Why is it that people with kids

[miplank]

I wouldnt think of tantrums until 2 years old. Once they start getting up and getting around they've got to learn the word No for their own safety - but crap. What can you do to a 1 year old?

i have no idea though. i dont have any. I would think you would get numb to that because so many people think they have the right to tell you what you should do. i have that already from my MIL and i dont even have kids yet. lol

I wouldn't say it was a tantrum either. My son is 2 years old, and he definetly throws the occasional tantrum. At 1 year old though, I would say he just got scared when you left the room.

My son would do that when he was that age...its too be expected though when his first year of his life he spent it mostly with mom and dad and grandparents.

 

[Smurfy]

When a kid has an all out temper tantrum, in essence they have lost control of themselves and yelling or spanking only increases the sense of a loss of control. The child often doesnt have the ability to pull themselves out of it and its also scary to them. so if the parent also loses control, well then you can guess the outcome wouldnt be good. but crying is not a temper tantrum

 

[miplank]

When a kid has an all out temper tantrum, in essence they have lost control of themselves and yelling or spanking only increases the sense of a loss of control. The child often doesnt have the ability to pull themselves out of it and its also scary to them. so if the parent also loses control, well then you can guess the outcome wouldnt be good. but crying is not a temper tantrum

I agree...I will just let my son "finish" his tantrum, and then I'll sit him down on my lap and we'll discuss what the problem was.

May sound too advanced for some since he's only a lil over 2, but he's a smart kid, and he understands what I'm saying.

 

[cindylou]

"Dear God please dont let me have kids that throw temper tanturms."

 

[miplank]

"Dear God please dont let me have kids that throw temper tanturms."

haha...it'll happen. I guarantee it.


Right around 2 years old (terrible two's). I think a lot of it has to do w/their communication ability. While they can communicate fairly well at this age, their is still a point where they get frustrated and alas...the tantrum.

LOL

 

[walliwalibus]

I think that some people (me too) tend to become a bit numb to how others view their kids' behavior. For example, someone told me this weekend that my son was throwing a tantrum when he was really crying for me because I left the room to get something. I hadn't really thought of it as a tantrum but just as my son going through a bout of separation anxiety, lately. I still don't know if I would classify it as a tantrum or being spoiled because I don't know if a 1 year old has the cognitive skills yet to be manipulative. ??? The jury is still out, I guess. If he was throwing a tantrum, what is the mother of a 1 year old to do? Yelling at or spanking or punishing a one year old seems pretty pointless.

That is a bit young to call it a tantrum. 2 its even young in some cases. I guess its the baby's way of saying WTF without saying WTF. Ah who cares what others think anyway. Your focus is on your child, and your child is lucky for that. I see many cases of kids having kids and always having someone else watch them. I mean like everyday. BTW punishing a one year old is child abuse LOL just saying. At 1 year old they still trying to figure out where in the hell they are HR, they have no idea about being manipulative. And even young kids learn that manipulative behavior from someone else, maybe even you. Not saying you but in general. You know what I mean damn.

 

[seaking420]

I didnt read most of this thread, just read the 1st page, but Ill come back to it. All I have to say is you have NO CLUE until you have children. Once you have a child you'll understand. I love the people that talk all sorts of shit about kids and how they'll raise their kids this way and will never allow thier kids to do that. You have no idea what parents go through, you might think you do, but you really have no idea. I dont care if you babysitted your sisters kids for a day either................nowhere near the same.

 

[Tytan]

why is it okay for husbands to act this way?

It`s not, but the reality is not all people are capable of doing the same task the exact same way. My wifey will rip me a new one even if I variate slightly from the way she does things. Weird, so I fed them, bath them, put them to bed on time, but I forgot to put lotion on them and brush their hair and read their favorite book so its stressful for her. Granted, she has learned to relax a bit as of lately.

 

[heatherrae]

yeah. Good advice on here.

I think that the person was right that I somehow need to get Devin to sleep in his own bed (he will cry for hours and I really can't take that. I go crazy). I need to get him on some sort of schedule, but he is just so clingy right now. I think it is separation anxiety, but I really can't get anything done or even have regular conversations with company. I feel exhausted pretty often because I don't get to sleep well, and my house and car is so dirty. Maybe other parents handle this better? Maybe my child is particularly needy but will outgrow this?

 

[BNG]

Think its okay to be rude just because they have kids?

Stuff like cancel plans last minute and expect you not to be a little pissed when the babysitter has an "emergency".

why cant husbands watch the kids one night ? Women never ask the GUY to watch the kids while she goes out with her friends.

and then they wonder why their friends drop off the face of the earth when they have kids.

Not everyone with kids are rude because of the kids. Your friend is inconsiderate and now that she has kids it's more evident. We don't have family where we live and it does cramp the social life because it's hard to find trustworthy babysitters.
I let my wife go out with the girls pretty much when she wants. I stayed home with the kids last weekend while they went out. No big deal if you can trust your spouse.

As for the unruly. Parental skills are lacking more and more as time goes on. Less and less values are being taught.