got dumped..BUT I'M GONNA GET PUMPED, HUMPED, JUMPED AND BUMPED!

[strongsmartsexy]

Re: got dumped..

dude, i need you to desgin a cycle for me.. give me something else to focus on

1 - 4 dbol 30mg/day
1- 12 test enan 500mg/week
1 - 10 deca 400mg/week
7 - 12 winny 50mg/day

How's that?

 

[Ulcasterdropout]

Re: got dumped..

I thought that same thought....but you got a whole thread of people, unanimously saying, forget that bitch, she broke your heart, let it/her go, your dragging it out......

 

[Lestat]

Re: got dumped..

man its so tempting to bust out some of the thoughts I put together from reading goldendelicious' posts... particularly..

The woman I love exists only in my heart, dreams, and memories. Communicating with you is like talking to a stranger wearing a familiar face and speaking with a voice that I love. It is just too painful.

 

[jerseyart]

Re: got dumped..

Lestat,

I read that e-mail differently than most.

Absolutely though don't respond.!!!

But to the point, I think she is worried that maybe you did have a good time, and that was just a roundabout way of getting you to tell her what happened. She may be feeling some jealousy, and the longer you go without communicating with her, the more she is going to wonder who you might be out with. At least to me it explains the contradictions in her post.

 

[velvett]

Re: got dumped..

I do believe that she wants to be friends.

I saw this email as her way of not burning all bridges.. she doesn't want me to feel COMPLETELY abandoned.. just enough to get over this.. but not enough to be so upset with her that I never speak to her again..

You're just thinking with your heart - no one can hold that against you.

 

[jd_uk]

Re: got dumped..

man its so tempting to bust out some of the thoughts I put together from reading goldendelicious' posts... particularly..

The woman I love exists only in my heart, dreams, and memories. Communicating with you is like talking to a stranger wearing a familiar face and speaking with a voice that I love. It is just too painful.

I'm not trying to confuse you or anything but i might have to disagree with what everyone else says. I agree that you should not reply back, but I don't think she's deliberately trying to slap you in the face either.

I also don't really see how she's contradicting herself. I'm not saying that she's not being deceitful (she might be, i don't know), but it is possible that she means what she says and thinks the best way of helping you not to feel too bad is by letting you know that she's not completely cutting off all ties and ignoring you.

I've never dumped anyone, but i think that if i did i'd feel completely awful about it and i think i'd probably say the same things that she is (i.e. I think it'd be best if we didn't make contact to give us both time to get over each other, but if you need talk then i'll be here for you).

I could be wrong and she might be a complete bitch but she sounds like a decent person to me that maybe just felt stuck in a relationship that she felt wasn't right for her.

Anyway, hope that didn't make you feel any worse Brian, stay strong and thanks for the reply to the PM...you'll be all good soon.

 

[Lestat]

Re: got dumped..

You're just thinking with your heart - no one can hold that against you.

yeah.. its still so hard.


And I dunno, I don't think she's so worried about about I am doing and who I am doing it with... I know how her mind works... strangely its fairly similar to mine in many ways. But I see it as... she made this decision for herself.. she knows it causes me great pain and distress... she's moved on, but wants to make sure I am still doing well.

Sad to say, I'm actually the curious one.. I'm wondering if she's got her eye on someone new already.. what she's doing.. who she's talking to

 

[wutangnomo]

Re: got dumped..

Lestat,

I read that e-mail differently than most.

Absolutely though don't respond.!!!

But to the point, I think she is worried that maybe you did have a good time, and that was just a roundabout way of getting you to tell her what happened. She may be feeling some jealousy, and the longer you go without communicating with her, the more she is going to wonder who you might be out with. At least to me it explains the contradictions in her post.

That's exactly how I see it as well!

Brian I understand where you're coming from, but you have to realize that you cared about her deeply, loved her deeply, and wanted to make it work out, so of course you're giving her the benefit of the doubt. However, you are not seeing it from our perspective as your heart is telling you one thing while your mind is telling you another. Right now your heart is still badly hurt and winning out, thus, you are rationalizing it however you possibly can so as to "make it work out".

What you have to realize is that SHE dumped YOU! It is time for YOU to be selfish bro. It is NOT about what she wants because quite frankly, she did what she wanted by dumping you. She made her decision and now it's time for you to be selfish and make yours, regardless of how it will affect her. If she wants to still have you part of her life in someway and remain friends, too bad for her! You have to do what's BEST FOR YOU, and at this point in time severing all ties is what's best. From this point forward is it about what YOU, and ONLY YOU, want. More importantly, it is about what YOU NEED, and that is, you NEED her out of your life.

"Is there a possiblity, that although she doesn't want me as a boyfriend right now, she still cares about me as a person and wants to see me happy, and more importantly, she doesn't want to feel responsible for me hurting and my quality of life affected in the way it has been."

Yes there is that possibility that she still cares about you and wants to see you happy, but I hate to break it to you, she IS responsible for hurting you. If she wants to see you happy she will understand why you are cutting off all ties. That is the only way to reclaim your happiness. She cannot have her cake and eat it too. She dumped you, now she will have to deal with the possibility of losing you as a friend regardless if she still cares about you.

 

[Lestat]

Re: got dumped..

should I even be considering the option of being friends in the future right now?

It seems very painful, and in the near term.. yeah forget about it.

But i could see myself being her friend one day down the line... but pretty much only if I was in a relationship.. otherwise its hard for me to imagine not wanting her... and if she was in one and I wasn't.. forget about it, that would drive me fucking nuts.

 

[velvett]

Re: got dumped..

should I even be considering the option of being friends in the future right now?

It seems very painful, and in the near term.. yeah forget about it.

But i could see myself being her friend one day down the line... but pretty much only if I was in a relationship.. otherwise its hard for me to imagine not wanting her... and if she was in one and I wasn't.. forget about it, that would drive me fucking nuts.

Why do you want to be freinds with someone that can't tell you why they don't love you "that way" anymore?















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