My fiance left me

[the.gladiator1987]

Ok So Im 20, shes 19. We dated for 4 1/2 years until we decided to get married. I proposed to her about a week ago but we were planning the wedding for June for the last couple months.

A couple days ago, we went into a counseling meeting and her parents were there. All of a sudden they say whats the rush, and my ex is saying that she feels that God is convicting her to not get married, and it would go against his will to get married. WTF? Then the counselors ask how im supporting her, and I said i had a job lined up, but everyone already knew I didnt have a job right away and we went on with the planning for the wedding.

Just kinda venting here, but a week after I propose and she says yes, she leaves me, kicks me out of her house, and doesnt talk to me. I know were done but any tips on how I can just not even think of her or get sad to think about her. I want to move on now and I know im young so everything is good, just what she did really hurt. Thanks everyone heres a pic of us

http://i14.photobucket.com/albums/a316/hehateme00000/meandgirlsexy.jpghttp://i14.photobucket.com/albums/a316/hehateme00000/meandgirlsexy.jpg

 

[princesa]

awww I'm sorry you are hurting right now but things will get better. Just keep yourself busy, do things that make you happy. Like you said you are young...you have plenty of time to get married. Good luck!

 

[Huffdawg44]

Dman bro that sucks, believe me its hard 2 get her out of your head, but u will, i've been through it and never thought she would leave my mind. U r young, go live your life and don't worry about the women the right 1 will come around. Trust me.

 

[drow]

Ya. i agree with the other posts. You are still young and there are alot of other girls out there bro. Obviously she wasnt the one for you. Get out and do some fun things to get your mind of her. Hell, go out and get a peice! That will really take your mind off her!

 

[SpyWizard]

Not to be flipant.. but .. bang her sister..

I always advise guys to not get married until they are 30yrs old, there are a lot of reasons for that..

You are young, your life before you, live and experience it. You got off lucky, you could have gotten her prego, and then kicked you but taking 30% of your pay for the next 18 yrs..

There's no figuring it out man.. The problem is for the last 4 yrs she is all you have had your life wrapped around.. let it be a lesson, let your schooling, or your job or something else other than a person be your center, that way you can have some sense of control and decisions on what your life is like...

Good luck, congrats and condolences.

 

[Thandie]

I'm so sorry! That hurts regardless of age or circumstances.
I know this won't be reassuring, but it will become apparent that you were fortunate NOT to marry her. Relationships end when is not the best choice for us.

For now, I'd say keep busy, work on something positive for your self (easier said then done, I know!) Try, just try not to get involve with anyone on rebound. This will only condition you to rebound in order to take the pain away from a brake up, and form a habit. I promise you, if you do that, it will get easier to handle in the future.
Be good!!

 

[lartinos]

it's for the best

 

[nangiggles]

Think about her.... mourn her..... get it over with.... if you ¨keep busy¨, date other women, etc you will just be repressing your feelings, which believe me will eventually bite you in the ass and have the potential to ruin future relationships, I´m not saying you should soke in tears, burn a candle to her pics and try to brake into her voicemail I just mean don´t try ignoring the issue.... don´t get a rebound girl... but don´t say no to new oportunities just keep an open mind... it will pas, time going by and the sense of knowing you did everything right and everything you could on your side will eventually give you peace of mind

 

[PICK3]

Your girl looks like Vanessa Hudgens

just sayin'

 

[Thandie]

think about her.... Mourn her..... Get it over with.... If you ¨keep busy¨, date other women, etc you will just be repressing your feelings, which believe me will eventually bite you in the ass and have the potential to ruin future relationships, i´m not saying you should soke in tears, burn a candle to her pics and try to brake into her voicemail i just mean don´t try ignoring the issue.... Don´t get a rebound girl... But don´t say no to new oportunities just keep an open mind... It will pas, time going by and the sense of knowing you did everything right and everything you could on your side will eventually give you peace of mind

1+

 

[samoth]

Larkin - This Be The Verse

 

[EnderJE]

It's a phase. It will pass. She might come back to you in 5 years. By that time, you won't even know her name.

 

[iggy]

Good bro, everything in life happens for a reason. you can either look at this the pessimistic way or you can look at it as a good chance to do some great things. Focus on your training, banging girls, getting a good job and money, and being successful.

my cousin is in the exact same position as you. he met a girl and proposed to her and is living with her now (at 21). after living with her 5 months he realized he never loved her that much, and same with her towards him.

i know this is hard, but stay positive and focused on your goals/dreams bro.
if you need anything, shoot me a PM.

good luck with everything.

Godspeed

 

[-SD-]

She just did you the biggest favor in the world and you just dont know it yet. If you are 20 and have been with her 4.5 years? That means you were 14-15 and she was 13-14 when you got together. Thats young as hell and theres no way either one of you have had the chance to mature and see different people and gain experiences and different personalities to find out what you really like. In the 21st century you can forget that shit ever lasting, unless you are amish and raised in the appalachians with no exposure to humanity.
And her parents were in the counseling session with the both of you? What the fuck is that all about, i smell "overbearing folks" syndrome. If she was her own woman she wouldnt ever dream of having her parents in a private marriage counseling session with her fiance.

 

[Sub-Zero]

Ok So Im 20, shes 19. We dated for 4 1/2 years until we decided to get married. I proposed to her about a week ago but we were planning the wedding for June for the last couple months.

A couple days ago, we went into a counseling meeting and her parents were there. All of a sudden they say whats the rush, and my ex is saying that she feels that God is convicting her to not get married, and it would go against his will to get married. WTF? Then the counselors ask how im supporting her, and I said i had a job lined up, but everyone already knew I didnt have a job right away and we went on with the planning for the wedding.

Just kinda venting here, but a week after I propose and she says yes, she leaves me, kicks me out of her house, and doesnt talk to me. I know were done but any tips on how I can just not even think of her or get sad to think about her. I want to move on now and I know im young so everything is good, just what she did really hurt. Thanks everyone heres a pic of us

http://i14.photobucket.com/albums/a316/hehateme00000/meandgirlsexy.jpghttp://i14.photobucket.com/albums/a316/hehateme00000/meandgirlsexy.jpg

she sounds nutty if she thinks god talks to her. start over.

do more steroids in the meantime

 

[the.gladiator1987]

Thanks everyone, I feel like this is a good thing

I can focus on school, money, training, and massacreing pussy.

 

[miplank]

sorry to hear that bro, you'll be alright. Hang in there

 

[SouthernLord]

Thanks everyone, I feel like this is a good thing

I can focus on school, money, training, and massacreing pussy.

This is the way to think bro.

Be glad you guys didn't end up married with kids and dealing with a nasty divorce 5 years from now.

Everything does happen for a reason bro.

 

[nefertiti]

The best way to get over one girl is to get under another....

Seriously though, dave is right. She did you a FAVOR, bro. It sounds like you would have had a five person relationship. You, her, her parents, and god. Two is hard enough, you don't need to have people adding themselves into the equation.

I know you're hurting and shell shocked but seriously, cut loose for a while, enjoy being single, have lots of sex, make the most of freedom. There's no reason for a guy your age to be thinking about sacrificing these years.

