I broke up with bf/ I'm back

[Grumpy Old Man]

I have witnessed this, more emotionally than physically... Not to me but someone that I care for. No one deserves to be abused, biet physical or emotional.

Apparently there are some people that think a woman has a choice to stay or leave. Well she does, but, when everyday is a living hell the choice is not so clear. The last act of abuse in these situations here and in every country is the woman is dead. Abuse is never justified, raising a hand to a woman is never right, controlling another human being is not behavior of a sane individual. Abuse takes many forms and physical is easy to see, yet women still tell their friends and family that the damn door hit them again and the steps were wet so the broken arm AND the black eye were just because they are clumsy every week or so.

 

[habitualhealth]

I have witnessed this, more emotionally than physically... Not to me but someone that I care for. No one deserves to be abused, biet physical or emotional.

It's happened to me before.

It's crazy how it really just sneaks up on you one day and you realize...WHAT THE HECK AM I DOING???

Good thing I have such a big powerful brain to see what was going on before it went too far.

 

[Bikini Mod]

Still there is no reason for anyone to beat the hell out of someone else 'just because they want to be in control'

Nahhhhhhhhhhh didnt you learn anything from reading this thread?

They beat them because that party "made them mad". (Dumbasses' excuse for their inability to control their own emotions.)

Frisky, I understand what you are saying 100%. My sister often chastizes me because I am not as strong as she is but she also hasnt had her skull rattled the way that I have (THANK GOD).

What QT was trying to say is that people like me and Heatherrae and those that were close to you who got abused have to learn what it is WITHIN THEM that attracted the abusers to them in the first place and they need to learn to stay away from people like that. If a woman has a man that abuses her I am willing to go out onto a limb and say that her friends arent all that much better (this goes both way for the sexes). Once an individual learns better self-esteem and how to form HEALTHY and LOVING relationships the cycle of abuse will be broken and they wont have to worry about some crazy ass taking their life because they "made that person mad".

 

[foreigngirl]

Sadly those laws have been abused by scum as well. It is so sad how the laws that were designed to protect the rights of decent people are commonly being abused and manipulated by the very scum that the decent people were supposed to be protected from. That is the price we pay for Justice's blindness I suppose.

There is no justice but only perception and marketing.

agreed, I just didnt wanna say anything about people taking advantage of the system, cuz I didnt want anyone jumping and starting an argument when we are all STILL just duscussing the subject.

 

[Frisky]

We are all given a choice... to stay or to go. But when emotional and physical abuse affects every day of your waking life and you are convinced that the choice you may make will eventually end your life, most stay and endure it out of fear. I have never been physically abused. I was emotionally abused when really younger, and there was no way out at that time, but the day and the minute that I was free to leave I was gone. Not everyone is strong enough to walk away. Fear is our worse enemy

 

[Bikini Mod]

Apparently there are some people that think a woman has a choice to stay or leave. Well she does, but, when everyday is a living hell the choice is not so clear. The last act of abuse in these situations here and in every country is the woman is dead. Abuse is never justified, raising a hand to a woman is never right, controlling another human being is not behavior of a sane individual. Abuse takes many forms and physical is easy to see, yet women still tell their friends and family that the damn door hit them again and the steps were wet so the broken arm AND the black eye were just because they are clumsy every week or so.

Sadly this is a pattern they learn long before they become women. There is a tremendous amount of SHAME associated. Those that are abused not only feel responsible for "bringing it on themselves" but they also feel stupid for not being able to identiry it from the onset and even more powerless to "make it stop". A vicious downward spiral that doesnt seem to have an end....

Mentally beating up the victim makes it even worse. A victim of abuse doesnt need to be mentally and emotionally beaten down. They have already done it to themselves a thousand times AFTER their abuser has done it.

Too bad that many members on EF just dont get that....

If they are not part of the solution, then they are most certainly part of the problem. But WTF do I know?

 

[blueta2]

Fear does not equate to being weak.
Heather is certainly not a weak person. She met and chose a unfit human. She made a mistake based on bad judgment. Making a bad choice does not make one weak. Making bad choices over and over and never learning is weakness.
Fear is not only an enemy, it can be your best friend

 

[Sub-Zero]

KB, I can't believe you would condone anyone doing such a horrific thing. So what if she posted pics, did this and that... does that give him any right to hurt someone? When put in this type of situation you just walk out not hurt the other party, try to pull them thru broken glass.

Its amazing the different responses from those that have kids and those that don't. NO ONE ever should have to endure domestic violence. I don't care what the cause is.

what do you think hurts more, physical pain or having your heart broken(/emotional pain)?

just giving you another perspective on things

 

[Sub-Zero]

"Unless the bitch cheated. Then he has every right to drive her skull into cement."

You all would be shocked at how many homeys share this twisted view on domestic violence.

On second thought, this is elite. None of you would be shocked as they openly post up about it.

sex is a weapon now. with all the stds being with a dishonest partner who sleeps around and isnt honest about it not only destroys a person emotionally, and makes them feel like "being dragged through a broken window", but it also puts them at risk for potentially life ruining/altering, and even life ending diseases.

IMO cheaters, and emotional abusers are JUST as pathetic as physical abusers

im not saying that one warrants the other, though

 

[mkazzbmf]

Im sorry to hear about your run in with the crazy old man. He will come back on his knees....Dont fall for it if or should I say when he does. I hope it all works out for ya kid.

Kaz