got dumped..BUT I'M GONNA GET PUMPED, HUMPED, JUMPED AND BUMPED!

[vinylgroover]

Re: got dumped..

I must sound like a broken record and a pussy.. but I'm bummin again.

I feel alone again. I see myself as empty now, missing a big part of me. This sucks. I was doing really well today in general. Able to keep my mind off her. But then it just comes back hard and feels like a stab in the heart. Its so hard for me right now not to call or email her.

that will happen for a while to come bro.........you think you are in the clear and then it comes back and hits you in waves.

Time is a healer, i don't care what anyone says. The scars will still be there but scars don't hurt, they just remind you of a time that you felt great pain.

Keep doing what you're doing, talk to as many people as you can about it.........get it off your chest over and over, cry as much as you want and just keep releasing it. Don't hold anything in.

Things will get better with time bro.

 

[Triple-G]

Re: got dumped..

this is scary, somewhat. i have a 24yo gf, best lady i ever had (am 34), she finished college, is a part-time model, works hard in the gym, sex is great and getting better now after 1 year. problem is she told me she only had one long-term bf in her life, from 16 to 22 or so. she might as well decide someday that she wants experience like some of her female friends had. i would not be able to do anything about it. since i know that it keeps me from falling too heavily into love. i just enjoy it every day its going good but i could live with it ending tomorrow. but still a scary thought.
its good that you posted it, it can help others to better understand what can happen to a relationship even if one thinks everything is going fine.

 

[Lestat]

Re: got dumped..

this is scary, somewhat. i have a 24yo gf, best lady i ever had (am 34), she finished college, is a part-time model, works hard in the gym, sex is great and getting better now after 1 year. problem is she told me she only had one long-term bf in her life, from 16 to 22 or so. she might as well decide someday that she wants experience like some of her female friends had. i would not be able to do anything about it. since i know that it keeps me from falling too heavily into love. i just enjoy it every day its going good but i could live with it ending tomorrow. but still a scary thought.
its good that you posted it, it can help others to better understand what can happen to a relationship even if one thinks everything is going fine.

I should have not let myself get so attached. I am regretting it now.

I want so badly to contact her now, it hasn't even been two weeks since the breakup, and the last time we spoke was last Saturday.... last night I felt so alone.

 

[Becoming]

Re: got dumped..

last night I felt so alone.

get a dog, for real... as long as you have a yard - if not, then forget the dog...

 

[velvett]

Re: got dumped..

there is so much more too.. the thought of finding that in someone else seems so impossible to me now.

You can find another - besides as we get older we look for different things in people and perhaps this is a good time for you to learn how to keep yourself happy.

You should never rely on another human being to bring you happiness or make you feel good about yourself. It's too much responsiblity for another human being over an extended period of time and you makes you dependent on another for things you should be able to create for yourself.

 

[Lestat]

Re: got dumped..

get a dog, for real... as long as you have a yard - if not, then forget the dog...

no yard man, I live in a condo.. I look forward to one day being able to have one though.

 

[Lestat]

Re: got dumped..

You can find another - besides as we get older we look for different things in people and perhaps this is a good time for you to learn how to keep yourself happy.

You should never rely on another human being to bring you happiness or make you feel good about yourself. It's too much responsiblity for another human being over an extended period of time and you makes you dependent on another for things you should be able to create for yourself.

I understand.

I didn't THINK i was relying on her for happiness. The thing is, the things that used to give me happiness just don't seem to do it in the same way. She gave me this underlying reason to feel good about myself.. not the only reason, or the main reason.. but it feels like the rug was pulled out from under me and I can't get back up.

I kinda did see the relationship as something I created for myself.. not independantly, but jointly.. it took both of us to make it work.

 

[velvett]

Re: got dumped..

I kinda did see the relationship as something I created for myself.. not independantly, but jointly.. it took both of us to make it work.

That's good - that means you can help make your half of the next relationship work just as well.

 

[jh1]

Re: got dumped..

I should have not let myself get so attached. I am regretting it now.

I want so badly to contact her now, it hasn't even been two weeks since the breakup, and the last time we spoke was last Saturday.... last night I felt so alone.

Hang in there.. be tough. Contacting her WILL ONLY MAKE IT WORSE.

It's not easy, I know... but it gets easier over time. Eventually you will not give two fucks about her.... she is stringing you along and doesn't deserve your attention.

 

[Becoming]

Re: got dumped..

perhaps this is a good time for you to learn how to keep yourself happy..

Dude do not learn to make yourself happy too much, or else you will end up like tuc- ravaging jelly donuts behind a monitor... LOL

But like V says you will find that new things make you happy as you move forward, and you will find someone that makes you even happier in the future... probably due to traits/things you never thought of previous.... without this experience you would not have had the opportunity to find them down the road...

keep up the good fight...