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I love you.musclemom said:
Men & Cheating
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digimon7068
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GoldenDelicious said:
i'm sure that i have plenty of "options". . .i always did before, i don't know why i wouldn't now. . .but, honestly, i'm just really fucking happy. . .and after 18+ years together (15+ married), i can't imagine anything changing that. . .if it ever blows up in my face, you guys can have a field day with me. . .until then, i'm right, you're wrong. . .period.
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Thats going in my sig if only for a little wile mm.
GoldenDelicious
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if you didnt have options before, then you wouldnt be so secure, and therefore, unlikely to be so happydigimon7068 said:i'm sure that i have plenty of "options". . .i always did before, i don't know why i wouldn't now. . .but, honestly, i'm just really fucking happy. . .and after 18+ years together (15+ married), i can't imagine anything changing that. . .if it ever blows up in my face, you guys can have a field day with me. . .until then, i'm right, you're wrong. . .period.
most of the time peopel are going to cheat out of either boredom or a need for validation - having lots of options all the way thorugh neatly takes care of both.
redsamurai
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GoldenDelicious said:
ahh yes, GD"s "High value" hypothesis redux..........
My views on this are simple........men and women will both cheat if they're not with their soulmates. People aren't honest with each other anymore so relationship issues fester and than their lives are so enmeshed it's not easy to disengange and so people think a little cheating "here and there" to get me by isn't so bad, right?? I"m glad it's more acceptable now to divorce. Used to be people, especially women, were so looked down upon for being divorced that they stuck it in a shit marriage. Those people were cheating dogs, bet your ass.
Me, I'd rather get a divorce or break up than cheat on someone.......empathy is a bitch that way.
And LMAO at musclemom........good god this woman rocks out.
digimon7068
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GoldenDelicious said:
that is the EXACT opposite of what you said originally which was. . .men are only as faithful as their options. . .or at least that's what i got from it. . .
GD speakum with forked tongue. . .
c-sharp minor
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Don't cheat and never have. I have a little more self respect than that.
GoldenDelicious
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no. i just added a temporal element.digimon7068 said:
Posts like this annoy the shit out of me, whether it's a man asking why women cheat or women asking why men cheat, they get under my fucking skin. It's about making generalizations, which is just sloppy thinking, and it shows a LACK of thought, because the problem isn't that complicated.
People cheat because one or more need is not being met in their current relationship but they aren't ready to discard some security they find in the relationship or face a fear about ending the relationship. Period. No other reason. You can bring up different scenarios, but strip it down to where the rubber hits the road and you're looking at SOMEONE needs SOMETHING that their S/O ain't giving them. The security or fear can range from fear of losing the partner's income to fear of losing access to the children or not wanting to pay child support.
People cheat because one or more need is not being met in their current relationship but they aren't ready to discard some security they find in the relationship or face a fear about ending the relationship. Period. No other reason. You can bring up different scenarios, but strip it down to where the rubber hits the road and you're looking at SOMEONE needs SOMETHING that their S/O ain't giving them. The security or fear can range from fear of losing the partner's income to fear of losing access to the children or not wanting to pay child support.
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