goodbye mother.

[cindylou]

That is so sad. What is her problem? Did she have a weird relationship with her own mother?

 

[nefertiti]

Well use that as an excuse to get your butt to the gym. There's no excuse to be fat and in today's economic climate, being fat works against you in trying to get a job! So consider this tough (albiet crass) love!

r

Uh, retard, stilleto looks great and does work out.

 

[RottenWillow]

"Stilleto. (another long pause). J&J only hires.... very young, thin, attractive people."

i said, "and?"

my mother said, "You are none of those things."

Oh wow. Mija I'm so sorry. I have a abuela like that who I had to eliminate totally a few years ago, so I have some reference point. I don't think for a minute though I can imagine how it must feel having that sort of relationship with your mother though. I'm sorry for your loss.

 

[75th]

That sounds...word for word...exactly like my wifes mom.

And she wonders why were going to Cancun for a week instead of spending it with them. According to her, my wifes husband should come below seeing her.

 

[stilleto]

That is so sad. What is her problem? Did she have a weird relationship with her own mother?

YES. her and her own mother haven't spoken for around... 10 years. maybe more. why? because her mother was nasty, critical, and insulting to her.

I was talking to my kids about what happened and they even both said that even if it was true that I was out of shape, old, and unnatractive... isn't it a mother's job to be supportive?

 

[RottenWillow]

It was her choice to stop the relationship and whatever the petty reason was dosent matter now.

I think you're misreading this. I could be wrong, but I think Stilleto is saying this is not an isolated incident, but the latest example of seriously insensitive, hurtful behavior on the part of her mother.

You can't change people, but if they continue to crap on you, regardless of their relationship to you, it can become necessary to cut ties with them.

 

[Razorguns]

Uh, retard, stilleto looks great and does work out.

TTIWWOP

r

 

[-SD-]

Theres certain things a parent should never say to a child and thats one of them

 

[stilleto]

That sounds...word for word...exactly like my wifes mom.

And she wonders why were going to Cancun for a week instead of spending it with them. According to her, my wifes husband should come below seeing her.

that sucks for her.
my mother was supposed to come for a visit this weekend and I told her not to come.

i don't really feel like spending the weekend feeling ugly and useless.

 

[nefertiti]

My grandfather is in hospice care on his death bed. My aunt (his daughter) has been estranged from my grandparents for 10+ years. She is ate up with guilt and grief because of all the time lost between them. It was her choice to stop the relationship and whatever the petty reason was dosent matter now. She will never get that time missed back.

Just something to think about before you cut ties with your mother. Lifes short and you only have one mother. She won't be around forever.

I understand what you're trying to say and it does have some merrit. But sometimes you really do need to distance yourself from the toxic people in your life. Someone being family doesn't obligate you to expose yourself to their hurtful and damaging behavior repeatedly. My sister has gone through the same thing with her dad...when she hit a rough spot, instead of suporting her, he was constantly critical and hurtful and detrimental to her ability to get past her problems. Eventually she all but cut ties with him because it was just too much to have to deal with and he was making her miserable every time she saw him or spoke to him.