Having success meeting girls off the net

[Raptorex]

lol people actually go on craigslist to date?

I bet some have to pay!

 

[calveless wonder]

OK I get your point but I wasn't necessarily talking about an "angle" but more about putting more of yourself out there in a way that captures her attention. It isn't uncommon for an attractive woman to get as many as 50 emails a day. After awhile she does realize that many good guys will have most likely slipped through the cracks but at the end of the day she can only read so many emails/profiles without feeling sensory overload.

Either way, if a couple clicks, then they will meet. If not then there are so many others which I believe to be one of the advantages of dating online... much, much, much larger pool.

And therein kinda lies the problem (at least from a guys perspective).

In real life very attractive girls are not approached enough (unless alot of alcohol is involved, even then guys are still kinda eh). The hottest girls i ever dated or were friends with told me they got hit on the most when they went without makeup but if they were looking normal and made up it was rare (Unless it was black guys, they have no shame lol)

On a dating site, theres no risk of rejection for a guy to send an email and also that whole "aura" a beautiful girl has in real life doesn't exist on the net. So basically a bunch of chickenshits fuck it up

that's the dynamics though. nothing you can do..just a social observation

 

[all the whey]

I bet some have to pay!

Some have to pay by buying expensive gay fireplaces.

 

[-SD-]

Its all a crapshoot. The trajectory of two lives can be radically changed between hitting a delete key.....or not.

 

[Bikini Mod]

And therein kinda lies the problem (at least from a guys perspective).

In real life very attractive girls are not approached enough (unless alot of alcohol is involved, even then guys are still kinda eh). The hottest girls i ever dated or were friends with told me they got hit on the most when they went without makeup but if they were looking normal and made up it was rare (Unless it was black guys, they have no shame lol)

On a dating site, theres no risk of rejection for a guy to send an email and also that whole "aura" a beautiful girl has in real life doesn't exist on the net. So basically a bunch of chickenshits fuck it up

that's the dynamics though. nothing you can do..just a social observation

I feel what you are saying that is why I ALWAYS put up crappy webcam NO MAKEUP pics. But you also have to realize that when the dating pool changes, ie single parents we have far less opportunity to socialize IRL so that is why the web is so usefull.

For me when I was at work, I was working so there was NO dating-type behaviors as I NEVER EVER dated anyone from where I worked. When I wasn't at work I was with my children so even though I got hit on plenty (icky EW) I NEVER EVER would give a man the time of day.

The web was THE PERFECT way to maximize my time in regards to dating. I could search profiles/respond to emails at any time day or night in pajamas stinky from the night before LOL... so that when I did have time where I WANTED to go on a date I would narrow it down to guys that would interest me and whose interest I would hold in return... that is once I narrowed it down to what I was really looking for in a perspective partner.

 

[Bikini Mod]

Its all a crapshoot. The trajectory of two lives can be radically changed between hitting a delete key.....or not.

That is very true... therein lies fate. But you make your own fate essentially by continuing to be out there, not lowering your standards and not "just giving up".

 

[-SD-]

That is very true... therein lies fate. But you make your own fate essentially by continuing to be out there, not lowering your standards and not "just giving up".

For men its all a numbers game. Enough emails blasted out to enough women who match a general criteria will yield:
a certain % reply,
which leads to a certain % of those replying more,
which yields a certain % of those phone numbers,
which yields a certain % of those get a first date,
which yields a certain % of those getting 2nd or more dates,
which yields a certain % of those having LTR with you,
which possibly yields a spouse out of one of those,
which possible yields a spouse you wont fucking divorce

And that, my friends, is a statistical crapshoot.

 

[calveless wonder]

For men its all a numbers game. Enough emails blasted out to enough women who match a general criteria will yield:
a certain % reply,
which leads to a certain % of those replying more,
which yields a certain % of those phone numbers,
which yields a certain % of those get a first date,
which yields a certain % of those getting 2nd or more dates,
which yields a certain % of those having LTR with you,
which possibly yields a spouse out of one of those,
which possible yields a spouse you wont fucking divorce

And that, my friends, is a statistical crapshoot.

correct. and obviously you can make adjustments in your profile/email approach etc to improve those percentages.

no different than real world approaching or any sales business for that matter lol

 

[Bikini Mod]

For men its all a numbers game. Enough emails blasted out to enough women who match a general criteria will yield:
a certain % reply,
which leads to a certain % of those replying more,
which yields a certain % of those phone numbers,
which yields a certain % of those get a first date,
which yields a certain % of those getting 2nd or more dates,
which yields a certain % of those having LTR with you,
which possibly yields a spouse out of one of those,
which possible yields a spouse you wont fucking divorce

And that, my friends, is a statistical crapshoot.

Yes, to a degree but if you base your criteria for finding a partner on something other than this faulty notion of love then one has a better chance at not becoming one of those statisitics IMHO.

 

[lartinos]

I agree with you on everything......

I agree...i'm a fan.

Lots of girls you could never interact with a normal basis maybe because they don't go out or work alot etc. Far as the photo thing it goes both ways...i've met a couple of girls that put up photos of them that made them look like a 7 but were really 9's and they did it intentionally. of course both girls were pretty smart

Yeah there's a good share of freaks who present themselves a certain way. You can get a feel for them if you chat on AIM and then on the phone for a bit before meeting them. not a hard concept

the only thing is the few really attractive girls on these dating sites get bombarded and sometimes you have to be really original to elicit a response because they're just constantly deleting e-mails. If i had a chance 1 on 1 to interact with some of the girls in real life the feedback would be alot better.
that initial email response is the hardest but from there its pretty smooth sailing and you get past that whole wall.