 

[ortiz34]

first off, she's cheating on you

Also, you'll be fine. Start fvcking girls around and when she finds out she will be all over again, blowing up your phone

 

[PICK3]

Thanks everyone, I feel like this is a good thing

I can focus on school, money, training, and massacreing pussy.

massacring

 

[Bikini Mod]

Thanks everyone, I feel like this is a good thing

I can focus on school, money, training, and massacreing pussy.

LOL What does "the good book" say about this point of view?

 

[Grumpy Old Man]

Thanks everyone, I feel like this is a good thing

I can focus on school, money, training, and massacreing pussy.

Well, perhaps you can get a job so when you meet the next woman (girl) you can pay for dinner and her friends and family won't paint you as such a loser.

Try the local bible store, you might pick up someone with your own viewpoint.

 

[bw1]

Ok So Im 20, shes 19. We dated for 4 1/2 years until we decided to get married. I proposed to her about a week ago but we were planning the wedding for June for the last couple months.

A couple days ago, we went into a counseling meeting and her parents were there. All of a sudden they say whats the rush, and my ex is saying that she feels that God is convicting her to not get married, and it would go against his will to get married. WTF? Then the counselors ask how im supporting her, and I said i had a job lined up, but everyone already knew I didnt have a job right away and we went on with the planning for the wedding.

Just kinda venting here, but a week after I propose and she says yes, she leaves me, kicks me out of her house, and doesnt talk to me. I know were done but any tips on how I can just not even think of her or get sad to think about her. I want to move on now and I know im young so everything is good, just what she did really hurt. Thanks everyone heres a pic of us

http://i14.photobucket.com/albums/a316/hehateme00000/meandgirlsexy.jpghttp://i14.photobucket.com/albums/a316/hehateme00000/meandgirlsexy.jpg

Sucks but, better now then after you got married.....

 

[canadianhitman]

She just did you the biggest favor in the world and you just dont know it yet. If you are 20 and have been with her 4.5 years? That means you were 14-15 and she was 13-14 when you got together. Thats young as hell and theres no way either one of you have had the chance to mature and see different people and gain experiences and different personalities to find out what you really like. In the 21st century you can forget that shit ever lasting, unless you are amish and raised in the appalachians with no exposure to humanity.

Good perspective right here. Pay attention to what the guys (and nefertiti) are telling you, and ignore that SWV crap nangiggles & thandie were going on about.

 

[bigtravis]

Well bro. They don't make a pill for that one. But here.
Women are like a city bus. One comes around every 15 minutes.
Go fuck another one u'll be o.k.

 

[jnevin]

Thanks everyone, I feel like this is a good thing

I can focus on school, money, training, and massacreing pussy.

Focus on your spelling while you're at it.

 

[Strongbow]

Focus on your spelling while you're at it.

Jnevin, such a stickler for the spelling. LOL

 

[princesa]

Well bro. They don't make a pill for that one. But here.
Women are like a city bus. One comes around every 15 minutes.
Go fuck another one u'll be o.k.

Yeah, unless it's the end of the night...then you'll get on anything.

 

[broonzy]

Ok So Im 20, shes 19. We dated for 4 1/2 years until we decided to get married. I proposed to her about a week ago but we were planning the wedding for June for the last couple months.

A couple days ago, we went into a counseling meeting and her parents were there. All of a sudden they say whats the rush, and my ex is saying that she feels that God is convicting her to not get married, and it would go against his will to get married. WTF? Then the counselors ask how im supporting her, and I said i had a job lined up, but everyone already knew I didnt have a job right away and we went on with the planning for the wedding.

Just kinda venting here, but a week after I propose and she says yes, she leaves me, kicks me out of her house, and doesnt talk to me. I know were done but any tips on how I can just not even think of her or get sad to think about her. I want to move on now and I know im young so everything is good, just what she did really hurt. Thanks everyone heres a pic of us

http://i14.photobucket.com/albums/a316/hehateme00000/meandgirlsexy.jpg

I know you probably don't believe me now, but the truth is you are way too young to get married.

 

[Bikini Mod]

yeah, unless it's the end of the night...then you'll get on anything.
:d

zing!!!!!!

 

[stosstruppe]

my ex is saying that she feels that God is convicting her to not get married, and it would go against his will to get married. WTF?

it's for the best

This

 

[the.gladiator1987]

Yea obviously its better she did it now than before, but a week after i propose and she says yes lol

i honestly think other people like her parents mostly were saying how hard it was gonna be and shes an insecure girl that needs control in everything in her life or its not ok

thank god im out lol

 

[Thandie]

Yeah, unless it's the end of the night...then you'll get on anything.

 

[musclemom]

She just did you the biggest favor in the world and you just dont know it yet. If you are 20 and have been with her 4.5 years? That means you were 14-15 and she was 13-14 when you got together. Thats young as hell and theres no way either one of you have had the chance to mature and see different people and gain experiences and different personalities to find out what you really like. In the 21st century you can forget that shit ever lasting, unless you are amish and raised in the appalachians with no exposure to humanity.

+100 right there.

And her parents were in the counseling session with the both of you? What the fuck is that all about, i smell "overbearing folks" syndrome. If she was her own woman she wouldnt ever dream of having her parents in a private marriage counseling session with her fiance.

Frankly, if it was my 19 y/o daughter wanting to marry an unemployed 20 year old I'd pull every low blow in the book to discourage it, but maybe developing a strong foundation with the future in-laws is part of their church's philosophy for future success? Bad in law relations can cause a lot of marital strife.

It's all for the best, I'm sure Jesus will applaude while the.gladiator is out there "massacreing pussy." *sigh*

 

[the.gladiator1987]

+100 right there.

Frankly, if it was my 19 y/o daughter wanting to marry an unemployed 20 year old I'd pull every low blow in the book to discourage it, but maybe developing a strong foundation with the future in-laws is part of their church's philosophy for future success? Bad in law relations can cause a lot of marital strife.

It's all for the best, I'm sure Jesus will applaude while the.gladiator is out there "massacreing pussy." *sigh*

I wasnt unemployed, i had a job lined up with my brother. I still have it lined up, hes just real busy since hes getting married this month and he moved from AZ to california. They knew that, everyone did and the dad still said yes and so did our counselors.

They could have said no, but its really not their choice. The parents dont want to see an unsuccesful marriage, but thats their selfish thinking. If the daughter wants to marry him because she loves him, then you haveto accept that. But these parents are so fuckin overbearing its ridiculous. Making mine and my exs decisions? WTF

And please musclemom stop with this bullshit about Jesus applauding me, I am christian but I am a sinner too. Im no better than anyone, i have no right to judge people. Only God does. So let him judge me will you? Holy shitim sick of that shit, I dont ever mean to say im better than anyone but just as much as im being a hypocrite, you are judging me at the same time by saying that stupid shit. Any guy in my position would want all the pussy in the world after getting left by his fiance after 4 1/2 years of being together. Fuck off

 

[javaguru]

+100 right there.

