Well, My life is over because I'm a loser and liar.

[Imnotdutcheither]

DAMN there are some NASTY people on this site.

You just noticed?

 

[Bikini Mod]

DAMN there are some NASTY people on this site.

Welcome to elite darlin'.....

But I assure you, It wasn't always this way. Sadly, this is only what it has evolved to. There are still many, many good peeps that are helpful in many ways. You just have to weed through the ASSHOLES (if it ain't you, then no need to reply ) to get to the pearls of wisdom.

I guess as with anything else in life, the best lessons ever learned are the ones that were also the hardest.

(Not refering to Paulos' situation at all. Merely using this as a metaphor for how difficult it is even here to get sound advice sometimes.)

 

[anabolicmd]

YOU NASTY BITCHES. I can't believe you go off on a guy who's got a SERIOUS problem on his hands. What the hell is wrong with you? He clearly was NOT irresponsible and he's ASKING FOR HELP.

Who the fuck are you to be all high and mighty? You've never made a serious mistake in your life?

I wish I did have an answer for him, but I don't. Sure, there choices are pretty obvious (have it, abortion, adoption) but I personally do not know what the answer is (sorry Paulos).

But if you have some real insight (like Chefwide or bikinimom), help him, don't judge the poor guy.

DAMN there are some NASTY people on this site.

Bro, chill out. You obviously dont know Paulos very well. Hes going to be just fine.

 

[Robert Jan]

dont tell him his childhood is over. hes 20. people can grow up whenever they want to. id say adoption is the best choice.... as long as there are enough adoptive parents.

my father had his first kid when he was 43 and first married when he was 42. when i tell him hes the oldest dad out of my friends he laughs and says well didnt those people have jack shit better to do when they were young? and thats how i feel.

my recommendation- if you truely oppose abortion, (which i personally dont) then go for adoption, if you cant, be a man and take your responsibility...

 

[hellorhih2o]

Welcome to elite darlin'.....

But I assure you, It wasn't always this way. Sadly, this is only what it has evolved to. There are still many, many good peeps that are helpful in many ways. You just have to weed through the ASSHOLES (if it ain't you, then no need to reply ) to get to the pearls of wisdom.

I guess as with anything else in life, the best lessons ever learned are the ones that were also the hardest.

(Not refering to Paulos' situation at all. Merely using this as a metaphor for how difficult it is even here to get sound advice sometimes.)

I know, I've been around for a while... But it still baffles me that so many have such a tiny heart (if any).

 

[psychedout]

JBRO -- you need to get a fucking life dude.

Paulos -- you have some tough decisions to make, regardless of your choice, i'm sure you will make the right one. EF is here to help support you.

 

[velvett]

Wow, i didnt see that coming.

For the Record, RU-486 only provides abortions for the first 72 hours of pregnancy, and your girlfriend is beyond those. RU486 can be used for chemical abortions up to 7 weeks though but you have to combine it with misoprostol (Cytotec).

That's the morning after pill - first 72 hours after unprotected sex.


The morning after pill is basically a high does of birth control.
RU486 is basically an abortion via pill.

 

[pitbullstl]

My daughter was almost aborted.......and when I say almost I mean we went, signed in......and left........

I cried.....she cried........and looking back, I can honestly say I aged 10 years on that day.

What you do is up to you and her (more her), if you know you aren't ready, and you already don't feel a connection to this unborn child, then abortion or adoption are your only answers. Please don't try a home abortion for your girlfriend's sake, as well as your own.

There are plenty of objective support center's and prebirth counselor's at your disposal, USE THEM.

Whatever you both decide it will be the right choice, as long as you make that choice together.

I won't preach to you to keep the child, because I didn't want anyone doing that to me, but I can honsestly tell you that the birth of my daughter, was and is the single greatest thing to happen in my short life.

 

[Bikini Mod]

dont tell him his childhood is over. hes 20. people can grow up whenever they want to. id say adoption is the best choice.... as long as there are enough adoptive parents.

my father had his first kid when he was 43 and first married when he was 42. when i tell him hes the oldest dad out of my friends he laughs and says well didnt those people have jack shit better to do when they were young? and thats how i feel.

my recommendation- if you truely oppose abortion, (which i personally dont) then go for adoption, if you cant, be a man and take your responsibility...

Even if they do opt for the adoption route (which would probably be the one that is the most difficult) his childhood is OVER.

Whether by choice or happenstance a life was created thereby ending the childhood of the man and woman in question.

Some people have a choice as to when their childhood ends. Others have it decided for them. My childhood was cut very short. I was 9.

It is all good either way.

As I said our character is not decided by our circumstances alone, but rather by how WE CHOOSE to react to them.

 

[velvett]

Paulos -

Sit down with your girlfriend and figure our all your possible options and the possible outcomes of those options. Figure out what you can do and live with while trying not to be influenced by the opinions of others.

This will be one of the most difficult decisions of your life and the choice you make will be the best choice for you at the time of the decision. Know that you may questions yourself and that's normal just don't let it eat at you.

You do have many options even though it doesn't feel as such right now.

Check your PM.