so I'm in the hog house...

[shirlene29]

I'm actually incredibly chill about shit as long as I'm not lied to.

I'll concede AAS is a wild card.
Blowing up my phone is actually the part that pissed me off.
Answering the phone would have escalated shit especially because I was drinking and would have had an acid tongue.

 

[shirlene29]

The dude did follow up the next day with concern however...so maybe I'm being naive

 

[-SD-]

I'm actually incredibly chill about shit as long as I'm not lied to.

I'll concede AAS is a wild card.
Blowing up my phone is actually the part that pissed me off.
Answering the phone would have escalated shit especially because I was drinking and would have had an acid tongue.

To your own husband, really? I take this to mean "Im out partying with another guy and just for the moment I can feel like Im not married so dont call me and fuck up my little fantasy for the night"

 

[EarthRider]

im torqued

 

[shirlene29]

No..its actually just a pressure valve release..frankly I'd never pretend I wasn't married as is insinuated. And even if I had gone out with an old female friend he would have blown up my phone.
He goes out with male and female coworkers all the time and I don't call him when he's out. He does cooler shit too that usually involved company sky box tix and bar hopping in the city.

 

[shirlene29]

Also Ftr I've never said shit when he hangs out with a seedy army buddy and goes titty bar hopping

 

[EarthRider]

give him the vag more that is all he wants anyway he will stfu

 

[superqt4u2nv]

I'm actually incredibly chill about shit as long as I'm not lied to.

I'll concede AAS is a wild card.
Blowing up my phone is actually the part that pissed me off.
Answering the phone would have escalated shit especially because I was drinking and would have had an acid tongue.

Why not just text him back saying the bar is loud. I have had a few just drinking some water to feel safe to drive home. See you in a bit if you keep your yap shut long enough we can have sexuals again.

 

[mrplunkey]

The dude did follow up the next day with concern however...so maybe I'm being naive

I wouldn't say naive at all. But doing the follow-up after sending "be safe" is just good strategy on his part.

Unless this guy has completely friend-zoned you (which can happen), he's thinking about screwing you.

And without your EF family here to support you, his next good move would be to get you complaining about how your husband reacted to last night. He'd twist the knife with little texts asking you to meat up in the future by asking you if you've got Greg's permission. He'd ride just along the edge of making you mad, but he'd never draw your ire -- he'd just twist the knife.

Don't underestimate the value this guy places of mounting you as a trophy. In this case it's really messed-up since you are married, but nailing another guy's GF because he dislikes you is considered super fair-game among men. I doubt if guys here would admit it freely, but it's a common goal.

The one thing I failed to mention earlier is your trump card. If you've never cheated or given him a legitimate reason to think you've cheated, then you do hold the better hand. In that regard, he's most definitely barking up the wrong tree because the standard of proof for a spouse with a 100% track record needs to be sky high IMO.

 

[-SD-]

Ok if youre guy is going out to titty bars thats complete shit and unacceptable among married people IMO. And hes got shit for a leg to stand on when busting your balls for going to bars with a guy coworker.

That being said, neither of those things are appropriate and two wrongs dont make a right. Sounds like theres some tit for tat shit going on and you resent each other.