so I'm in the hog house...

[mrplunkey]

i would agree lunk, but it sounds like he is always freaking out on her

Oh, blowing up her phone or going through her texts is unacceptable as well. But you can't justify bad behavior with more bad behavior.

The thing that jumps out at me is that if he's willing to get that bent out of shape over her going out, then he should also be willing to go out with her in the first place. That solves the whole problem.

 

[cindylou]

Look at all the circumstances surrounding this situation -- forget the specifics of male/female or the fact that it's Shirl (who I personally really like):

1) Married couple with "ups and downs" relationship
2) One spouse decides to go out to a bar specifically to drink and socialize (it's not like it's to entertain a customer)
3) Declares they won't be home till late (2am is late in my book)
4) Person going out is using AAS that A) Can interrupt a person's sense of attachment and B) Dramatically increase libido
5) Person going out is hanging-out with someone the spouse doesn't like specifically for possible compatibility reasons
6) Alcohol consumption is at least great enough to delay drive home
7) Person going out doesn't answer phone calls
8) Innocuous "be safe" text on person going out's cell phone the next day.

Now if we're only dealing with 1, 2, 4 or even 5 of these circumstances, it may be paranoia. But all eight?

And here's a question specifically for the ladies:

1) Picture your man.
2) Now give him a healthy dose of gear. Enough to make him edgy and really horny.
3) Now picture your arch rival. That bitch you keep coming across who doesn't like you and would screw your guy just to make a point to you.
4) Now place your guy with your arch rival at a bar with lots of alcohol involved.

Are you going to at least call him or text him, or can they do shots and have fun till 2:00am?

The whole idea of the man I love freaking out with jealousy at home would make me miserable BUT sometimes jealousy pisses me off. It depends on how he approaches her with the jealousy. If he's accusing her of cheating etc then its not going to end well. If he's just miserable in a hurt way, I would be putty in his hands and there wouldn't be any way I wouldn't be checking in with texts, at the very least letting him know I was thinking about him. If you're an asshole and accuse me of cheating then fvck you, be miserable. Lol! It's not right but its the first reaction. Lol.

I don't do guy friends either and typically won't be with someone long term that would have a lot of female friends or is a flirt etc. I don't run into these situations.

 

[cindylou]

I read your post wrong plunkey...fug. I'm not with it today. I'm "off my meds" today.

If my man goes out with my arch rival its over. I couldn't do it. I would definitely be calling or texting/moving out.

Lol.

 

[superqt4u2nv]

And P.S.

Guy texts "be safe" to a drunk girl on her way home

Translation:

"It's not too late to text me that you're too drunk to drive. At that point I will meet up with you, play knight in white armor for about 15 minutes, and then either take you back to my place or nail you in the back seat of my car. But either way, if you text me back I'll do my dead-level best to fuck you. Enjoy!"

LOL this is exactly the way my best male friend would break it down to me almost word for word.

Oh, blowing up her phone or going through her texts is unacceptable as well. But you can't justify bad behavior with more bad behavior.
The thing that jumps out at me is that if he's willing to get that bent out of shape over her going out, then he should also be willing to go out with her in the first place. That solves the whole problem.

Agreed

Shirl glad you guys talked it out did you have makeup sexuals yet?

If so details please ... if not get on it woman.

 

[mrplunkey]

And the genius of a "be safe" text that you didn't respond to gives him a perfect reason to check on you today.

I'll bet he's made some sort of attempt at follow-up contact with her and if he hasn't, he will before noon tomorrow.

 

[EnderJE]

And the genius of a "be safe" text that you didn't respond to gives him a perfect reason to check on you today.

I'll bet he's made some sort of attempt at follow-up contact with her and if he hasn't, he will before noon tomorrow.

You should start a betting poll on this...or their potential divorce.

Did someone do the "he's cheating on you" thing yet?

And send the hubby some red panties. I wonder what that girl is up to nowadays.

 

[canadianhitman]

Offer up buttsechs tonight...all will be forgiven.

 

[EnderJE]

Offer up buttsechs tonight...all will be forgiven.

Whoa...whoa...whoa...it's not like she needs to be forgiven for killing someone.

 

[SpyWizard]

you are the only person that can make this right, you are the only person that can make him trust you... you are the only person that he's empowered to hurt him...

did you??

 

[-SD-]

WHat plunk said

As a married woman its just not a good idea to go out painting the town red with other guys, much less with someone your husband hates.