I read that, then had to go to a really long meeting. The entire time I was thinking of what I should say, what I could say. I got back to my desk, instead of replying, I read this thread first, and because of what I read I won't be replying to that email.
Thanks guys.
I read that, then had to go to a really long meeting. The entire time I was thinking of what I should say, what I could say. I got back to my desk, instead of replying, I read this thread first, and because of what I read I won't be replying to that email.
strongsmartsexy
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The best thing you've said yet!Lestat said:
wutangnomo
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I just had to respond to this thread again after reading this post. Brian I hope you have had enough time to at least be able to see your ex's true colours in this post, and yes, to even possibly feel some resentment. As others have already mentioned, she is keeping you on a string and quite frankly, she's playing games. Your ex made it clear that she broke up with you for no reason whatsoever and that it had nothing to do with you. I hope you can see in her email that she is not as "perfect" as you think she is, and that YOU deserve BETTER! What I see in her email is a girl who is not nearly as mature as you, who is at a completely different stage in her life, and who is dishonest. The most important thing I see in her email is absolute contradiction of her "feelings".
"Hope you had an overall good time on your trip...probably pretty crazy im assuming."
Why would she care? Lets get fuckin real here, she dumped you remember! She KNOWS you are feeling miserable and this line is just a slap in the face. I'd spit in her face if I could. She has implied numerous times that she feels it's best you two part ways. This is her way of trying to get you to reply to tell her all about your trip. She also wants to see if you are having a life of your own now and have moved on. Fact is, you had a trip, you will continue to have trips, and none of that is no longer any of her damn business!
"I just wanted to let you know that I'm thinking of you..."
Once again slap in the face! This is her way of trying to make you think there is still hope for the two of you, since she has you on her mind. It'll make you feel good, but do not fall for this bullshit!! She has made it clear that it is over, so why would she tell you this?
"...although i think the healthiest thing for both of us is to work through this seperately."
First of all, the ONLY one who has to "work through this" is YOU! What the fuck does this bitch have to work through??? SHE dumped YOU remember!! Why the hell would she tell you she's thinking about you, then tell you she thinks it's best you two are separate?? Another slap in the fuckin face! At this point I hope you are seeing through her pathetic lines.
"I jsut didn't want you to think that i'm ignoring you, i just think not seeing each other is much better."
I don't care how high your ex's test scores were, but she is one stupid bitch because she contradicts herself worse than OJ. In one breath she is basically saying "I think we should cut off all contact", yet in another breath she is telling you that she doesn't want to ignore you. The ONLY one who should be doing the ignoring is YOU! She tells you again she thinks it's best not to see each other, yet she has given you no substantial reason whatsoever. Think bro think! Your relationship went from good/great to all of a sudden "I just think not seeing each other is much better"??? She pulled a 180 on you just like that, so I hope you are able to see that this bitch isn't worth your time of day! Do NOT let these lines fool you!!
"Hope things are going better for you..."
Give me a fuckin break!! She dumped you! But you know what, you will prove her wrong and soon things WILL be going great for you. When it does you're going to forget all about this no-good lying bitch! I'm sorry but I call it like I see it, and this chick is giving you pure bullshit trying to keep you on that leash. Deep down inside she enjoys the control she has over you. DO NOT REPLY to her!! She's curious to know what you're up to and to see whether or not she has you under her control. From this point forward I wouldn't even read her emails, just delete them. You're going to go on with your life and one day she will come crawling back to you. By NOT replying you will be taking control and power BACK into your hands!! Stay strong! The ball is in your court...
I just had to respond to this thread again after reading this post. Brian I hope you have had enough time to at least be able to see your ex's true colours in this post, and yes, to even possibly feel some resentment. As others have already mentioned, she is keeping you on a string and quite frankly, she's playing games. Your ex made it clear that she broke up with you for no reason whatsoever and that it had nothing to do with you. I hope you can see in her email that she is not as "perfect" as you think she is, and that YOU deserve BETTER! What I see in her email is a girl who is not nearly as mature as you, who is at a completely different stage in her life, and who is dishonest. The most important thing I see in her email is absolute contradiction of her "feelings".
"Hope you had an overall good time on your trip...probably pretty crazy im assuming."
Why would she care? Lets get fuckin real here, she dumped you remember! She KNOWS you are feeling miserable and this line is just a slap in the face. I'd spit in her face if I could. She has implied numerous times that she feels it's best you two part ways. This is her way of trying to get you to reply to tell her all about your trip. She also wants to see if you are having a life of your own now and have moved on. Fact is, you had a trip, you will continue to have trips, and none of that is no longer any of her damn business!
"I just wanted to let you know that I'm thinking of you..."
Once again slap in the face! This is her way of trying to make you think there is still hope for the two of you, since she has you on her mind. It'll make you feel good, but do not fall for this bullshit!! She has made it clear that it is over, so why would she tell you this?