Frankly, if it was my 19 y/o daughter wanting to marry an unemployed 20 year old I'd pull every low blow in the book to discourage it, but maybe developing a strong foundation with the future in-laws is part of their church's philosophy for future success? Bad in law relations can cause a lot of marital strife.

It's all for the best, I'm sure Jesus will applaude while the.gladiator is out there "massacreing pussy." *sigh*

"Massacring pussy" for a good evangelical Christian boy is getting to second base after three months of dating.

 

[the.gladiator1987]

"Massacring pussy" for a good evangelical Christian boy is getting to second base after three months of dating.

Haha well i guess i am not a good evangelical christian boy

Im a sinner, a man and a good looking man that wants to fuck because of all the test im on

 

[javaguru]

Haha well i guess i am not a good evangelical christian boy

Im a sinner, a man and a good looking man that wants to fuck because of all the test im on

Perhaps her parents could sense the dark side within you?

 

[the.gladiator1987]

The dark side?

You mean steroids? Or the fact im a sinner like everyone on this planet

If its steroids then fine id rather have a girl accept my use and respect that its my body and that i know what im doing, rather than go off. Her parents can fuck themselves, its my/our life, not theirs too. I swear its a blessing in disguise that she left since it would have been a 5 person relationship lol. Me, her, God and her PARENTS

 

[javaguru]

The dark side?

You mean steroids? Or the fact im a sinner like everyone on this planet

If its steroids then fine id rather have a girl accept my use and respect that its my body and that i know what im doing, rather than go off. Her parents can fuck themselves, its my/our life, not theirs too. I swear its a blessing in disguise that she left since it would have been a 5 person relationship lol. Me, her, God and her PARENTS

It's a blessing because you're way too young to consider marriage. IMO, a guy shouldn't consider marriage before he's thirty and firmly established in life.

 

[musclemom]

I wasnt unemployed, i had a job lined up with my brother. I still have it lined up, hes just real busy since hes getting married this month and he moved from AZ to california. They knew that, everyone did and the dad still said yes and so did our counselors.

They could have said no, but its really not their choice. The parents dont want to see an unsuccesful marriage, but thats their selfish thinking. If the daughter wants to marry him because she loves him, then you haveto accept that. But these parents are so fuckin overbearing its ridiculous. Making mine and my exs decisions? WTF

And please musclemom stop with this bullshit about Jesus applauding me, I am christian but I am a sinner too. Im no better than anyone, i have no right to judge people. Only God does. So let him judge me will you? Holy shitim sick of that shit, I dont ever mean to say im better than anyone but just as much as im being a hypocrite, you are judging me at the same time by saying that stupid shit. Any guy in my position would want all the pussy in the world after getting left by his fiance after 4 1/2 years of being together. Fuck off

Nice language, child of God. You know what, you are so screwed up and delusional it's just pathetic.

You are a childish, delusional little hypocrite, nothing else. Claiming to be a Christian then using provisions of your faith as an excuse when you choose to sin?! Making a mistake is one thing, choosing to put yourself in a position, or planning to commit sin, while claiming you walk the path of Christ is nothing more than spitting in the face of your so called faith.

And, news flash, until you actually have a job and are collecting a steady paycheck, you are unemployed, period. Lined up jobs don't pay the bills.

 

[the.gladiator1987]

It's a blessing because you're way too young to consider marriage. IMO, a guy shouldn't consider marriage before he's thirty and firmly established in life.

Yea, I guess we thought that we were with eachother so long it would last, but obviously not.

I know i should wait till im 30 to get married, thats definetly true. Makes more sense to me now that reality hit and i need to take care of my own life before thinking about someone elses too at 19. And shes the kind off girl that needs "Mr. Wonderful". Always giving compliments, always knows what to say, always listens to her. Im definetly not that, or not yet anyway

Im glad this happened though, even though i miss her, because my life has always been around her, and hers around mine, and im so laid back, and shes so stressful, but she has the job/car/money/school, and i dont really. Never cared though, she cared too much. Hot and cold, water and fire. Thank God it didnt work out

 

[the.gladiator1987]

Nice language, child of God. You know what, you are so screwed up and delusional it's just pathetic.

You are a childish, delusional little hypocrite, nothing else. Claiming to be a Christian then using provisions of your faith as an excuse when you choose to sin?! Making a mistake is one thing, choosing to put yourself in a position, or planning to commit sin, while claiming you walk the path of Christ is nothing more than spitting in the face of your so called faith.

And, news flash, until you actually have a job and are collecting a steady paycheck, you are unemployed, period. Lined up jobs don't pay the bills.

LOL i said im a sinner and a christian. But heres the thing. Christianity is a religion. Being a sinner isnt. I hate it too when christians always act like they know everything, claim to be perfect but no one is.

Look, I am a sinner. You are right, by the way I act I deserve to go to hell, we all do. But God sent Jesus to die for our sins. We can accept that and acknowledge Jesus as our savior and God as our creator. We have forgiveness. but we sin as well.

I choose to believe christianity because it makes perfect sense to me. I can turn a christian song on whenever and i get this overwhelming feeling of peace. No matter what is happeneing. And i get to go to heaven. I dont want to die and that be all. Maybe you do, IDK. Actually i think you believe in 150 lives or whatever. Then go do that, well see once Jesus comes down and takes all the believers.

But seriously just get off this thread, you are annoying. I dont like when you post in my threads because you are already biased. Bringing up God when it has nothing to do with it.

 

[iggy]

Bro, please don't put down MM. i understand you have different views then her and that is completely alright.

i hope you move on and make good decisions.

Godspeed

 

[shrimp poboy]

LOL i said im a sinner and a christian. But heres the thing. Christianity is a religion. Being a sinner isnt. I hate it too when christians always act like they know everything, claim to be perfect but no one is.

Look, I am a sinner. You are right, by the way I act I deserve to go to hell, we all do. But God sent Jesus to die for our sins. We can accept that and acknowledge Jesus as our savior and God as our creator. We have forgiveness. but we sin as well.

I choose to believe christianity because it makes perfect sense to me. I can turn a christian song on whenever and i get this overwhelming feeling of peace. No matter what is happeneing. And i get to go to heaven. I dont want to die and that be all. Maybe you do, IDK. Actually i think you believe in 150 lives or whatever. Then go do that, well see once Jesus comes down and takes all the believers.

But seriously just get off this thread, you are annoying. I dont like when you post in my threads because you are already biased. Bringing up God when it has nothing to do with it.

Bro dont let MM get you wound up she flames everyone.Now go out and fuck that broads sister even if you have to put a roofie in her drink.

 

[musclemom]

But seriously just get off this thread, you are annoying. I dont like when you post in my threads because you are already biased. Bringing up God when it has nothing to do with it.

Waaa waaa waaa. Then put me on Ignore, you twerp. You don't like my posts because I point the truth out to you, and probably because you don't understand half of the words I use (and generally spell correctly) you infantile ignoramus.

