Do perfect people write & say positive affirmations?

[Underwraps]

Planning for the worst basically concedes that you are anticipating it. And whenever you anticipate something, it's going to be more likely to happen whether you realize it or not. Not a good way to live.


There's a huge difference in planning for contingencies in the event <xyz> happens or doesn't happen but another thing to just lollygag through life expecting the worst and hope other than the worst case scenario happens.

you should always go into a situation thinking and believing plan A will work..otherwise you'll do it half ass and with a great deal of hesitation or doubt.but just in case plan A doesn't work, you already have plan B or C or D on standby.

In some cases, a contingency isn't always even neccessary before a problem arises. It depends on your perspective. If you're the type of person who looks at everything analytically "i.e. i have this problem. how do i solve it?" instead of getting all emotional and anxious when shit hits the fan, then it's not really a problem. Those type of people can be really successful because they give 100% into everything they do absolutely believing it will work, and when something arises that's unexpected they can look at it from a problem solving perspective.

The cliche expect the worst but hope for the best is a bunch of bullshit and i want to slap people when they say it. Hope is the most passive thing a person can do.

You should expect the best and have a plan just in case the best doesn't happen

In short, concrete plans and backup plans are good. Be prepared for the worst. Got it. Organization is my summer goal and so part of that is getting rid of crap cluttering up my house and life. If I want to have a business, I have to get my home straight first- on a consistent basis. When I've achieved that, I will start the process of carrying out my business plans. Thanks.

 

[Underwraps]

Who determines who's successful or not. Some stupid case study. The most successful
people IMO are the one's who are humble and don't have to boast about what they have, and
what they have accomplished or going to accomplish. People with low self esteem do those things which is another trait of narcissism.

People with low self esteem go out of their way to put people down while building themselves up. They're overcompensating for something. I think affirmations are goals in silly form- but no less useful and handy like goals.

 

[ledhead]

Are you speaking from the perspective of an Eagle above looking down on the lowlies or pond scum looking up at the impossible surface you can't reach yourself?

No, So we figured it out the post was all about you. You probably think your
special, and your positive attitude you have is a front masking a self righteous, superficial snob.Who needs attention on web sight! Your the eagle I'm the scum! sit down!
I probably make more in a quarter then you make in a year!

 

[Underwraps]

I think affirmations work. They can create and reinforce healthy attitudes/states of mind.
I think the ones that use a positive message that says that the healthy attitude already exists works better (I am vs I can be).
As for perfect people, I am always turned off by people who act as though their lives are perfect. I believe that friendship and rapport is built on sharing some of our most vulnerable aspects-essentially telling the other person: "Hey, I am not perfect, but I try hard, and I am going to do my best every day to get along in life and be an authentic person. You might not always be happy with me, you might not like the things I say, but I am going to be honest about who I am and what I want, and what you see is what you get. I'm not going to be fake, or pretend that my life is shiny and perfect".

Aah, wisdom and good vibes. If this thread were a plant, it would be pakalolo/ganja sp?(I don't do drugs though) or a good salad of organic greens with sliced mangoes on top. Thanks guys.

 

[Underwraps]

Psychology is now heading into a new direction... Incremental thinking or growth mindset vs entity mindsets...
As children we are praised for being smart, for picking things up quickly, well as a result alot of children grow up preoccupied with 'defending' the self, and not trying new things, or when challenged, just giving up, cause they are not gonna be rewarded immediately with praise.
They get concerned with qualities 'qualities', and not not finding solutions.

For some reason, the 'incremental' mindset children, or growth mindset, compare themselves to those who do better, and are less concerned with defending their 'reputations' or identity, and just wanna solve the problem. Over time they are the ones, who despite problematic situations, flourish.

A study was done on kids who in undergraduate suffered from dysphoria, or mild depression, now this is an ideal situation, as activities that normally bring u pleasure, are just now numbing, and no sensation of satisfaction is obtained. So the subjects who had a 'entity' or fixed mindset, those who were concerned more with defending and protecting their version of the self, or self esteem, absolutely failed. They lay in bed, and became despondent.

The subjects who had a growth mindset, or incremental, the ones that somehow understood, over time, that life is process based, well, strangely, they were still depressed, yet their energy levels were higher, and the dysphoria passed much quicker, as they remained entrenched in a life that did not suffer loss of activity and agency.

Point is Happy people, somehow understand it aint' 'identity' but activity...

I'm working on this too.

I LIKE this! I'm using it this week. Thanks!

 

[Underwraps]

IMO, you learn much more from your mistakes than your successes. Constant success encourages complacency which eventually leads to a failure which you just might learn something from if you're open re-evaluating your assumptions and methods.

Yes yes. I will not be upset by business failures but look to solutions to FIX the problems. We're all just restating the obvious, but reading, hearing, rethinking them help to reset them or reinforce them in our heads which I think is the purpose of affirmations. Rethinking, reinforcing, resetting.

 

[Underwraps]

No, So we figured it out the post was all about you. You probably think your
special, and your positive attitude you have is a front masking a self righteous, superficial snob.Who needs attention on web sight! Your the eagle I'm the scum! sit down!
I probably make more in a quarter then you make in a year!

Now that's the eagle saying I'm the scum saying I'm the eagle saying you're the scum. Who needs to sit down, really?

 

[Underwraps]

People with low self esteem go out of their way to put people down while building themselves up. They're overcompensating for something. I think affirmations are goals in silly form- but no less useful and handy like goals.

Led, I think you took this post wrong. I wasn't counteracting, I was adding. No need to be defensive, it wasn't in reference to you. I've done nothing but self deprecate other than my defense of my hope for my kids, so where is this coming from?

 

[Underwraps]

No, So we figured it out the post was all about you. You probably think your
special, and your positive attitude you have is a front masking a self righteous, superficial snob.Who needs attention on web sight! Your the eagle I'm the scum! sit down!
I probably make more in a quarter then you make in a year!

The post is all about US. I invited you to be narcissistic WITH me. And what was it you were saying about people who are humble? Bragging about how much you makes suuuuuure sounds humble. Again, nothing I wrote targeted you other than the eagle question just wondering if you were the one judging or feeling judged. You're obviously the one judging, again, not a humble thing to do. I should not have tried an analogy or used pond scum- too harsh. My bad.

There are some folks here who are pro-psycholigists, what does one say about someone who is constantly negative and looking for cheap shots? What's the fancy jargon for this? And why do people who don't like negative people call positive people self righteous? If it's b/c I want to be positive and nice and civil, I'll take the label. Thank you. I AM SELF RIGHTEOUS, SO RIGHTEOUS! RightCHUS, RIGHTeous. SELF righteous.... The more I say righteous, the more I like it!

 

[DJLegacy2k1]

This thread has been incredibly "mo'ed" up...