"...although i think the healthiest thing for both of us is to work through this seperately."
First of all, the ONLY one who has to "work through this" is YOU! What the fuck does this bitch have to work through??? SHE dumped YOU remember!! Why the hell would she tell you she's thinking about you, then tell you she thinks it's best you two are separate?? Another slap in the fuckin face! At this point I hope you are seeing through her pathetic lines.
"I jsut didn't want you to think that i'm ignoring you, i just think not seeing each other is much better."
I don't care how high your ex's test scores were, but she is one stupid bitch because she contradicts herself worse than OJ. In one breath she is basically saying "I think we should cut off all contact", yet in another breath she is telling you that she doesn't want to ignore you. The ONLY one who should be doing the ignoring is YOU! She tells you again she thinks it's best not to see each other, yet she has given you no substantial reason whatsoever. Think bro think! Your relationship went from good/great to all of a sudden "I just think not seeing each other is much better"??? She pulled a 180 on you just like that, so I hope you are able to see that this bitch isn't worth your time of day! Do NOT let these lines fool you!!
"Hope things are going better for you..."
Give me a fuckin break!! She dumped you! But you know what, you will prove her wrong and soon things WILL be going great for you. When it does you're going to forget all about this no-good lying bitch! I'm sorry but I call it like I see it, and this chick is giving you pure bullshit trying to keep you on that leash. Deep down inside she enjoys the control she has over you. DO NOT REPLY to her!! She's curious to know what you're up to and to see whether or not she has you under her control. From this point forward I wouldn't even read her emails, just delete them. You're going to go on with your life and one day she will come crawling back to you. By NOT replying you will be taking control and power BACK into your hands!! Stay strong! The ball is in your court...
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Ulcasterdropout
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Looks like everyone is unanimous about not replying back. I never knew people were this complicted and mendacious, at the social level. I guess these are the "games"......
Looks like everyone is unanimous about not replying back. I never knew people were this complicted and mendacious, at the social level. I guess these are the "games"......
Re: got dumped..
Thanks for the in depth analysis....
I'm not disagreeing with you, but let me give you my initial thoughts.
I sent her the desperate text messages on Friday night while i was on my trip in Vegas, so she knows times were rough at one point.
Is there a possiblity, that although she doesn't want me as a boyfriend right now, she still cares about me as a person and wants to see me happy, and more importantly, she doesn't want to feel responsible for me hurting and my quality of life affected in the way it has been.
I do believe that she wants to be friends. I am not saying that is what I want, but we started out as friends, then it grew into this, and I think that she actually does want me involved her in life in some way sometime in the future. (I am afterall a pretty damn good friend among other things).
I saw this email as her way of not burning all bridges.. she doesn't want me to feel COMPLETELY abandoned.. just enough to get over this.. but not enough to be so upset with her that I never speak to her again.
Also, consider the fact that when we first broke up a week and a half ago, it was me continually emailing her... it was me who was sending her the desperate text messages... when she came over it was me who basically pleaded to work things out... she didn't ignore thoughs requests... they were painful for her to deal with, but still still faced them. I think she might be testing to see if I would just ignore her, or give her the same courtesy I gave her.
I do realize that since this was a single sided breakup the rules don't apply evenly for both of us.. but I still seem to be trying to give her the benefit of the doubt.
I'm not going to reply either way... I just wanted to throw out a counter opinion.
Thanks for the in depth analysis....
I'm not disagreeing with you, but let me give you my initial thoughts.
I sent her the desperate text messages on Friday night while i was on my trip in Vegas, so she knows times were rough at one point.
Is there a possiblity, that although she doesn't want me as a boyfriend right now, she still cares about me as a person and wants to see me happy, and more importantly, she doesn't want to feel responsible for me hurting and my quality of life affected in the way it has been.
I do believe that she wants to be friends. I am not saying that is what I want, but we started out as friends, then it grew into this, and I think that she actually does want me involved her in life in some way sometime in the future. (I am afterall a pretty damn good friend among other things).
I saw this email as her way of not burning all bridges.. she doesn't want me to feel COMPLETELY abandoned.. just enough to get over this.. but not enough to be so upset with her that I never speak to her again.
Also, consider the fact that when we first broke up a week and a half ago, it was me continually emailing her... it was me who was sending her the desperate text messages... when she came over it was me who basically pleaded to work things out... she didn't ignore thoughs requests... they were painful for her to deal with, but still still faced them. I think she might be testing to see if I would just ignore her, or give her the same courtesy I gave her.
I do realize that since this was a single sided breakup the rules don't apply evenly for both of us.. but I still seem to be trying to give her the benefit of the doubt.
I'm not going to reply either way... I just wanted to throw out a counter opinion.
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