BTW, inquiring minds are just dying know, since "the counselors ask how im supporting her, and I said i had a job lined up, but everyone already knew I didnt have a job right away," how exactly are you paying for all that testosterone you've been pumping into your body that's making you so gosh darned horny? Oh, right "she has the job/car/money/school, and i dont really." And you don't understand why her parents were butting their noses in on this train crash in the making? Talk about young, dumb and full of cum, you aren't just a stereotype, guardian, you're a frigging caricature.

 

[musclemom]

Bro dont let MM get you wound up she flames everyone.Now go out and fuck that broads sister even if you have to put a roofie in her drink.

Oh, Shrimpy, don't ruin my fun, if I piss him off badly enough maybe he'll threaten to kick my ass. I haven't had anyone threaten me with physical violence on this board in ages.

All I do is tell the truth, not one thing more, I tell the truth as it's presented in the posts on these boards, I confront people with their own words in past and present posts, and that makes them uncomfortable. But I'm the one who flames I don't need to flame, all I need to do is read and have a halfway decent memory.

 

[illuminazi]

" Can we all just get along?"

 

[Bikini Mod]

Waaa waaa waaa. Then put me on Ignore, you twerp. You don't like my posts because I point the truth out to you, and probably because you don't understand half of the words I use (and generally spell correctly) you infantile ignoramus.

BTW, inquiring minds are just dying know, since "the counselors ask how im supporting her, and I said i had a job lined up, but everyone already knew I didnt have a job right away," how exactly are you paying for all that testosterone you've been pumping into your body that's making you so gosh darned horny? Oh, right "she has the job/car/money/school, and i dont really." And you don't understand why her parents were butting their noses in on this train crash in the making? Talk about young, dumb and full of cum, you aren't just a stereotype, guardian, you're a frigging caricature.

^^ This has got to be THE BEST FLAME I HAVE SEEN IN AGES.

(and seeing that I am 8 days older than dirt, that is saying A LOT).

Guardian you even LOOK "stupid". Dude, get a job and tag all the ignorant pussy you can get and I have no doubt it hangs off of you it's so plentiful. Clearly that is what god wants for you to have given you the charm and good looks that he did. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE do us all a favor and use birth control.

 

[iggy]

life is what you make it bro.
do onto others as you wish done to you.
and remember to keep your word always, and never break it for anyone.

 

[shrimp poboy]

^^ This has got to be THE BEST FLAME I HAVE SEEN IN AGES.

(and seeing that I am 8 days older than dirt, that is saying A LOT).

Guardian you even LOOK "stupid". Dude, get a job and tag all the ignorant pussy you can get and I have no doubt it hangs off of you it's so plentiful. Clearly that is what god wants for you to have given you the charm and good looks that he did. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE do us all a favor and use birth control.

lol at 8 days older than dirt pileazzzze you aint even that young

 

[Bikini Mod]

lol at 8 days older than dirt pileazzzze you aint even that young

Fuck you AND the horse you road in on.

I ain't one day older... Only one on elite who is older than me is The Grump and he makes Methuselah look like a spring chicken.

On a side note - Guardian what is up with your obsession with hell and sin?

 

[shrimp poboy]

Fuck you AND the horse you road in on.

I ain't one day older... Only one on elite who is older than me is The Grump and he makes Methuselah look like a spring chicken.

On a side note - Guardian what is up with your obsession with hell and sin?

Ive got oak trees in my yard younger than BM

 

[Bikini Mod]

Ive got oak trees in my yard younger than BM

Hehehehe Of that I have NO DOUBT....

Still, I'm representing the old broads pretty good.

 

[musclemom]

Hehehehe Of that I have NO DOUBT....

Still, I'm representing the old broads pretty good.

Ahhh, you forget E, I'm two years older than you Ergo, if you are older than dirt, then I'm so old I remember the rocks from whence that self same dirt was ground from

And as for oldest EF poster, not to disagree with you, but I think that particular honor goes to thelion2005. I seem to recall he's in his mid 60s. However, he doesn't post a fraction as often as GOM does.

 

[Bikini Mod]

Ahhh, you forget E, I'm two years older than you Ergo, if you are older than dirt, then I'm so old I remember the rocks from whence that self same dirt was ground from

And as for oldest EF poster, not to disagree with you, but I think that particular honor goes to thelion2005. I seem to recall he's in his mid 60s. However, he doesn't post a fraction as often as GOM does.

I forgot about Lion.... too bad he isn't around much anymore. I didn't think he was THAT old.

And Ms Thandie (who just earned her procard at 53 - in case anyone who is reading this has been living underneath a rock and didn't hear the news) is 11 years older than me... CAN SHE REPRESENT... OR WHAT?!?!

BTW - MM you are REALLY REALLY OLD if you are older than me.

I feel bad on the one hand being so harsh to Guardian, but he REALLY needs a reality check. I mean, "I HAD A JOB LINED UP"?!?! WTF is that? I can't imagine him telling the cashier at the Kroeger's/Pathmark/FoodLion whathaveyou... "I'll pay you in a month after I get my first paycheck from the job that I have lined up with my brother who has been too busy getting married and such to actually HIRE ME. But don't worry, I'm good for it." <---- insert the name of the utility company, the bank that holds the note on your car, the insurance company, the bus driver, the shoe store, the joose dealer.... Yea, I am CERTAIN they will give you products and services ON CREDIT - you know, not the plastic kind where your parents have co-signed, but the kind that banks would give farmers bout 200 hundred years ago...

*sigh*

I don't think he is a bad guy and I feel for the pain of having a relationship that you thought was a good one, come to an end. But geeze, his statements/arguements are, well, stoopid and make no sense. Consequently it is nearly impossible to take ANYTHING he says seriously, forget about having an intelligent debate. That is nothing short of having a battle of wits with an unarmed man.

 

[musclemom]

I forgot about Lion.... too bad he isn't around much anymore. I didn't think he was THAT old.

And Ms Thandie (who just earned her procard at 53 - in case anyone who is reading this has been living underneath a rock and didn't hear the news) is 11 years older than me... CAN SHE REPRESENT... OR WHAT?!?!

BTW - MM you are REALLY REALLY OLD if you are older than me.

I feel bad on the one hand being so harsh to Guardian, but he REALLY needs a reality check. I mean, "I HAD A JOB LINED UP"?!?! WTF is that? I can't imagine him telling the cashier at the Kroeger's/Pathmark/FoodLion whathaveyou... "I'll pay you in a month after I get my first paycheck from the job that I have lined up with my brother who has been too busy getting married and such to actually HIRE ME. But don't worry, I'm good for it." <---- insert the name of the utility company, the bank that holds the note on your car, the insurance company, the bus driver, the shoe store, the joose dealer.... Yea, I am CERTAIN they will give you products and services ON CREDIT - you know, not the plastic kind where your parents have co-signed, but the kind that banks would give farmers bout 200 hundred years ago...

*sigh*

I don't think he is a bad guy and I feel for the pain of having a relationship that you thought was a good one, come to an end. But geeze, his statements/arguements are, well, stoopid and make no sense. Consequently it is nearly impossible to take ANYTHING he says seriously, forget about having an intelligent debate. That is nothing short of having a battle of wits with an unarmed man.

