Men. any idea?

[heatherrae]

Could it be that your friend that sometimes does laundry at your house had someone else's panties in her laundry and didn't know it? maybe a daughter's friend stayed over and left them there. I wouldn't jump to any conclusions, yet.

 

[-SD-]

Were never going to know, husband has no idea how it happened and wife has panties that so far all evidence points to him cheating. Either she accepts his explanation (he doesnt know) or she tries to prove he cheated. If she tries to prove he cheated and she finds no more evidence is she going to all of a sudden decide all is well and good? Hell no she is still going to think he cheated. So basically no matter what happens she is going to think he cheated forever.

 

[heatherrae]

If someone is cheating, you will get plenty of little signs that they are cheating. I wouldn't automatically assume someone was cheating because of one thing like that. i would keep quiet and investigate on the down low.

 

[ceo]

Oh, that? I can come up with a scenario: Imagine his buddies at work know his wife is the jealous type. They bust into his locker at work and slip a pair of panties into a pocket. If it's not a pocket he keeps his wallet or keys in uses, he'd probably never notice them.

99% of the time the woman does the household laundry, and everyone usually checks pockets. Ha ha, big funny on MyWay's husband when she confronts him with the panties.

This is a very possible scenario. But, with him having had issues in the past about being caught secretly talking to exes, and doing god knows what kind of "suspicious activity" on the now smashed laptop...if he TRULY had no idea where these panties came from, he should be trying to solve the mystery and not let his wife suffer. He should be as calmly reassuring as possible to her.

"Honey, I have no idea where these came from. Let me see if any of the guys at work are trying to pull a stupid prank. I will tell them this has you really upset and you are thinking of leaving me. Let me get to the bottom of these panties (lol)."

Instead he just said, "I dunno" and went to sleep? With all that's happened in the past in their short lil marriage? Oh hellz no! If he loves her and wants her to not be concerned, he needs to be understanding of her concerns/needs. Regardless if she is overreacting about this or not. She seems to have some reason to react as this is not the first time that signs have pointed to him possibly being (or thinking of being) unfaithful.

 

[musclemom]

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Instead he just said, "I dunno" and went to sleep? With all that's happened in the past in their short lil marriage? Oh hellz no! If he loves her and wants her to not be concerned, he needs to be understanding of her concerns/needs. Regardless if she is overreacting about this or not. She seems to have some reason to react as this is not the first time that signs have pointed to him possibly being (or thinking of being) unfaithful.

Exactly my point. In particular, since she's is postpregnancy she needs a little extra compassion.

Some of the people who are pointing out that maybe he's nonchalant because he knows he didn't do anything wrong have sort of missed the point you're picking up very well. He's been caught if not with his hands in the cookie jar he at least was reaching for the lid.

 

[reno240]

Bino,

I know you think his nonchalance is a point in his favor...I see it as the opposite. As cindy said, it's a tool of manipulation. He has a history of lying to her about contact with women, and one of the consequences of that is that in the future the burden of proof is on him, not her. In his shoes, were I innocent, I would have moved heaven and earth to prove my innocence. Not gone to bed at 8 and said, "you should just trust me." If I were innocent, I would have been sick to my stomach at the thought of my spouse sitting up all night trying to "just trust me."

No, I would have been right there with her, staying up all night trying to come up with answers.

Could be that she pulls this shit all the time - so he is tired of fighting for trust.

 

[mountain muscle]

I think they should just be having a lot of make up sex...

With him wearing the panties.

 

[EnderJE]

I would like just ONE "logical" explanation as to how a stranger's intimate apparell could possibly end up in a family's wash.

I could care less if it were male/female. Just come up with ONE scenario that isn't completely "out there" and I would say that MABYE the dude isn't exercising extremely poor judgment during his extra curricular activities.

Easy. I've played a similiar joke on a friend of mine. Except she was a female, it was something else other then underwear, and the hubby was pissed because he thought it was a lezzie affair.

 

[EnderJE]

This is a very possible scenario. But, with him having had issues in the past about being caught secretly talking to exes, and doing god knows what kind of "suspicious activity" on the now smashed laptop...if he TRULY had no idea where these panties came from, he should be trying to solve the mystery and not let his wife suffer. He should be as calmly reassuring as possible to her.

"Honey, I have no idea where these came from. Let me see if any of the guys at work are trying to pull a stupid prank. I will tell them this has you really upset and you are thinking of leaving me. Let me get to the bottom of these panties (lol)."

Instead he just said, "I dunno" and went to sleep? With all that's happened in the past in their short lil marriage? Oh hellz no! If he loves her and wants her to not be concerned, he needs to be understanding of her concerns/needs. Regardless if she is overreacting about this or not. She seems to have some reason to react as this is not the first time that signs have pointed to him possibly being (or thinking of being) unfaithful.

Or he could say...my wife trusts me now because we've been through all this shit, I'm too mature to put up with my friend's joke like that, and she must see this is stupid...?

 

[EnderJE]

Could be that she pulls this shit all the time - so he is tired of fighting for trust.

That's why I feel sorry for the kid either way. It doesn't look good with WHATEVER happened.