so I'm in the hog house...

[superqt4u2nv]

we don't know if the problem is his, her, or a combination of both of theirs. we know in shrizl's eyes, it's his problem, he has no reason to be insecure, etc she's never cheated. but that doesn't mean that in the context of their relationship, interactions and dynamic, he doesn't have a reason to feel insecure. how do we know? shrizl might not even realize it. that's all I'm saying. and just because she has never actually cheated, doesn't mean she doesn't hang out with these guys because she likes and enjoys the attention she gets. maybe that's why the husband is uncomfortable.

Awesome point... His side her side and some where in between is the truth of the matter.

Shirl have you guys ever been to couple therapy?

 

[EarthRider]

he's going to tit bars which i don't think is ok. shirl are you really ok with that. sounds to me like he wants to run around and do what he wants and wants to control her too

 

[Sub-Zero]

went out last night solo
wound up running into co-worker guy that husband doesn't like and got blasted with him and did a lil bar hoppin with him

refused to answer the phone when hubby called while I was out...was home before the bar closed
was NOT up to no good..behaved fine..just had drinks with a friend and hung out with some new peeps
everyone was pretty fun..and I literally go out by myself for a cpl of hrs like twice a yr...so it doesn't take much to entertain me

came home...things were mostly smoothed over before I fell asleep cuz hubby was awake waiting for me (doh)
got woken up at 6 am by husband flipping out on me cuz he went through my phone and saw a txt message I didn't know was on there that said "be safe" cuz I drove my car home after shutting myself off at midnight and drinking like 9 pints of water.


am I in the wrong here bros?
discuss

p.s. "standing bow" in the middle of a crowded bar as a self sobriety test turns out rather interestingly

you arnt in the dog house. you are in the "i did nothing wrong and im going to make him apologize for being mad at me" house.

lol women

 

[needtogetaas]

you arnt in the dog house. you are in the "i did nothing wrong and im going to make him apologize for being mad at me" house.

lol women

You tell that bitch man..

 

[Mr. dB]

From the thread title I thought you sold his Audi.

 

[silent says]

Whoever's fault it is doesn't matter,the only concern for me would be my kids picking up the vibe on this and thinking this is how its suppose to be.They sometimes follow our actions.

 

[needtogetaas]

what ya need is a good gay friend.. hit up pick3

 

[bigmann245]

went out last night solo
wound up running into co-worker guy that husband doesn't like and got blasted with him and did a lil bar hoppin with him

refused to answer the phone when hubby called while I was out...was home before the bar closed
was NOT up to no good..behaved fine..just had drinks with a friend and hung out with some new peeps
everyone was pretty fun..and I literally go out by myself for a cpl of hrs like twice a yr...so it doesn't take much to entertain me

came home...things were mostly smoothed over before I fell asleep cuz hubby was awake waiting for me (doh)
got woken up at 6 am by husband flipping out on me cuz he went through my phone and saw a txt message I didn't know was on there that said "be safe" cuz I drove my car home after shutting myself off at midnight and drinking like 9 pints of water.


am I in the wrong here bros?
discuss

p.s. "standing bow" in the middle of a crowded bar as a self sobriety test turns out rather interestingly

to be perfectly honest I agree with girls night out's but when a married woman goes out alone and then hangs with a coworker, someone who they see on a daily basis. When that happens there are sometimes feelings or expectations that arise but I applaud you for being good.

Now, as your husband I would have been pretty pissed only because you hung out with a potential bad risky situation. Things could have gone bad real fast and sometimes when alcohol is flowing we tend to do things we would not do sober. Its a situation that could have had bad endings.

 

[blueta2]

If this were 7 yrs ago, I would have said "yeah, it's his issue, you did nothing wrong"

I'll try to be delicate with what I will say next, but with my ex, I behaved like this when I was with him. He would get mad and I would call him insecure. In my mind, I was not cheating or hurting or doing anything wrong, but what I failed to understand was that he was not comfortable with it, and I didn't respect his worry.
Now, fast forward to today, I would never go out with any guy to have drinks without either inviting my bf or making sure he is totally ok with it.
And for sure, I would answer my phone.

Major jealousy does breed contempt and anyone who is really insecure, will cheat. As what happened in my case. Though I was not truly sensitive to my ex's concerns.
One of the mistakes I made with my ex. Live and learn.

 

[bigmann245]

If this were 7 yrs ago, I would have said "yeah, it's his issue, you did nothing wrong"

I'll try to be delicate with what I will say next, but with my ex, I behaved like this when I was with him. He would get mad and I would call him insecure. In my mind, I was not cheating or hurting or doing anything wrong, but what I failed to understand was that he was not comfortable with it, and I didn't respect his worry.
Now, fast forward to today, I would never go out with any guy to have drinks without either inviting my bf or making sure he is totally ok with it.
And for sure, I would answer my phone.

Major jealousy does breed contempt and anyone who is really insecure, will cheat. As what happened in my case. Though I was not truly sensitive to my ex's concerns.
One of the mistakes I made with my ex. Live and learn.

Very well said