Men & Cheating

[digimon7068]

no. i just added a temporal element.

yeah. . .well. . .knock it off. . .

 

[JayC9]

Most men will cheat on a partner at some point in their lives, however that doesn't make them all 'bad', it just means they're human, it's all the little grey areas in life that make it interesting.

 

[GoldenDelicious]

yeah. . .well. . .knock it off. . .

why? you dont like thinking much?

 

[Basikstylz]

Posts like this annoy the shit out of me, whether it's a man asking why women cheat or women asking why men cheat, they get under my fucking skin. It's about making generalizations, which is just sloppy thinking, and it shows a LACK of thought, because the problem isn't that complicated.

People cheat because one or more need is not being met in their current relationship but they aren't ready to discard some security they find in the relationship or face a fear about ending the relationship. Period. No other reason. You can bring up different scenarios, but strip it down to where the rubber hits the road and you're looking at SOMEONE needs SOMETHING that their S/O ain't giving them. The security or fear can range from fear of losing the partner's income to fear of losing access to the children or not wanting to pay child support.

+1

I agree... It is about needs/wants that aren't being met.

However, in regards to men I would say most men cheat sometime in thier life... Doesn't mean they always will. Also, this doesn't mean that all men do cheat. There are "good" guys out there that will be faithful and will never cheat either because of a lack of options or by choice.

In the end I think a big portion has to do with A: Self Control, and B: Respect for your partner.



Oh ya... 1 more thing.... 100 post WOOT Im such a

 

[seaking420]

Posts like this annoy the shit out of me, whether it's a man asking why women cheat or women asking why men cheat, they get under my fucking skin. It's about making generalizations, which is just sloppy thinking, and it shows a LACK of thought, because the problem isn't that complicated.

People cheat because one or more need is not being met in their current relationship but they aren't ready to discard some security they find in the relationship or face a fear about ending the relationship. Period. No other reason. You can bring up different scenarios, but strip it down to where the rubber hits the road and you're looking at SOMEONE needs SOMETHING that their S/O ain't giving them. The security or fear can range from fear of losing the partner's income to fear of losing access to the children or not wanting to pay child support.

you getting some k for that.............It really is that simple.

 

[pintoca]

Some people cheat, some people don't and some people find out that they can do what they had not previously expected.

this applies not only to cheating but to all things morally questionable.

 

[Tatyana]

i took a class on marriage and family so i could learn more about how relationships work and why we do the things we do... ok, through my research i found that men were not made to be with one person their entire lives but rather spread their seed to as many females as possible. i do not agree with with personally but this is the biological make up not the way WE as society made relationships out to be. marriage is a religious creation not biological. killing others is also a biological survival instinct but WE as society said it was wrong so we dont do it...well most of us dont... anyway, the ones who cheat are the ones that cant control their own biological emotions and feelings to conform to todays society standards. this is in no way condoning cheating as it is a personal choice, but it should shed some light upon the subject as to why....

That old hypothesis based on a misinterpretion of 'survival of the fittest' has been dragged out so many times as evidence, but it has come under criticism with modern research.

If that was the case, then it would be true for all the male species of mammals, and even more true for even more 'primitive' species, but its not.

There are animals that pair-bond for life.

The most monogamous creatures on the planet are (ok this is memory), the prairie vole, or red vole.

The dopamine reward system in the brain is highly linked to the emotional part of the brain, the amgydala in these creatures.

Humans show the same thing.

There is other evidence for pair-bonding for life, I would have to go back and find the papers I read.

But basically, that old chestnut, null and void.

I would also suggest you do some reading on altruism, as killing each other is not a biological imperative either.

 

[velvett]

this applies not only to cheating but to all things morally questionable.

Yes!

Never say never.

 

[digimon7068]

why? you dont like thinking much?

nah. . .i was merely employing a form of humor known as self-deprecation. . .i was acting like i wasn't smart enuff to understand the esoteric words that you were using. . .the next time i try to be funny, i'll be sure and bring it down to your level. . .m'kay??

 

[izap1]

^lol @ digim

Hey Tatyana, if you would be kind enough to post those articles regarding life long pair-bonding....It'll be very much appreciated =)