need advice on child custody

[puddlemonkey]

what's a good bro to do?

leave

 

[binö]

Relax bro, be supportive, she and her kid need the stability of SOMEONE, be their rock.
Be the bigger man, and she should focus on being the best parent.

yea i know i need to chill...i just hate feeling like i'm getting bullied, even if it is via proxy.
the dude will make like difficult though if she doesn't take concrete action against him, which goes against her nature of passiveness.
his threats today were that if i am around the kid he will pursue child support, which would hurt her finances deeply...it's not like i am trying to raise this kid at all, or have any influence.
and it's not that he is against me personally cause of anything i've done (def not a angel)...he just can't stand seeing his ex with someone else other than him (even though in 5 yrs of marriage he tapped it 3-4 times).
he is the textbook pig...angry, jealous, and mad at the world.
if she wasn't so hot and cool i'd have bounced

 

[binö]

folks the lesson here is proly not to get invovled with someone that has kids or a fuct up ex.
but if you do, proly don't date someone with a pig as a ex, they are largely like the dude i described, i work with them weekly so i think i got a good feel.

 

[pdaddyII]

Ok, whoever is the primary parent gets child support. My ex is the primary parent. I have to pay child support.

Do you not have joint custody? I thought joint custody split visitation in half and child support was next to nill. Since my daughter lives 250mi away I only have joint
Legal which doesn't mean shit other then I pay for baby mamma to essentially not have to work.

 

[pdaddyII]

Ok, whoever is the primary parent gets child support. My ex is the primary parent. I have to pay child support.

You mind if I ask how much you pay bro? Mine just got bumped up to 900/month. I can't imagine what yours might be for two. Just curious how Canada treats child support. My daughter lives in MI and that's one of the worst states for fathers rights.

 

[pdaddyII]

unfortunatly i have become somewhat invovled in this...GF has a real dickhead ex, dude is a angry controlling ex-pig who wants to call the shots with his ex even though they are divorced.
and she is so passive she let's him abuse her and force his will on her.
well, they did informal custody but now it's going to be offical and thru the courts...dickfuk is insisting on having the 51% and seems to think he is entitled to it since he is the primary provider (the kid is split equally amongst the two houses, but the loser doesn't have a job and can spend more time with the son, whereas she has a full time job and isn't afforded that luxury).
he is threatening to fight the manner if she doesn't capitulate, and she is willing to allow this so it doesn't fuk the kid up going thru a lengthy court battle...plus she doesn't have the funds to pay for a represenative attorney...he has money from a settlement to afford good lawyers.
is it really that big of a deal having 49%? the way he is making it seem, he will be able to dictate what she does with the kid and where he goes...she will have to inform him everytime she takes him ouf of town or out of state, whereas he has free reign to go wherever he pleases.
i foresee a decade of trouble for my poor GF, allowing her ex to still control her sound decisions because that is his nature...I'm trying to be chill about it, but it is starting to effect me, watching her willling get run over.
is 49% that big of a deal?

Does that asshole know how much you can squat? Start wearing spandex around him for the intimidation factor.

 

[wootoom]

folks the lesson here is proly not to get invovled with someone that has kids or a fuct up ex.
but if you do, proly don't date someone with a pig as a ex, they are largely like the dude i described, i work with them weekly so i think i got a good feel.

You're a good bro and I'm not telling you to leave in any way. It's a shitty situation which I'm sure will calm down soon enough. Just be supportive as I know you are and get through it.

 

[caligirl85]

You're a good bro and I'm not telling you to leave in any way. It's a shitty situation which I'm sure will calm down soon enough. Just be supportive as I know you are and get through it.

I think this is the key. Sounds like she needs someone to support her and help stand up a little bit more. Lots of us have kids and manage new relationships but the psycho ex makes it difficult. Just be careful not to give him any reason to hold anything against you. He sounds like the kind of guy who will try to bait you in and then use it against her in court. You're a good guy Bino...hope it works out!!

 

[samoth]

she's representing herself (i forget the legal term for that)

Pro se, bro. Makes for great lulz.

 

[binö]

I think this is the key. Sounds like she needs someone to support her and help stand up a little bit more. Lots of us have kids and manage new relationships but the psycho ex makes it difficult. Just be careful not to give him any reason to hold anything against you. He sounds like the kind of guy who will try to bait you in and then use it against her in court. You're a good guy Bino...hope it works out!!

can my criminal record be used against her in anyway if this went to a custody court? he is all over it saying that it will.
i have nothing major, no rape or sex crimes or major violence...some minor bs.
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