Ye gods I forgot about the lovely Ms. Thandie (who has a figure nicer than more than 3/4s of the young women, who are young enough to be her grandchildren, I see in the malls these days). As for thelion, just check the gentleman's profile, his birth date is August 20, 1943.

I don't think theguardian is a bad person. He is, however, a very young and extremely arrogant enormous ass with his feet set firmly on a path of habitual self deception. The kindest thing that can be done is what should have been done before he was out of elementary school, he needs to be told to sit down, close his mout and open his ears.

Unfortunately, apparently his parents never told him "he ain't all that" in his formative years and now look at him. Just one of countless faceless 20 somethings charging through his life thinking he's got the world by the balls, who won't realize that uh, no, you don't dumbass, you're just one more tiny fish in a very big pond, until he's in his mid to late 40s, if ever. Just one of the over 6.7 billion on this planet whose life, over the long haul, won't amount to a hill of beans to anyone but himself and his immediate family (just like 99.999999% of us).

 

[Bikini Mod]

Ye gods I forgot about the lovely Ms. Thandie (who has a figure nicer than more than 3/4s of the young women, who are young enough to be her grandchildren, I see in the malls these days). As for thelion, just check the gentleman's profile, his birth date is August 20, 1943.

I don't think theguardian is a bad person. He is, however, a very young and extremely arrogant enormous ass with his feet set firmly on a path of habitual self deception. The kindest thing that can be done is what should have been done before he was out of elementary school, he needs to be told to sit down, close his mout and open his ears.

Unfortunately, apparently his parents never told him "he ain't all that" in his formative years and now look at him. Just one of countless faceless 20 somethings charging through his life thinking he's got the world by the balls, who won't realize that uh, no, you don't dumbass, you're just one more tiny fish in a very big pond, until he's in his mid to late 40s, if ever. Just one of the over 6.7 billion on this planet whose life, over the long haul, won't amount to a hill of beans to anyone but himself and his immediate family (just like 99.999999% of us).

Damn, old Grump was born in 1958 so yup, I guess Lion wins the EF Methuselah award. LOL

As for the rest of your post:

*shivers*

MuscleMom you are cold.
































Accurate, but cold.

 

[-SD-]

Damn, old Grump was born in 1958

lol @ fudging the old mans birth year

 

[Grumpy Old Man]

I wasnt unemployed, i had a job lined up with my brother. I still have it lined up, hes just real busy since hes getting married this month and he moved from AZ to california. They knew that, everyone did and the dad still said yes and so did our counselors.

They could have said no, but its really not their choice. The parents dont want to see an unsuccesful marriage, but thats their selfish thinking. If the daughter wants to marry him because she loves him, then you haveto accept that. But these parents are so fuckin overbearing its ridiculous. Making mine and my exs decisions? WTF

And please musclemom stop with this bullshit about Jesus applauding me, I am christian but I am a sinner too. Im no better than anyone, i have no right to judge people. Only God does. So let him judge me will you? Holy shitim sick of that shit, I dont ever mean to say im better than anyone but just as much as im being a hypocrite, you are judging me at the same time by saying that stupid shit. Any guy in my position would want all the pussy in the world after getting left by his fiance after 4 1/2 years of being together. Fuck off

Actually from reading your posts you are not only a provaricator & twit I think you are really, really, really challenged mentally and emotionally.

You have come up with some of the most off the wall crap I have ever had to spell check.

Good luck to the girl that decided not to hook her wagon to your star. She made a informed and intellignet decision. I can't imagine how vacuous you are in person. Really I can't!

 

[75th]

Actually from reading your posts you are not only a provaricator & twit I think you are really, really, really challenged mentally and emotionally.

You have come up with some of the most off the wall crap I have ever had to spell check.

Good luck to the girl that decided not to hook her wagon to your star. She made a informed and intellignet decision. I can't imagine how vacuous you are in person. Really I can't!

pwnd

 

[musclemom]

As for the rest of your post:

*shivers*

MuscleMom you are cold.

See, now I don't see being realistic, even if it does mean having a slightly pragmatic point of view, as cold But that's Mother Nature for you. The Goddess has more than one face for a very good reason: she is the welcoming smile at your birth, the dazzling lover in the prime of your life, and the wizened crone who doesn't hesitate to take you out when your time is up. No good being all touchy, feely mushy when the truth of the matter is, in the vast scheme of things, how important, really, is any of us? What is our 70+/- years compared to the lifespan of this planet? As a species, we aren't even blips on the radar; as individuals, we aren't far different from the ants (and no where near as organized).

That doesn't mean our individual lives aren't precious to us, but they really are like individual grains of sand on a beach. And yet ...

"To See a World..."
Fragments from "Auguries of Innocence"

To see a World in a Grain of Sand
And a Heaven in a Wild Flower,
Hold Infinity in the palm of your hand
And Eternity in an hour.

A Robin Redbreast in a Cage
Puts all Heaven in a Rage.
A dove house fill’d with doves and pigeons
Shudders Hell thro’ all its regions.
A Dog starv’d at his Master’s Gate
Predicts the ruin of the State.
A Horse misus’d upon the Road
Calls to Heaven for Human blood.
Each outcry of the hunted Hare
A fiber from the Brain does tear.

He who shall train the Horse to War
Shall never pass the Polar Bar.
The Beggar’s Dog and Widow’s Cat,
Feed them and thou wilt grow fat.
The Gnat that sings his Summer song
Poison gets from Slander’s tongue.
The poison of the Snake and Newt
Is the sweat of Envy’s Foot.

A truth that’s told with bad intent
Beats all the Lies you can invent.
It is right it should be so;
Man was made for Joy and Woe;
And when this we rightly know
Thro’ the World we safely go.

Every Night and every Morn
Some to Misery are Born.
Every Morn and every Night
Some are Born to sweet delight.
Some are Born to sweet delight,
Some are Born to Endless Night.

 

[Razorguns]

This forum should be labeled 'Relationship Talk'.

I'm texting george spellwin as we speak.

r

 

[Six8]

im sure this is a 100x repost but youre way too young to get married go out and fuck mad girls until 30 or so then look for a serious relationship

 

[the.gladiator1987]

Actually from reading your posts you are not only a provaricator & twit I think you are really, really, really challenged mentally and emotionally.

You have come up with some of the most off the wall crap I have ever had to spell check.

Good luck to the girl that decided not to hook her wagon to your star. She made a informed and intellignet decision. I can't imagine how vacuous you are in person. Really I can't!

LOL at pwnd for not spelling intelligent right dumbass

And im just a 20 y/o guy, nothing too extreme like you are saying. I actually have a lot of shit together and im smart, i dont feel the need to show it on this site.

 

[Razorguns]

LOL at pwnd for not spelling intelligent right dumbass

And im just a 20 y/o guy, nothing too extreme like you are saying. I actually have a lot of shit together and im smart, i dont feel the need to show it on this site.

This is the internets dawg. Everyone loves to pass judgment on other people. It's like the new national pastime, overtaking sex and baseball.

r

 

[javaguru]

This is the internets dawg. Everyone loves to pass judgment on other people. It's like the new national pastime, overtaking sex and baseball.

r

lol..true... we've all been pwned by chicks, making it public on ef...that's a sport.

