Well, My life is over because I'm a loser and liar.

[Bikini Mod]

I see why this issue is raising such emotional answers.

Paulos, I am not judging you (Lord knows that I have been in the "internet hot seat" on more than one occasion.) but if you calmly read through this entire thread and look at YOUR input, you don't sound very ready to face such a situation.

Regardless, the situation is here and no amount of shoulda/woulda/coulda is going to change that.

Take heed to Chefwide's words (his are the most passionate and provocative)... THINK ABOUT WHAT HE IS SAYING TO YOU.

Your childhood is over darlin' whether you like it or not. Adulthood is here. Regardless of what path you choose.

The question is not about whether you will be changed by this life lesson, but rather HOW will you be changed?

"Our character is not defined by our circumstances alone, but rather by how WE CHOOSE to react to them."

My suggestion?

Have a serious discussion that includes YOU, YOUR GIRL and BOTH SETS OF PARENTS.

And remember darlin' our most tragic decisions are based on fear. Your childhood is gone. You are now a man and your girl is a woman.... there is nothing left to fear.

 

[GoldenDelicious]

hi im a pharmacist

you DO NOT want to be administering ANY drug to your pregnant girlfriend, or even thinking about a DIY abortion!!!!

your girlfriends life and reproductive ability is on the line, as is your personal freedom if things go very wrong. which they might. how would you like to fuck up the pregnancy and get not only an unplanned, illegitimate child, but a deformed unplanned, illegitimate child?

if you want a real solution, bring it up in front of all the parents. youre a grown man (whether or not you want to act like one) and the sooner you discuss it and get a solution (ie abort or support) the sooner you can get on with carrying it out

the time for a stealth abortion via a morning after pill was a month ago.

tough break mate, really, but you have to get shit together

good luck

 

[anabolicmd]

Put a banana in front of a staircase. Works 90% of the time.

 

[INHALE]

i would see proffesional help




good luck bro stay strong

 

[GoldenDelicious]

Put a banana in front of a staircase. Works 90% of the time.

yeah but that 10% will screw him over for sure

(sorry mate, couldnt resist )

 

[anabolicmd]

yeah but that 10% will screw him over for sure

(sorry mate, couldnt resist )

For 100% effectiveness, make it a long staircase and add a helpful nudge

 

[INHALE]

guys like JBRO, this is serious issue here, dont like children on this post....show some respect

 

[Scarlett33]

I'm not even going to start giving my view on what you should do. I'm staunch catholic and don't believe in abortion. However as the mom of a one year old, I can tell you, he is the best thing that ever happend to me hands down. On the other hand, I am happily married and am 9 years older than you. At 20 there was no way in hell I could have handled all the responcibilty and loss of freedom that having a child entails. is adoption a possibility? So many couples would love to give an unwanted/unplanned child a home. It sucks when you are being responcible (birth control) and still end up with an unwanted pregnancy. I feel really bad for you two, and wish you the best in this difficult situation.

 

[hellorhih2o]

YOU NASTY BITCHES. I can't believe you go off on a guy who's got a SERIOUS problem on his hands. What the hell is wrong with you? He clearly was NOT irresponsible and he's ASKING FOR HELP.

Who the fuck are you to be all high and mighty? You've never made a serious mistake in your life?

I wish I did have an answer for him, but I don't. Sure, there choices are pretty obvious (have it, abortion, adoption) but I personally do not know what the answer is (sorry Paulos).

But if you have some real insight (like Chefwide or bikinimom), help him, don't judge the poor guy.

DAMN there are some NASTY people on this site.

 

[GoldenDelicious]

I'm staunch catholic and don't believe in abortion.

my dear, i assure you they exist.