I broke up with bf/ I'm back

[Bikini Mod]

what a stupid fuckin thread seriously, there should be a rule on EF LEAVE THE PERSONAL SHIT AT HOME

I humbly disagree...

Posts like the one below are VERY helpfull to us all. Sweeping this stuff under the rug and pretending it doesnt exist is how women end up dead and children end up motherless.

I'm not getting sensitive about the subject, I just feel it is something that is severly overlooked. Read some of the statistics from the sites I posted. There are some astonishing numbers and statistics that really show how improtant it is to educate people on the subject. 3 woman a day are killed in this country from someone they have or have had a relationship with. Chances are that is 3 mothers, as most severe cases are with couples who have children. From my personal experience with domestic abuse, I've seen it tear my little (half)sister apart. She lost both her parents in one day and she was only 12 years old. Since then she has been on a destructive path with sex, drugs, alcohol, she cuts herself, and probably a whole boat load of shit she doesn't tell me. I think its worth my time to clarify misconceptions about the subject. Hopefully I helped someone understand a little bit more than they previously knew.

 

[wootoom]

I humbly disagree...

Posts like the one below are VERY helpfull to us all. Sweeping this stuff under the rug and pretending it doesnt exist is how women end up dead and children end up motherless.

women??? what about men

 

[Bikini Mod]

women??? what about men

As a few previous posts stated, DV goes both ways. However, is far more prevalent as men abusing women.

Men are generally stronger and more prone to becoming violent but it is no less detrimental to a child to have his father blown away by his psychotic mother than to have his mother choked to death by his psychotic father.

It is wrong regardless of who the perpetrator is.

And for the record - I always judge women far more harshly than I do men because I happen to be female.

 

[imystify]

how many kids do you have with the batterer? A lot of woman stay because they have children with the abuser. Not all abuse is physical. So just because you left after you were hit doesn't mean you werent abused for a prolonged period of time. There are way worse types of abuse than physical. You were probably abused way before being hit, it just took physical abuse before you realized it was time to dip. Do a search and look at the statistics. Your upbringing might also have helped you. Most girls are attracted to men who have simular personalities of their fathers. If daddy is an abuser, sometimes the daughters boyfriend is also an abuser. Obviously their are exceptions to the rule. You had the strength that a lot of woman don't have.

1 child, my only child. And the emotoinal abuse started about a month prior, while we were living abroad. My daddy was not abusive, in fact I'm the shnizzlezap there. Maybe I have strenght others don't have, or maybe I've simply not bought into a line of thinking that they have, whatever, as an adult (male or female) we teach others how to treat us.

 

[Sub-Zero]

As a few previous posts stated, DV goes both ways. However, is far more prevalent as men abusing women.

Men are generally stronger and more prone to becoming violent but it is no less detrimental to a child to have his father blown away by his psychotic mother than to have his mother choked to death by his psychotic father.

It is wrong regardless of who the perpetrator is.

And for the record - I always judge women far more harshly than I do men because I happen to be female.

so if men are stronger and more prone to violence shouldnt women take thati nto acount and not provoke them?

 

[caligirl]

so if men are stronger and more prone to violence shouldnt women take thati nto acount and not provoke them?

um yeah, they should. Just by virtue they are bigger and stronger, hell yeah. Don't assume just because you are a woman they wont hurt you. I was married to a world champion kickboxer... when he got mad, I went away... just in case, because he would SNAP. No matter what the reason was, if I had been the catalyst or if it was something else. I took no chances.

 

[Wulfgar]

um yeah, they should. Just by virtue they are bigger and stronger, hell yeah. Don't assume just because you are a woman they wont hurt you. I was married to a world champion kickboxer... when he got mad, I went away... just in case, because he would SNAP. No matter what the reason was, if I had been the catalyst or if it was something else. I took no chances.

thats a healthy relationship. might as well be married to Ike Turner

 

[caligirl]

thats a healthy relationship. might as well be married to Ike Turner

keyword in that paragraph... WAS... !

 

[Wulfgar]

keyword in that paragraph... WAS... !

lol, well my aunt just tried to hook me up with some huge amazon 6'2 UFC fighter chick
Id probably do the same thing...

 

[a creed]

Heather - I am REALLY glad you are OK.

Whether you saw the signs and unconciously ignored them doesn't matter now - your "safety" does.

Don't EVER agree to meet him anywhere, and ALWAYS have LE with you if you have to be anywhere near him.

Also - if this case will go to trial, then I would cease all posts pertaining to the incident.

It would be "extremely" damaging and embarassing to have ALL of your current and/or past posts read out loud while you sat there helpless.

Unless you don't think this is going to court...............