 

[the.gladiator1987]

Lol

 

[javaguru]

Lol

I had my own jesusy chick...he family loved me and she wanted to get married...and have a short engagement. She broke up with me over two years ago via text message...she couldn't convert me and needed someone "equally yoked." I still get the occasional text from her... including the I just heard a song that reminded me of you...

It's this one... Don't do contact after a break up.

YouTube - Dido - White Flag (MV + LYRICS)

You can still have feelings for someone but you move on and maintaining contact is the worst thing in the short term.

 

[C3bodybuilding3012]

This can be a tough thing to go through..clear your head and decide what you really want to do and what you want out of life. I lost someone very special to me a long time ago, I never allowed myself to fully heal or vent about it and it still haunts me. In the long road, you will be okay. The parent thing sounds a lil nutty to me anyway...coming into a private counsling session? Btw, just curious, what were these sessions for? Was there trouble before all this? If too personal, I understand. I am just trying to figure out the mindset of someone who says yes and then a week later takes off.

 

[javaguru]

This can be a tough thing to go through..clear your head and decide what you really want to do and what you want out of life. I lost someone very special to me a long time ago, I never allowed myself to fully heal or vent about it and it still haunts me. In the long road, you will be okay. The parent thing sounds a lil nutty to me anyway...coming into a private counsling session? Btw, just curious, what were these sessions for? Was there trouble before all this? If too personal, I understand. I am just trying to figure out the mindset of someone who says yes and then a week later takes off.

Cut all ties physically and emotionally is my best advice. That doesn't mean banging the first or as many chicks as you can but getting right with yourself....don't be that crazy dude.

 

[the.gladiator1987]

This can be a tough thing to go through..clear your head and decide what you really want to do and what you want out of life. I lost someone very special to me a long time ago, I never allowed myself to fully heal or vent about it and it still haunts me. In the long road, you will be okay. The parent thing sounds a lil nutty to me anyway...coming into a private counsling session? Btw, just curious, what were these sessions for? Was there trouble before all this? If too personal, I understand. I am just trying to figure out the mindset of someone who says yes and then a week later takes off.

Thanks bro

The sessions were just something we were advised to go through as a young couple before getting married. It was through our church. Me and my ex always went together every week and talked about things like finances, relationships, understanding eachother, etc. And in a biblical way how to make the marriage work.

There was no trouble, beside the fact that I had no current job. HOWEVER i had a side job and her job with mine we had enough income to start out and pay for everything. The parents knew this, my ex knew this, and the counselors knew this from the very beginning.

I dont know why she took off and kicked me out in such a hurry, we never had a HUGE fight in the last month, maybe like 6 months ago, but lately we would only fight about things like i didnt do the dishes, or i was too tired to get up and go to church.

 

[samoth]

Actually from reading your posts you are not only a provaricator & twit I think you are really, really, really challenged mentally and emotionally.

Well, he is really just a kid. Most people aren't ready to be married at 20 in today's society of college and graduate school and 20s-are-for-fun culture. Further, someone as young as him with only one relationship for the past five years (most of his sexual maturity) is probably another reason for the regression to 15-year-old I-want-pussy-NOW mentality.

 

[musclemom]

Well, he is really just a kid. Most people aren't ready to be married at 20 in today's society of college and graduate school and 20s-are-for-fun culture. Further, someone as young as him with only one relationship for the past five years (most of his sexual maturity) is probably another reason for the regression to 15-year-old I-want-pussy-NOW mentality.

Yes, he is a kid. Which is why, when he created this particular gem of a thread discussing his impending marriage (and existing speeding tickets) on Feb. 4, 2009:

http://www.elitefitness.com/forum/chat-conversation/40-gym-membership-bills-639183.html

Everyone of us was telling him, "DON'T DO IT."

Now, how the logistics work of the fact that he proposed to his GF a week ago and she just dumped him when he was planning on getting married back in Feb., I dunno. Maybe he really is smarter than he appears on this board and has managed time travel?

But remember, he knows much, much more about life, living, and relationships than I, or anyone else who has been married, divorced, or even has children his age or older, could ever possibly know. In fact, he's far smarter than his GF's parents, and his pastor, and anyone else who doesn't possess the breadth of his vision, the depth of his knowledge, or the vastness of his experiences.

In fact, I hope someday but to be able to sit at the feet of the.guardian, or another such as himself, merely to drink in such wisdom. I dream of this, as one who has crawled through the desert dreams of drinking from cool clear running streams

I wax far too prosaic, definitely time for me to hit the hay.

 

[Razorguns]

Yes, he is a kid. Which is why, when he created this particular gem of a thread discussing his impending marriage (and existing speeding tickets) on Feb. 4, 2009:

http://www.elitefitness.com/forum/chat-conversation/40-gym-membership-bills-639183.html

Everyone of us was telling him, "DON'T DO IT."

Now, how the logistics work of the fact that he proposed to his GF a week ago and she just dumped him when he was planning on getting married back in Feb., I dunno. Maybe he really is smarter than he appears on this board and has managed time travel?

But remember, he knows much, much more about life, living, and relationships than I, or anyone else who has been married, divorced, or even has children his age or older, could ever possibly know. In fact, he's far smarter than his GF's parents, and his pastor, and anyone else who doesn't possess the breadth of his vision, the depth of his knowledge, or the vastness of his experiences.

In fact, I hope someday but to be able to sit at the feet of the.guardian, or another such as himself, merely to drink in such wisdom. I dream of this, as one who has crawled through the desert dreams of drinking from cool clear running streams

I wax far too prosaic, definitely time for me to hit the hay.

When on the internets has anyone, regardless of age, admit they didn't know everything about everything on the planet? lol

Anywhere on the internet, people proudly demand that everyone knows that they know everything. And if you doubt them, fuck you!

Which is why their lives in real life are perfect.

r

 

[MsBeverlyHills]

Ok So Im 20, shes 19. We dated for 4 1/2 years until we decided to get married. I proposed to her about a week ago but we were planning the wedding for June for the last couple months.

A couple days ago, we went into a counseling meeting and her parents were there. All of a sudden they say whats the rush, and my ex is saying that she feels that God is convicting her to not get married, and it would go against his will to get married. WTF? Then the counselors ask how im supporting her, and I said i had a job lined up, but everyone already knew I didnt have a job right away and we went on with the planning for the wedding.

