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redsamurai
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Creepusmaximus said:
what? not on saturday's???? what kind of shit is that??...............
and why am I not surprised this place has a name like "beufort"..........
Am I being an ass w/ my wife?
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what? not on saturday's???? what kind of shit is that??...............
and why am I not surprised this place has a name like "beufort"..........
Creepusmaximus
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redsamurai said:what? not on saturday's???? what kind of shit is that??...............
and why am I not surprised this place has a name like "beufort"..........
After church to show the other women what happens if they get all bitchy. LOL.
Creepusmaximus
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SublimeZM said:
He may be some sort of red neck that I would just as soon kill as talk to but everyone(women) always jump on this stuff with the guy is at fault. That is just not true.
As far as you women, if your f'in a animal you get what you deserve. Don't tell me you didn't see it coming.
his tone isnt wrong
he is just stressed, overworked and feels underappreciated
i went through something similar when I was 17
I had already moved out, was working my ass off(driving exotic dancers @ night and working @ a machine shop to pay bills) as well as going to high school full time(i was a junior).
my 15 y/o girlfriend was abused by her father pretty grotesquely so I took her in. Knocked her up and we were scared but I was like "fuck it, i am a man I can deal with this"
anyhow the next year of my life was the most godawful mess you could imagine. she went into deep depression, tried killing herself, killing the baby, killing me. she would completely destroy the house, dropped out of school, did heavy drugs, fucked other guys...you name it
but i still kept plugging along because I felt it was the "right thing to do" to get this baby into the world. I didnt want CPS taking the kid away, or her, cause i thought I loved her. i felt i could shoulder all the burden myself. It almost destroyed me. I was so beat down, emotionally, physically and financially. scared to death the child was going to be fucked up, scared she was going to be fucked up. scared about jail for child abuse etc I didnt know what to do.
it goes on and on but anyhow the point is when a person feels unappreciated it generally means they ARE and something has to be done. relationships do need to be win/win
IMHO the original author needs to empower his wife to take a greater interest in furthering her professional life or domestic life. But he has every right to be upset and vocal about his needs and wants and set agreements between them to create alignment in their relationship
he is just stressed, overworked and feels underappreciated
i went through something similar when I was 17
I had already moved out, was working my ass off(driving exotic dancers @ night and working @ a machine shop to pay bills) as well as going to high school full time(i was a junior).
my 15 y/o girlfriend was abused by her father pretty grotesquely so I took her in. Knocked her up and we were scared but I was like "fuck it, i am a man I can deal with this"
anyhow the next year of my life was the most godawful mess you could imagine. she went into deep depression, tried killing herself, killing the baby, killing me. she would completely destroy the house, dropped out of school, did heavy drugs, fucked other guys...you name it
but i still kept plugging along because I felt it was the "right thing to do" to get this baby into the world. I didnt want CPS taking the kid away, or her, cause i thought I loved her. i felt i could shoulder all the burden myself. It almost destroyed me. I was so beat down, emotionally, physically and financially. scared to death the child was going to be fucked up, scared she was going to be fucked up. scared about jail for child abuse etc I didnt know what to do.
it goes on and on but anyhow the point is when a person feels unappreciated it generally means they ARE and something has to be done. relationships do need to be win/win
IMHO the original author needs to empower his wife to take a greater interest in furthering her professional life or domestic life. But he has every right to be upset and vocal about his needs and wants and set agreements between them to create alignment in their relationship
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heatherrae
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I think him throwing a hissy fit over putting a dish in the dishwasher and your situation are hardly comparable.Wulfgar said:
My guess is that she feels just as unappreciated as he does.
i agreeheatherrae said:
but i still think that things easily escalate easily
i can bet you almost anything if he starts doing the dishes he will begin to resent her
and that shit BREEEDs in the system over years before bad things happen.
the wife should do the dishes...end of story
bigmann245
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you cant put a dollar to what women do for the home. it is imposible to compare. the best thing to do is sit down with her, talk it out (not shout) and soon things will iron out. do not degrade someone its not fair. maybe shes depressed because your gone ALL the time and always preoccupied with other stuff and not have time for her. ask her if it bothers her, ill bet it does.
canadianhitman
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heatherrae said:
You're a real piece of work.
She only works 15 hours a week. It's NOT AN EQUAL SITUATION!!!!
The person working 15hrs per week doesn't deserve the same appreciation as the person working 60hrs, unless they're contributing the difference to the relationship in another way. By the sound of it, she's not.
So you don't like housework. Guess what...until you get a fulltime job, that's YOUR JOB mostly...or the balance of your job, when the other person is busting their ass fulltime and beyond.
That applies to either sex IMO, btw.
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