AAP said:
Nelson,
No one is bullying you or attacking you personally. It is just that they are in objection to a statement you made.
Personally, I am very sick of cut and paste statements. Not just yours, or his, or that person's or anyone else. I just do not like cut and paste type jobs unless they are there for supportment. I much rather prefer to hear the explanation in that person's own words. It would be very easy to just cut and paste the training routines and help I have given many people off this board as it is fairly common. But rather, I post it in my own words, not what it is, but also why I think it will work for them and why it works for me.
Take a look at where you are posting. Look at the people who read your postings. The typical person is young, early to mid 20's, with an abnormally high level of synthetic testosterone and anabolics coursing through their bloodstream. This is not exactly the type of person you can call stupid and not expect to see them get riled up over it. I am not saying you come right out and deliberately, purposefully call someone a stupid person (though I may be wrong as I don't read that many thread on the anabolic board), but I have read some postings in the past where you acknowledge that you come across as abrasive and hard at times. That much is very true. At times you really do come off as hard and a controversial know-it-all. You have a very classical Type A personality. When challenged, you tend to resort to a condescending, insulting defensive nature. You tend to take or twist everything so it becomes a personal attack on you. That can only work once or twice before everyone gets hip to your tactics. You really shouldn't do this. Rather, just understand that a "Debate" is actually a civil discussion where all sides offer statements, postings, references, etc.. to why they THINK their opinion or belief is just. When it comes to the human body, there is no science to it. Nothing is ever really "exact". What works for one may work for many, but not all. And what works for many, may not work for a few.
You have had just as many posts on here where people gave you props for your knowledge and ideas as many times as people have asked you to clarify something or doubted you. I have never read your book (sorry. I should... maybe you should send it to me and I will give an very detailed, honest unbiased objective of it ...
) But just the fact you actually HAVE a book out says a lot. I would love to get a book of my own published one day. You already have the product you can use to reach a good number of people. I am sure you have had many customers, but the potential to get more customers is fading really fast unless you realize the difference between "good" controversy and "bad" controversy. You are going to become your own worst enemy if you are not careful.
I just visited your website for the first time and I am not going to say anything bad about your physique. Unlike others who attack you based on your looks, I will say that I can honestly point out several people on this board that have used multiple cycles and still do not look like a bodybuilder. And I am not refering to Fonz. It is pretty obvious that Fonz MUST use anabolics or else his body would eat itself away with all that cardio he is going through.
You honestly have the tools to come close to reaching the national marketing level of Bill Philips in terms of "new ideas" and book sales (should you revamp yours for a more mainstream approach).
However you have to realize that you are currently destroying the very supporting foundation you should be building here.
The people here can only be what you make them to be. You can make them supporters or you can make them detractors. It is really up to you though. But sometimes, just take a minute to step away and count to ten before hitting the Submit button.
Just something to think about.
Well, I was through with tis thread, but this post was so articulate I had to respond.
I agree weth everything you say. The only contention would be with the perspective. And this is impossible for people to determine since I don't expect anyone to go through every post and analyze what transpired, so I can only give my perception.
I may make bold statements. I may even sound arrogent in doing so, But I NEVER -- NEVER attack another person, unless they have total disregard for any civility in the way they respond to me. Then, I admit, the gloves come off. I'm only human. And I'm in a precarious situation since many of my battles are against mods and most members are not going to get behind someone is at odds with the mods. There have been a few more ballsy individuals who have spoken up, and I thank them. But most will understandably sit back
and observe. And naturally, there will always be the guy who likes to get a cheap shot in when a man is down. It goes with the territory. Of course, if we all got together in person we'd probably get along great. But in this enviorment, it's all about reactions.
I believe you, like most members are using the thinking, "where there's smoke, there's fire." If most of Nelsons threads turn into flamefests, or if most threads involving Nelson are flamefests, it therefore must be Nelson's fault. But I maintain it is peoples reaction to me and the allowence -- dare I say the ENCOURAGEMENT of a couple of mods that allow it to be so. A good example is Juice's Clomid thread. All I said was that it would be great if we could discuss this without the negitivity, AND WITHOUT MAKING ANOTHER POST, there were already 4 or 5 antagonistic statements toward me. What does that tell you?
This all reminds me of one of my favorite quotes from Mark Twain. He said: "If you make people think you're making them think, they'll love you. But if you REALLY make them think, they'll dispise you."
Truer words have never been spoken and this board personifies the sentiment.
Case in point.
Fonz recently cut and pasted some literature from a supplement website, and presented it as an original idea. EVERYONE LOVED IT! Why? Because they didn't have to think. It was free useful information. Who cares if it's taken from somewher else? Give me my piece.
Now, I on the other hand, am not interested in regurgitating inforation or telling people what they want to hear. My gig is to challange conventional thought and to offer efficaceous alternatives. It comes with a price. To some, this is much appreciated. But to others, they despise it. They resent it. They reject it. Why? Because it forces them to think.
This brings us to the "prove it" mentality on these boards. Everyone wants to see studies. Well, a study is just a pre-existing notion. If all we did was accept pre-existing notions we'd all be using leeches and mercury to treat diseases. We must think progressively if we are to evolve. But most people like to stay right where they are. Oh sure, they want to THINK they're progressive. But they want their progress along with comfort. Sometimes you have to shatter the old to bring on the new.
As far as my failure to "explain" things. I think that's just a low blow that has become a cliche'. I explain plenty. But when explanations becomes demands, and then dares, and then antagonism, and then personal attacks, I refuse. And suddenly all the help I've provided is meanlingless. What have you done for me lately.
This is what upsets me. Not the fact that the attacks are against me. Who cares? What's psetting to me is when people use anger and hatred to diminish another human being. No one who read this thread can honestly say that Fonz's remarks were beneath the acceptable level for even the most uncooth individual. But the thread is about me. It's my fault. Citueside made claims that he knew weren't true. He even wrote to me to say that he did so because "others" did so. That would never hold up in a court of law, and Citrue is a lawyer. But he made that decision ayway. But it's about me. So it's okay.
Look, I'm no genius, but I know that everyone and anyone in the history of the world who had a new way of looking at things has been rejected by some people. Vince Gironda was loathed by a lot of people. But he was right. Take your pick -- Socrates, Pasteur, Van Gogh, Stravinsky...all rejected. They were the ones who thought differently. They were the "trouble makers." I wonder how long they'd last on the message boards.
I'm not in the catogory of these men. I'm just a writer who loves bodybuilding and loves sharing new ideas. But I'm also a guy who grew up in the 60's in Brooklyn New York. And where I come from, you don't take shit. You stick up for yourself. Somebody pushes, you push back harder. I'm sorry if it offends anyone. But that's me.
This ordeal has been draining. And it once again has made me realize that I'm spending too much time where I'm not wanted. Time for a little distance. I have other things I can do, need to do, should do. I just love bodybuilding so much and love it when someone gets a kick out of my work. It's addicting. But there are certain realities I must face.
Thank you for hanging in there, reading this post. But I know anything that is extracted from it will be short lived and within a day or two everyone fogets and goes back to seeking easy answers and searching for other people who will confirm their current beliefs. But that's the way of the world, isnt it?