Just kinda venting here, but a week after I propose and she says yes, she leaves me, kicks me out of her house, and doesnt talk to me. I know were done but any tips on how I can just not even think of her or get sad to think about her. I want to move on now and I know im young so everything is good, just what she did really hurt. Thanks everyone heres a pic of us

http://i14.photobucket.com/albums/a316/hehateme00000/meandgirlsexy.jpghttp://i14.photobucket.com/albums/a316/hehateme00000/meandgirlsexy.jpg

wow.. this sounds like a plot to a movie.... oh yeah it was a movie-- License to Wed!! lol

seriously, listen to the other posters- you are too young & inexperienced to get married...get a job or go back to school- get your life on-track before you make a major commitment like this.

good luck

 

[Wulfgar]

hey bro...same thing happened to me...10 day engagement and then given back the ring.....but worse...far worse


takes some time but its just that she isnt ready. take it as a sign....you will prolly thank her later

 

[the.gladiator1987]

hey bro...same thing happened to me...10 day engagement and then given back the ring.....but worse...far worse


takes some time but its just that she isnt ready. take it as a sign....you will prolly thank her later

Yea will do, im glad theres no contact either right now that would just make me think about her more, but im keeping busy so all is good

lol razr i know what you mean, everyone on internet is perfect, lol i never said i was tho and idk why MM takes it like i am or something

and why are you calling me the.guardian? its gladiator

thanks for responses everyone, its good to get advice and logical advice from people that have no reason to be emotional over it.

 

[Bikini Mod]

When on the internets has anyone, regardless of age, admit they didn't know everything about everything on the planet? lol

Anywhere on the internet, people proudly demand that everyone knows that they know everything. And if you doubt them, fuck you!

Which is why their lives in real life are perfect.

r

I may have posted this regarding myself about a million times. YOu must have missed them, that is not MY bad.

I do believe I posted "there isn't anyone person who knows everything there is to know about everything" within the last seven days as a matter of fact.

Oh yea and Gladiator, you are young... we get it. Good lord do we get it. Why don't you ask my husband what he was doing with his life when he was your age? Pssssssssssssshhhhh 20 was OLD for him. Ask him what he was doing when he was 16. Hey, while we are at it why don't you ask me what I was doing at your age?

My husband didn't have a choice in growing up as quickly as he did whereas ME, THE DUMBASS DID have a choice and I went and screwed it all up anyway because I was *READY* to be a full-fledged grown-up. NOBODY in my family has laughed about the stupid choice I made over 20 years ago... least of all my children. They can't laugh, they are too busy being abused.

The only reason any of us on this thread gave you a hard time is because you came off like SUCH an arrogant, unintelligent, hypocritical moron regarding your religious views. Perhaps we shouldn't have because you've already admittedlu felt the need to *hold back* or *not expose* your intelligence during every single one of those posts and what fun is there in having yet another battle of wits with an unarmed man?

I feel so empty.

Have fun with the impending pussy-massacre but will they go in christ with you? Or I guess it won't matter because they won't "know" the lord. As long as one party engaged in the fornication olympics knows who the boss is, then I guess that makes it ok for both. Good thing for your immortal soul that jesus died for it. This way all you "believers" get as many get out of hell cards free as you need.

Dammit, see now I was absent that day in sunday school. I miss ALL the good stuff.

 

[musclemom]

Yes, kid, excuse me, gladiator, you are young. See, when I was your age, 24 years ago, I had been married nearly 2 years and had a son ten months younger than my marriage. I got married one month before I turned 19. Why do you think I was telling you not to get married in the first place?

 

[Bikini Mod]

When my husband was 19 he t'werent married yet. Uncle Sam had other plans. He was vacationing in Vietnam, Capt Airborne Ranger. He didn't do the REALLY BIG BOY thing and grow up and get married till he was like 21/22 I believe. Married a nice mormon girl (who happened to be a Miss Teenage USA or something) have a coupla kids and bust his ass traveling 5 days outta seven to support them. Too bad his wife was "too lonely" regardless of all the nice things that money he earned bought them. One day he came home and his kid told him that mommy was talking really loudly with Uncle Dave in their bedroom. My husband - "You don't HAVE an uncle dave, honey." Long story short - she was fucking the nextdoor neighbor who was also married with a coupla kids. My husband spent the next 2 decades paying ungodly childsupport for kids that "were never available to see him" - payed for freaking doctorals.... You know who his kids call dad? THE OTHER DOUCHE THAT WAS FUCKING HIS WIFE... but then again, it must have been a good choice as they have still been married all these years and fifty kids later.

Me, I was married by 22 to an abusive (though thrifty) piece of shit who has tortured and abused me, my children AND my family for the last 9 years because I grew the balls to kick his ass out for beating me to the ground.

So when us OLD dumbasses give you advice it is because we have been there, done that and dont want to see someone else wearing THAT T-shirt.

 

[jackangel]

damn musclemom got all retarded up in this thread.

 

[Thandie]

I may have posted this regarding myself about a million times. YOu must have missed them, that is not MY bad.

I do believe I posted "there isn't anyone person who knows everything there is to know about everything" within the last seven days as a matter of fact.

Oh yea and Gladiator, you are young... we get it. Good lord do we get it. Why don't you ask my husband what he was doing with his life when he was your age? Pssssssssssssshhhhh 20 was OLD for him. Ask him what he was doing when he was 16. Hey, while we are at it why don't you ask me what I was doing at your age?

My husband didn't have a choice in growing up as quickly as he did whereas ME, THE DUMBASS DID have a choice and I went and screwed it all up anyway because I was *READY* to be a full-fledged grown-up. NOBODY in my family has laughed about the stupid choice I made over 20 years ago... least of all my children. They can't laugh, they are too busy being abused.

The only reason any of us on this thread gave you a hard time is because you came off like SUCH an arrogant, unintelligent, hypocritical moron regarding your religious views. Perhaps we shouldn't have because you've already admittedlu felt the need to *hold back* or *not expose* your intelligence during every single one of those posts and what fun is there in having yet another battle of wits with an unarmed man?

I feel so empty.

Have fun with the impending pussy-massacre but will they go in christ with you? Or I guess it won't matter because they won't "know" the lord. As long as one party engaged in the fornication olympics knows who the boss is, then I guess that makes it ok for both. Good thing for your immortal soul that jesus died for it. This way all you "believers" get as many get out of hell cards free as you need.

Dammit, see now I was absent that day in sunday school. I miss ALL the good stuff.

BM, you're so wise! I love reading your posts. Too bad most people don't "get it". They'd learn something that will save them alot of grief in the future.

There's IQ and threre's EQ (Intelligent & Spiritual Quotient)
We need both to make it in this world, without self destruction.

 

[musclemom]

damn musclemom got all retarded up in this thread.

Certain flaws are necessary for the whole. It would seem strange if old friends lacked certain quirks. ~Goethe

 

[Bikini Mod]

BM, you're so wise! I love reading your posts. Too bad most people don't "get it". They'd learn something that will save them alot of grief in the future.

There's IQ and threre's EQ (Intelligent & Spiritual Quotient)
We need both to make it in this world, without self destruction.

Thandie, I dunno if I am wise but I CAN tell you that as sure as I am sitting here typing this post, if there was an ASS-BACKWARDS WAY to do something, yours truly was at the HEAD of that line. I often joke that I swear for all the upstream swimming I've done you would think my forehead would be bright pink by now. The good news is that when you *get there* you have THE MOST MIND-BLOWING SEX of your life ('course since it will be your first and last time you really don't have much to compare it too LOL). The bad news is that then you get to DIE.

I love the taste of salmon, but dammit, I'm tired of living my life like one.

