I've had it with the "bitter OLDER man" syndrome...

[Werd]

so you gonna apologize for all those threads praising older men, and chiding younger men for being immature? And lashing at all those who disagreed!!

(btw: all those qulaities you just described, exist quite plentifully in younger men may i add)

It wasn't that I chided younger men for being immature, they just didn't interest me. I never found them physically appealing. But considering the pisspoor shape that men in their 40's and up are anymore I am willing to give it a shot though.

I am not looking for a serious anything. Just a mutual understanding - if it works for him and for me then game on. When it is done - leave.

 

[Werd]

i think part of your problem is that youve swallowed the idea that people need to be part of a loving couple, hook, line and sinker. fact is, people dont, and our biological needs are different to those perceived needs instilled in us from birth

i think its wrong to get upset at this guy for being emotionally detatched (or at least, distant) after a bad experience, since some people do not have the coping mechanisms needed to get over that sort of thing.

dont take this the wrong way, werd, but i think what you dont like about these men is something that you, yourself, project. youve been burnt, you havnt fully recovered, and as a result, every time something goes wrong in your love life, you demonise men and have a big whine about them/their faults, rather than accept taht sometimes relationships dont go well, or that the root cause of the relationship failing was on your end.

i think you go into relationships loaded with preconceived expectations that can sometimes be abrasive, and lead to (the wrong sort of) friction.

chill. then chill some more. then have a vodka, and keep chilling. and have a merry happy new christmas

now, hola csonti? hola csonti? ot! OT DA CSONTI

I dont understand the post darlin'. Who am I pissed off at here? I am not pissed off at anyone, just saying that I have had it with older men who are all fucking pissy and "dont want to be taken advantage of again" when their marriage was over like 10 years ago! You think they would have gotten over it by now.

My ex is a jerk period. But I do not for one second believe that all men are jerks.

What am I bitter about?

 

[BUBBLES]

Feel you Yas...

I am by all accounts very rare. I am intelligent and dont look like I had ONE baby, let alone the number that I do. I am also quite witty and totally independent. The downside? I have a crazy bastard exhusband that lives to torture me and my kids not to mention that I have chronic health problems that are anything but sexy. They scare people, I will admit.

My last beau and I had a parting of the ways for a few reasons... He was quite the few years my senior. Though he was VERY HANDSOME and charismatic, naked he looked his age LOL.... but I didn't give a fahootie. He was an amazing lover and I loved him very deeply. But... when he saw my health problems (I have hidden them from even my family when they get very bad. They know I am ill, but I try to hide it because it scares them.) and the difficulties with my crazy ex it just got to be too much. He had just buried his wife of 5 years after a very hard and ugly battle with cancer, he proposed to her the day she was diagnosed with endstage cancer. We weren't supposed to date and fall so deeply in love, but it took us both by surprize. I was in denial about my health problems I guess and the ex, well he is just a permanent thorn in our sides.

I know that I will most likely never have a serious long term relationship with anyone so I am satisfied to take care of my shit and find some entertainment on the side. Someone that pleases my senses and doesnt grate across my nerves and knows when to leave.

I love my last beau very much, but there is nothing I can do.

I have no lack of solicitations, believe you me. But very few interest me enough to even want to sit for a few moments, let alone for me to fuck them or desire a relationship.

You have been through a lot. Life is so complex but do not lose faith because you will find the person you are looking for when you least expect it.
You may find him at a gym, movies through friends.

The most important thing is seeing your children growing up happy and healthy and your children seeing you happy and healthy too. Everything else comes second!

 

[geoboy]

dancer......................hmmmmmmm...........


I take back everything I said.

but like I said before, there are plenty of men in their late 30's and 40's who are in GREAT shape and looking for the same thing you are (a fuck-buddy? friends with benefits? pick a phrase).

I hope the health thing works out OK.
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[Werd]

Thanks...

It will be ok. Truth be told I dont want anyone else but my last beau... But I have to try move on. The friends with benefits thing works fine with me and I am not "just saying that".

I keep hoping that I will hear from my ex and we can pick up where we left off (with some counseling, of course) and become a family again - him, me and our kids (he has several grown kids and grandkids as well - they treated my children like siblings, it was truly beautiful.). Only last month he told one that he loved her during a birthday email exchange but then he fell silent when the child innocently suggested that he ask her mommy out again and told him how much she missed seeing him. This guy isn't perfect but I KNOW that he would never intentionally fuck on any of my children. Shit is just thick for us and there are no easy answers.

My health problems are chronic, will never leave but often times I have several good weeks where I feel ok. I gain some weight if I am lucky and then I spend the rest of time struggling to maintain without getting too thin. The last time I get very ill I spent 8 days in the hospital high on pain meds being fed through a tube. That was in July. I get bad about 2 per/year but other than that it is almost tolerable. It really scares my kids to see me ill. But I guess they are used to it.

I would give my eyeteeth to have a man that would accept me in spite of my illness, but I honestly dont think it will happen. If I scared away a guy who willingly took on cancer. LOL....

Yes, I am very pretty, have a bangin bod, am smart, have a great heart and the greatest kids on the planet but I have very unsexy chronic health problems that will continue to erode and eventually lead to my demise and an ex that is an asshole of epic proportions. And the guys wonder why I am tired of bitter older men... (or just bitter ANY men). I crave sunshine and laughter, basic human kindness without judgement or abandonment.

I know I wont find it so I will be satisfied to rise to the challenges that my kids set for me every single day. They are really great and I am blessed to have had the privilige to mother them.

 

[CrazyK]

Ummm nope, you are incorrect. LOL

lol!, Willing to trade pics lady?

 

[Werd]

lol!, Willing to trade pics lady?

ABSOFUCKINGLUTELY!

PM me your email addy... Prepare to eat your words young silly male.


*disclaimer*

I wuv all men.... silly and unsilly alike. It is only the bitter ones that rub me the wrong way. LOL

 

[CrazyK]

ABSOFUCKINGLUTELY!

PM me your email addy... Prepare to eat your words young silly male.


*disclaimer*

I wuv all men.... silly and unsilly alike. It is only the bitter ones that rub me the wrong way. LOL

Ok, but just to let you know, after you see my pics, I am taken, and no I will not give you my phone number. Maybe we can just be friends?

 

[Werd]

I emailed you a shitload including sending a link in a PM. You dont need to reply to me with pics. It is all good. I take everyone for being honest. Another fault of mine. I am too freaking naive. LOL

 

[CrazyK]

I emailed you a shitload including sending a link in a PM. You dont need to reply to me with pics. It is all good. I take everyone for being honest. Another fault of mine. I am too freaking naive. LOL

I sent em to you anyway, a deals a deal. Have fun with my pics