goodbye mother.

[ortiz34]

Hope you are feeling better today

 

[stilleto]

why aint she postin anymore

she's busy.
she will though.

and thank you ortiz, i am better. nothing has changed, except i feel ok.

 

[redsamurai]

The day that people started goign to clubs on weekends and finding out the hard just how 'attractive' they are when they try to hit on people. "Everyone is beautiful" theory ends at the club door.

r

ok, if your life revolves around "those" people.....fine, I see your point. Thankfully those people are beneath me, I have no use for them. Those are the people who look like utter shit by the time they hit 40 cause they lived too hard. Those are the people that will need to be supported by the universal healthcare system by the time they're in their 50's cause so much has gone wrong with their bodies that they're in the hospital once every couple of months. No thanks. I plan on being virile well into my 80's.

 

[nangiggles]

my mother, the size 4 plastic surgery princess, who is sometimes a wonderful person, and most other times, a controlling, judgemental, overly opinionated woman, insulted me so badly on friday that I can't see how I can talk to her again.

I was on my way home from work and I called her, like i usually do.
I told her about a presentation i made that went well and she was impressed. Then i told her i'm worried about the financial stability of my company, and she got very very worried. Then i told her that a friend of mine got a job at johnson and johnson and it sounded so great. I said it's not near me, but i'm just going to look for a new job and hope that I find one before something happens to this one.

My mother said, "(long sigh)... you can't work at J&J."
I said, "Well i wasn't going to, but why not?"
(another long sigh, and then a pause). "Stilleto. (another long pause). J&J only hires.... very young, thin, attractive people."

i said, "and?"

my mother said, "You are none of those things."
i hung up on her, then didn't take her calls. She wrote me later to tell me it wasn't said to be mean- she said it because she cares.

The whole thing has gotten me very very sad. not because of the actual insult, since i know she's wrong, but because that's my MOTHER saying that. i didn't even ask her- she just felt I needed to know so badly that she felt it was her duty as my mother to let me know she doesn't think i'm hot.

i can't speak to her again. i don't want to see her and I certainly don't want to ever tell her anything anymore.
that's what has gotten me sad- the loss.

I get your point... it's sad when someone else like a friend or an HR recruiter doesnt think ur good/pretty enough to fill a job but when someone close to you and who is supposed to love you thinks it and even worse says it it's plain hurtful.... my sister was looking for a job and when she asked mom how she looked for the interview my mom told her she should wear something nicer since she had to make a good impression because all the pretty and thin people got the jobs first....

Reminds me of the mom in 2 and a half men

 

[Razorguns]

ok, if your life revolves around "those" people.....fine, I see your point. Thankfully those people are beneath me, I have no use for them. Those are the people who look like utter shit by the time they hit 40 cause they lived too hard. Those are the people that will need to be supported by the universal healthcare system by the time they're in their 50's cause so much has gone wrong with their bodies that they're in the hospital once every couple of months. No thanks. I plan on being virile well into my 80's.

lol @ looks don't matter. Lemme know when ur a 250lb man trying to hit on a attractive chick, tell me how that goes.

r

 

[stilleto]

I get your point... it's sad when someone else like a friend or an HR recruiter doesnt think ur good/pretty enough to fill a job but when someone close to you and who is supposed to love you thinks it and even worse says it it's plain hurtful.... my sister was looking for a job and when she asked mom how she looked for the interview my mom told her she should wear something nicer since she had to make a good impression because all the pretty and thin people got the jobs first....

Reminds me of the mom in 2 and a half men

i'm not really an overly sensitive person, i don't think. i have asked my mom how something looked on me for a special occasion or interview and she has said, "not good". That doesn't bother me at all (except i hate to shop).
i have showed her other jobs i wanted and she said she didn't think i'm qualified. no issue with that.
this was different.

i think this time it's just the final straw after years of controlling, judgemental, uncalled for remarks.

 

[puddlemonkey]

Reminds me of the mom in 2 and a half men

Great show

 

[puddlemonkey]

why aint she postin anymore

I welcome her back with open arms.

 

[nangiggles]

i'm not really an overly sensitive person, i don't think. i have asked my mom how something looked on me for a special occasion or interview and she has said, "not good". That doesn't bother me at all (except i hate to shop).
i have showed her other jobs i wanted and she said she didn't think i'm qualified. no issue with that.
this was different.

i think this time it's just the final straw after years of controlling, judgemental, uncalled for remarks.

It's sad when you have to "learn" how to deal with ur mother... mine hates floral designs/lines on clothing so as a kid/teen if I wore anything with these patterns and I was foolish enough to ask how I looked she would say I looked like a couch or a pair of curtains.... wonderful.... now I know better and dont ask....

 

[PICK3]

My mom once called me a Mo

and she dresses me funny