True enlightenment comes through suffering (sorry gladiator but christians CAN NOT take credit for that one - this line of thought was invented long before Jesus).

Our character is not decided by our circumstances alone, but rather by how WE CHOOSE to react to them. I do believe that it was Winston Churchill or perhaps Eleanor Roosevelt who first uttered these words.... no Jesus needed.

What I am trying to tell Gladiator is that even "non-believers" are capable of intelligent positive thought and perhaps if he focused less on hellfire and damnation and more on becoming a responsible contributing member of society (sans his cock and pretty body/face) he may actually learn that he has much to contribute to the world in ways that may be great or even very small, but if his actions/words helped JUST ONE OTHER then he won't have to worry too much about his immortal soul - not because of hell or Jesus but because he is sending out POSITIVE ENERGY that will undoubtedly be returned to him a thousandfold, maybe even long after he has left this earth.

What could be better than that?

No Thandie, I am no smarter than anyone else. I've just been beaten up a bit by life... which is no different than every other human being who has been alive as long as I have... C'est nes pas?

 

[iggy]

my dad was in vietnam at 19 and got married at 21 but divorced at 24 BM.

 

[Stefka]

Just one of countless faceless 20 somethings charging through his life thinking he's got the world by the balls, who won't realize that uh, no, you don't dumbass, you're just one more tiny fish in a very big pond, until he's in his mid to late 40s, if ever. Just one of the over 6.7 billion on this planet whose life, over the long haul, won't amount to a hill of beans to anyone but himself and his immediate family (just like 99.999999% of us).

You are quite the downer.
That charging through life thinking you're super awesome thing is one of the best things about your early 20's.

 

[Bikini Mod]

You are quite the downer.
That charging through life thinking you're super awesome thing is one of the best things about your early 20's.

One of the things I admire most about 20 somethings, that fire in their belly. Not so easy to maintain once life has knocked you on your ass a time or six.... but it can be done. We still don't let the world define us or decide who/what we are going to be we just don't go around beating on our chests anymore, as that is kinda well, dumb.

 

[Thandie]

Thandie, I dunno if I am wise but I CAN tell you that as sure as I am sitting here typing this post, if there was an ASS-BACKWARDS WAY to do something, yours truly was at the HEAD of that line. I often joke that I swear for all the upstream swimming I've done you would think my forehead would be bright pink by now. The good news is that when you *get there* you have THE MOST MIND-BLOWING SEX of your life ('course since it will be your first and last time you really don't have much to compare it too LOL). The bad news is that then you get to DIE.

I love the taste of salmon, but dammit, I'm tired of living my life like one.

True enlightenment comes through suffering (sorry gladiator but christians CAN NOT take credit for that one - this line of thought was invented long before Jesus).

Our character is not decided by our circumstances alone, but rather by how WE CHOOSE to react to them. I do believe that it was Winston Churchill or perhaps Eleanor Roosevelt who first uttered these words.... no Jesus needed.

What I am trying to tell Gladiator is that even "non-believers" are capable of intelligent positive thought and perhaps if he focused less on hellfire and damnation and more on becoming a responsible contributing member of society (sans his cock and pretty body/face) he may actually learn that he has much to contribute to the world in ways that may be great or even very small, but if his actions/words helped JUST ONE OTHER then he won't have to worry too much about his immortal soul - not because of hell or Jesus but because he is sending out POSITIVE ENERGY that will undoubtedly be returned to him a thousandfold, maybe even long after he has left this earth.

What could be better than that?

No Thandie, I am no smarter than anyone else. I've just been beaten up a bit by life... which is no different than every other human being who has been alive as long as I have... C'est nes pas?

In that case you are wise! That IS where true enlightenment comes from. I am where and I am who I am as a result of great suffering. That's how we grow, perhaps unfortunate, but so. It's so great at the end, because we are in a place we didn't know, we didn't know we could be, and alot better then where we yearned to be.

 

[musclemom]

You are quite the downer.
That charging through life thinking you're super awesome thing is one of the best things about your early 20's.

Five years ago I chose to take on the unenviable task of writing a eulogy for my mother. I felt I needed to do this for her, but it was very hard to do because, to be brutally honest, she was a nobody. She never did anything of distinction, was never married, only had one child, was basically disowned by her own family, cleaned other people's houses and offices for a living and had done so for decades, mainly read as a hobby, had no friends beyond those whose houses she cleaned and had never traveled. I still managed to talk about her for 5 minutes and actually brought a tear to the funeral director's eye. The closing went as follows: "perhaps you can take a moment to remember that a simple life can also make a difference, and thus can a simple life become one of the truest greatness."

I never felt super awesome as a young woman. I've always been dreadfully pragmatic, practically from childhood.

 

[the.gladiator1987]

LOL this thread is funny

i think this taught me that she is too young, thank god for me, but also i need to do what i want in life. go to college, get ajob, meet a girl that actually has the same interests as me. cant wait to be 23 pullin girls from 20-30

 

[iggy]

I feel as though people should feel super awesome their entire lives.
definitely never better than anyone else though.
and have a confident attitude.

the whole "i'm invincible feeling does go away though."
coming back from iraq, my buddy who was a player back up home told me that when he came back.

“Dream as if you'll live forever. Live as if you'll die today.”
- james dean

 

[Stefka]

I think we should say "super awesome" in this thread as many times as possible.
That would be super awesome.

 

[Bikini Mod]

my dad was in vietnam at 19 and got married at 21 but divorced at 24 BM.

Sounds real similar to the old Grump.

 

[iggy]

yes, hes very cool like grump as well.

 

[Bikini Mod]

yes, hes very cool like grump as well.

The quote by James Dean that you quoted, I know of a different version - meaning is the same. It's part of the self-portrait on the home page of my dot org site - the one that I hope will someday help benefit victims of domestic violence and the families that have been sucked into the family court system by their abusers (one usually mutates into the other even when a woman leaves the physically abusive situation these abusers have learned to manipulate the family court system to keep control over the women via their children. Shits been around for a long ass time but few people know about it because of the stigma of shame tbat a woman endures when she loses custody of her kids. Sorry to ramble but I use every chance I get to publicly speak out about this phenomenon - raising public awareness IMHO is the first step to facilitating change).

Anyway, it is a french saying which comes from a very famous children's musical by the name of "Emilie Jolie" - which means Emilie, the beautiful. The story is very moving on it's own but holds great personal meaning for me for a host of reasons.

Anyway - it is "make your dreams consume your life so that your life NEVER consumes your dreams."

 

[wootoom]

Sorry to hear...im going through a divorce..my life is already getting better

 

[iggy]

i believe Einstein said something like, "knowledge is power, but imagination is what makes you better."

I think we should say "super awesome" in this thread as many times as possible.
That would be super awesome.

You are "super awesome" Stefka!

 

[Bikini Mod]

i believe Einstein said something like, "knowledge is power, but imagination is what makes you better."


You are "super awesome" Stefka!

That is also one of my all-time fav quotes... but I'd forgotten about it. Thanks for reminding me.

The wording is a bit off but you delivered the proper sentiment. I'll have to look it up.

You're a good egg, Mr Iggy.